I wonder why grown ups go and sit down waiting for somebody,may be even younger than you to come and tell you how and what to do in life. I can't understand. I will never marry a man who goes to church because to me he is not ... read full comment
I wonder why grown ups go and sit down waiting for somebody,may be even younger than you to come and tell you how and what to do in life. I can't understand. I will never marry a man who goes to church because to me he is not grown yet.A man must be a King of himself and the family so how should I marry a man who will take me and our kids to a church every Sunday to listen to preachings and pay money as well as correction as if we can not reason for ourselves. As for those councilling issue it is the same. If you are not mature don't get into a relationship. Period!
FRANK , MARYLAND 6 years ago
We'll said Mavis. If you're not king of your castle to bring in a queen n raise a family but rather choose to depend on these churches n their emotionally under-cooked and intellectually deficient counsellors then am afraid u ... read full comment
We'll said Mavis. If you're not king of your castle to bring in a queen n raise a family but rather choose to depend on these churches n their emotionally under-cooked and intellectually deficient counsellors then am afraid ure not ready to marry. These churches and their so called counsellors deliberately make you depend on them so they can manipulate and control you. Wise up guys...... This whole thing about counselling and church and all that is a huuuuuge con-game. Read, research and enlighten yourselves.
Sid usa 6 years ago
I agree with u 1000000000%Africans n Ghanaians have now turn to pastors to tall them when to eat ignorance of
I agree with u 1000000000%Africans n Ghanaians have now turn to pastors to tall them when to eat ignorance of
Kwaku Ananse 6 years ago
After reading his article, I wonder if this lawyer has diagnosed what makes the legal system in Ghana so corrupt that judges take goats and sheep to free criminals? What makes our lawyers and legal practitioners so morally ba ... read full comment
After reading his article, I wonder if this lawyer has diagnosed what makes the legal system in Ghana so corrupt that judges take goats and sheep to free criminals? What makes our lawyers and legal practitioners so morally bankrupt? I think the morally worse people in Ghana to point accusing fingers at societal ills are lawyers and those in ther legal profession. Please fix the legal system with your moral insights before trying to comment on an area you have absolutely no expertise or clue. In other places, that would amount to malpractice. Quack lawyer, please get a real life!!
The simple answer to your question is that our society has changed and strayed so much from our rich and meaningful traditions. Now, we have foolishness as culture. How many funeral ceremonies do we have for one dead person? How did the chiefs as custodians of the land now become the real owners of peoples' lands that they sell and pocket the money without compensation to the families?
This subject of marriage is too complex to give it such a simplistic treatment. Please be educated a little more before addressing a subject matter you are totally ignorant about.
Truth 6 years ago
No. You've missed the point. What you are asking has nothing to do with the facts or issues under discussion. The lawyer's point is right. Church counseling does not and has not guaranteed any marriage.
Please the church ... read full comment
No. You've missed the point. What you are asking has nothing to do with the facts or issues under discussion. The lawyer's point is right. Church counseling does not and has not guaranteed any marriage.
Please the church should know it's limit and mission. The church must concern herself with matters of salvation. You may argue that marriage is equally a matter of salvation and you're right but it is not the core business of the church
Pastors in their efforts at retaining their clients ( members) have tried to tie every thing to the church. If you don't marry in the church then it is not recognized! A blatant lie meant to put fear in the youth.
Where in the Bible can they point to as a marriage in a church ? The marriage certificates that are signed in the church are a franchised thing.
The church applied to the State to be allowed to do the work that the State does that of registering marriages in law. It is a franchised act.
We must stop deceiving the public. Because it makes the church relevant we are trying all means to get the young people to believe that unless they attend counseling and marry in the church they are not married or are not recognized. No this holy deception and syndicated thievery must stop.
lone prophet of Jehovah 6 years ago
Church Counselling doesn't guarantee any marriages with or without divorce ! But reading the bible to understand the meaning of marrying in the lord ( Genesis 24 ) will guide you into marriage and (1 Corinthians 7 ) is the bi ... read full comment
Church Counselling doesn't guarantee any marriages with or without divorce ! But reading the bible to understand the meaning of marrying in the lord ( Genesis 24 ) will guide you into marriage and (1 Corinthians 7 ) is the bible base in marriages shalom peace
CAPTAIN 6 years ago
i enjoy these commments ooo, mr. lawyer take five! u r 100% right! after adam and eve who counseled the rest to able to maintained their marriages and gave birth to us now?? i like you statement marriage is not arithmetic wit ... read full comment
i enjoy these commments ooo, mr. lawyer take five! u r 100% right! after adam and eve who counseled the rest to able to maintained their marriages and gave birth to us now?? i like you statement marriage is not arithmetic with final static solutions. you can only teach what u know for sure!
Andrew A 6 years ago
Whaoo! Maxis church is not about the pastor telling you what to do, these days we have lots of fake pastors, but a real pastor brings us the mind of God to help us shape our lifes, that is the way you think about church then ... read full comment
Whaoo! Maxis church is not about the pastor telling you what to do, these days we have lots of fake pastors, but a real pastor brings us the mind of God to help us shape our lifes, that is the way you think about church then God help you.
CHARCOAL SELLER. 6 years ago
Mavis, please, I want to marry you right now.
Mavis, please, I want to marry you right now.
KOO 6 years ago
Please it is called "COLLECTIONS" or offerings NOT "Corrections" just to let you know. Your "R" and "L" is your " plobrem" ahahahha
Please it is called "COLLECTIONS" or offerings NOT "Corrections" just to let you know. Your "R" and "L" is your " plobrem" ahahahha
Agbedefu 6 years ago
You have made a great point. I don’t see how another person can tell 2 committed people what to do to get things going. It is bunkers!!!
You have made a great point. I don’t see how another person can tell 2 committed people what to do to get things going. It is bunkers!!!
D. Adjei 6 years ago
I am delighted with these comments. This is the first time I have read comments on Ghanaweb that does not include insults against a tribe (ashanti, ewe, northerners) or political party or politicians (NDC, NPP). It shows that ... read full comment
I am delighted with these comments. This is the first time I have read comments on Ghanaweb that does not include insults against a tribe (ashanti, ewe, northerners) or political party or politicians (NDC, NPP). It shows that Ghanaians can tackle issues without resorting to insults. Well done, commentators for sticking to the topic itself. There is hope.......
WEWURA 6 years ago
I respect your position, but I am a little bit confused when you stated "..grown ups go and sit down waiting for somebody, may be even younger than you to come and tell you how and what to do in life." Is that what you think ... read full comment
I respect your position, but I am a little bit confused when you stated "..grown ups go and sit down waiting for somebody, may be even younger than you to come and tell you how and what to do in life." Is that what you think counselors do? If yes, I beg to differ. Counselors don't tell people what to do in life. I somewhat disappointed that a lawyer of good standing concluded that marriage leads to divorce rate in Ghana. I not sure where the lawyer was raise. Ghanaians, I mean real Ghanaians know that prior to the church counseling and other professional counseling services, there was some form of counseling in Ghana and that helped stabilize marriage. I know a lot of marriages that were saved by this form of counseling. Age is only a number. I must confess that there are instances when my 11 year old daughter provided the best and realistic suggestion to dealing with a problem at hand. apples we are told don't fall far from their tree. I guess your mother have this perfect or real man .....
jim 6 years ago
If you have people like lutoroute, or what ever he calls himself has counsellors,what did you expect?
If you have people like lutoroute, or what ever he calls himself has counsellors,what did you expect?
ndc organizer 6 years ago
this is all the fault of nana addo. he always causes confusion in family
this is all the fault of nana addo. he always causes confusion in family
judochrislam 6 years ago
I think we have thrown away our human values as enshrined in our traditions and cultures. Modern Churches do not know how to marry Christianity to our traditional values. And as a matter of Fact we Africans are as confuse ... read full comment
I think we have thrown away our human values as enshrined in our traditions and cultures. Modern Churches do not know how to marry Christianity to our traditional values. And as a matter of Fact we Africans are as confused as ever before.
We don't know even know the role of men and women in family. People are so confused that they don't even know who they ar.
In the olden days if a man found his wife not up to his march he married another or just divorced her. This was a family affair.
How on earth should somebody who is not related to my daughter ever bless the marriage of my daughter? It is the father and mother who has to bless the daughter at marriage.
Wake up People
PY 6 years ago
Yes and it was dominated by misogynists!!! Women always lost out. Olden days were not always better!
Yes and it was dominated by misogynists!!! Women always lost out. Olden days were not always better!
Kobb 6 years ago
What an intelligent lady, just like my wife.
What an intelligent lady, just like my wife.
GLORY 6 years ago
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Nii 6 years ago
What has age got to do with wisdom? Being older isn't a guarantee you are wiser! Lots of old fools around! Just look at our country!
What has age got to do with wisdom? Being older isn't a guarantee you are wiser! Lots of old fools around! Just look at our country!
Géo 6 years ago
Mavis you are a genius. If two people do not know why they are getting married, then they must forget it
Mavis you are a genius. If two people do not know why they are getting married, then they must forget it
no man 6 years ago
I agree with u 100%.the country needs people like you! Gone were the days we didnt have this counselling thing,most marriages were flourishing...what rocks someone's boat will sink another person's boat
I agree with u 100%.the country needs people like you! Gone were the days we didnt have this counselling thing,most marriages were flourishing...what rocks someone's boat will sink another person's boat
nana@ 6 years ago
Its true counselors expose people to the challenges of marriage. Well said but the areas mentioned communication, finance and sex are known to them already.
Does it really work? Churches now a days overplayed it. Marriage ... read full comment
Its true counselors expose people to the challenges of marriage. Well said but the areas mentioned communication, finance and sex are known to them already.
Does it really work? Churches now a days overplayed it. Marriage has become for the church not families?
Kokroko Kwasi kokuro 6 years ago
There are 48 types of marriages in Ghana. I am a Ghanaian Christian and our standard and directions from the Bible got nothing to do with our customs. The main problem is, we marry as Christians and practice customs. It depen ... read full comment
There are 48 types of marriages in Ghana. I am a Ghanaian Christian and our standard and directions from the Bible got nothing to do with our customs. The main problem is, we marry as Christians and practice customs. It depends where you come from in Ghana. Example, it is a crime for Northern man cooks for his wife. I called these mental strong holds. An Asante lady knew nothing about respecting a man. You only get respect from an Asante lady if you have money. Solution which works universally is, women respect and humble yourselves towards your husbands so that your husbands can love you. This is what our Bible basic principles talk about marriage. Not sex, money, beauty, and etc.
Thank you.
FRANK , MARYLAND 6 years ago
Women want security, n men want respect. Let her feel secure n she'll make u feel like a king. It's that simple. How many of our half baked counsellors tell this to their clients? Instead they'll bombard u with a non-existent ... read full comment
Women want security, n men want respect. Let her feel secure n she'll make u feel like a king. It's that simple. How many of our half baked counsellors tell this to their clients? Instead they'll bombard u with a non-existent devil, a Frankenstein monster that they've created in their minds that will destroy your marriage is you don't regularly come to church! In addition, sex, communication and money, in abundant quantities will make a marriage flourish. Work on those.
Kofimensah 6 years ago
Perhaps the divorcees this lawyer is talking about are those who have been counseled by this weird rascal called Rev. Counselor Lutterod.
Perhaps the divorcees this lawyer is talking about are those who have been counseled by this weird rascal called Rev. Counselor Lutterod.
John 6 years ago
I totally disagree with the lawyer. Counseling is different from teaching. Counseling proposes means of relationship that could be considered. We need not make emphatic proposition when we have not fully reaserach a subject. ... read full comment
I totally disagree with the lawyer. Counseling is different from teaching. Counseling proposes means of relationship that could be considered. We need not make emphatic proposition when we have not fully reaserach a subject. It does not do good to anybody.
Kwesi 6 years ago
Let us not forget that the world is becoming more sophisticated than before. Let us not lose the fact that in those days dissolution of most marriages took place in the traditional setting but not in the courts. Furthermore, ... read full comment
Let us not forget that the world is becoming more sophisticated than before. Let us not lose the fact that in those days dissolution of most marriages took place in the traditional setting but not in the courts. Furthermore, genuine counseling is not telling people what to do but rather raising pertinent issues for discussion.
Sid usa 6 years ago
These so call man of God don't anything on their mind .they only know how to con you to pay or sow a seed for things to happen these pastors while counseling is inviting the woman for all nite prayers that is really happening ... read full comment
These so call man of God don't anything on their mind .they only know how to con you to pay or sow a seed for things to happen these pastors while counseling is inviting the woman for all nite prayers that is really happening we putting too much trust n hope in these pastors
3dem 6 years ago
What do you expect when counselors tell men they are the kings and that their wives are there to wait on them hand and foot. No one is innately a slave and will definitely not allow herself to be treated like a slave. It's mu ... read full comment
What do you expect when counselors tell men they are the kings and that their wives are there to wait on them hand and foot. No one is innately a slave and will definitely not allow herself to be treated like a slave. It's mutual respect for all. Splitting the work load between couples to make life easier for all involved.
Ama 6 years ago
Thank you. The men want to dominate, oppress and philander left right centre. It ain't happening.
Thank you. The men want to dominate, oppress and philander left right centre. It ain't happening.
AGBESI KWESI 6 years ago
Former President, Olusegun Obasanjo, has said that church leaders are part of the people encouraging corruption in Nigeria.
Obasanjo stated this on Saturday, while speaking at the convention of Victory Life Bible Church Inte ... read full comment
Former President, Olusegun Obasanjo, has said that church leaders are part of the people encouraging corruption in Nigeria.
Obasanjo stated this on Saturday, while speaking at the convention of Victory Life Bible Church International in Abeokuta, Ogun State.
He was represented at the event by Femi Olajide, who is the chapel of Olusegun Obasanjo Presidential Library’s Christ the Glorious King Church.
“There is no doubt that all our institutions have been tarnished by the brush of corruption.
“If the Church, as an institution, does not take bribe or get involved in other corrupt practice, the behaviour of some of our men of God leaves much to be desired.
“They not only celebrate but venerate those whose sources of wealth are questionable. They accept gifts (offering) from just anybody without asking questions. This gives the impression that anything is acceptable in the house of God.
“But if Jesus can chase out those buying and selling from the temple with the declaration that, ‘My house shall be called the house of prayer, but ye have made it a den of thieves,’ then it is time to stand up against corruption,” Obasanjo said.
He also urged churches to preach prosperity messages with caution and moderation.
“Our present day ‘money changers’ and ‘merchants’ must be chased out of the Church and put to shame in the larger society.
“While miracles, signs and wonders are the expectations of true believers, such must be based on righteousness. To preach that one can acquire wealth without labour is not only deceitful; it is a call to corruption. It is false preaching and it is sinful.
“We must be careful in believing and celebrating every testimony of miraculous blessing, hence we end up being hoodwinked into celebrating corruption,” Obasanjo added.
Ama 6 years ago
He is so corrupt so please spare us what he said!
He is so corrupt so please spare us what he said!
Edem Patrick 6 years ago
I completely disagree with you sir, civilization is the major key to divorce. Today all of us talk about our right. The way your mother submit to your father is far different from our generation. Some of the wives are richer ... read full comment
I completely disagree with you sir, civilization is the major key to divorce. Today all of us talk about our right. The way your mother submit to your father is far different from our generation. Some of the wives are richer, highly educated from good home than their partners. In this case it takes the fear of God for the wife to submit to her husband which most good pastors are trying to impact into our sister. We men too have our problems.......
Nii 6 years ago
Men should sort their problems out because they are too many! The women are fed up!
Men should sort their problems out because they are too many! The women are fed up!
nany 6 years ago
I agreed with the lawyer 100%. I said this over and over. The churches will not agree.
I agreed with the lawyer 100%. I said this over and over. The churches will not agree.
Dorothy 6 years ago
Counseling is one of my great fields of expertise. What we tell Counselors is that it is better you don't do the counseling than doing something that will aggravate the negative response. It is perfectly true. Now one wonders ... read full comment
Counseling is one of my great fields of expertise. What we tell Counselors is that it is better you don't do the counseling than doing something that will aggravate the negative response. It is perfectly true. Now one wonders what is the level of expertise of these pastoral counselors in then name of the lord. Being a bishop, apostle or prophet does not make you a counselor? Neither being a wife to these does not make you a counselor. We must respect knowledge regardless of our beliefs. There is only one truth, you either believe it or pretend in ignorance or emotions and run into trouble. Who counseled our grand fathers and fathers on marriage and they had permanent relations? Why are ours breaking down after couselling? If osofo mame cousels you about her stable marriage for example, do you know how much the husband pumps into the ouse to make the house comfortable? I believe in God but we should also remember that God gave us brains to use for knowledge. We should start questioning some of these issues, thinking the self proclaimed bishop is God himself and stop reasoning. Perishing is a choice, Ignorance is a choice, foolishness is a choice, so any one can choose whatever but there is a prioce to pay
John 6 years ago
This idea by the lawyer is childish. If somebody says because we now have more lawyers today than in past for divorces and that is the problem of more divorces,will the lawyer agree. This lawyer should stop exposing and misin ... read full comment
This idea by the lawyer is childish. If somebody says because we now have more lawyers today than in past for divorces and that is the problem of more divorces,will the lawyer agree. This lawyer should stop exposing and misinforming his ignorant to the public. The unfortunate thing is that the public is swallowing this falsehood without thinking through.
Abeeku 6 years ago
A very sensible lawyer. It is not about making money from the situation but wanting solutions as causes have been identified.
I agree with him. The church is doing more harm than good in marriages lately.
Going behind p ... read full comment
A very sensible lawyer. It is not about making money from the situation but wanting solutions as causes have been identified.
I agree with him. The church is doing more harm than good in marriages lately.
Going behind parents who do not agree their children marry someone they don't like for some reason only for the marriage to break up within a short time.
Either way they make money form the situation as well. Some of these pastors keep having sex with them even whilst they are married.
Earl Jones 6 years ago
Perhaps the churches have to consider how they administer counselling to a couple.
Some of these churches exploit the newly wed and almost owning the relationship between the married couple.
There is no formula for marriag ... read full comment
Perhaps the churches have to consider how they administer counselling to a couple.
Some of these churches exploit the newly wed and almost owning the relationship between the married couple.
There is no formula for marriage. The two must make it work worts and all. There is a tendency to want to consummate a marriage according prescribed rules of the church. IT DOES NOT WORK.
sometimes, leaving the church is required to keep a marriage. The lawyer is absolutely right.
Ernest 6 years ago
oh lawyer, you know what is in my head. Why customary marriage sustain better than the so called wedding doesn't? The whole point is they discuss unnecessary things during counselling. Marriage is complicated thing in life an ... read full comment
oh lawyer, you know what is in my head. Why customary marriage sustain better than the so called wedding doesn't? The whole point is they discuss unnecessary things during counselling. Marriage is complicated thing in life and church ignored social aspect in life. They don't even test the common sense of the couples and how they approach problems. The churches counselling is completely waste of time and very dangerous. The only thing the churches care is register the marriage that's it.
Aba 6 years ago
Customary marriage allows men to marry one than one woman. Sorry most women DO NOT want this! So Ghanaians are not Christians????
Customary marriage allows men to marry one than one woman. Sorry most women DO NOT want this! So Ghanaians are not Christians????
John 6 years ago
I think this counselling business is useless and a money making venture. I dislike it. Again the irrelevance of the church is coming out. Just a feel good thing!
I think this counselling business is useless and a money making venture. I dislike it. Again the irrelevance of the church is coming out. Just a feel good thing!
Robert 6 years ago
You are right lawyer. This so called counselors are the problem. It's foolishness to equate men to women. Advising women to walk away from marriage because the man goes out of his way sometimes is crazy. Men do not have same ... read full comment
You are right lawyer. This so called counselors are the problem. It's foolishness to equate men to women. Advising women to walk away from marriage because the man goes out of his way sometimes is crazy. Men do not have same sex controls like females. Polygamy had never been a Sin in the bible.
D. Adjei 6 years ago
I am delighted with these comments. This is the first time I have read comments on Ghanaweb that does not include insults against a tribe (ashanti, ewe, northerners) or political party or politicians (NDC, NPP). It shows tha ... read full comment
I am delighted with these comments. This is the first time I have read comments on Ghanaweb that does not include insults against a tribe (ashanti, ewe, northerners) or political party or politicians (NDC, NPP). It shows that Ghanaians can tackle issues without resorting to insults. Well done, commentators for sticking to the topic itself. There is hope.......
kofi 6 years ago
God bless you Pastor have taken place of parents what is church business with marriage
God bless you Pastor have taken place of parents what is church business with marriage
Godsway Afeawo 6 years ago
Marriage counseling had equally produced innumerable successful marriages that the court knows nothing about. I think it should rather be intensified.
Marriage counseling had equally produced innumerable successful marriages that the court knows nothing about. I think it should rather be intensified.
Abus 6 years ago
Exactly. There is a lot of wrong teachings but there. Who in this world doesn't want respect?. "Mutual" is the word. Do unto others what you want others to do unto you. Simple.
Exactly. There is a lot of wrong teachings but there. Who in this world doesn't want respect?. "Mutual" is the word. Do unto others what you want others to do unto you. Simple.
Simple 6 years ago
Its not the counselling that is causing the high divorce rate. It is irresponsibility and knowledge of spousal rights
Its not the counselling that is causing the high divorce rate. It is irresponsibility and knowledge of spousal rights
Abus 6 years ago
if you have a problem in marriage then seek professional counselling. I personally don't see the point of counselling before marriage. I love going to church but I don't agree with that part.
if you have a problem in marriage then seek professional counselling. I personally don't see the point of counselling before marriage. I love going to church but I don't agree with that part.
Wrecks 6 years ago
Basically these Counsellors set baseless, inane and unrealistic expectations and the gullible swallow...
Basically these Counsellors set baseless, inane and unrealistic expectations and the gullible swallow...
Zebila donkey Rider 6 years ago
The Lawyer is right and I agree with him.An Archbishop who counsel couples before marriage divorce his wife and told his congregation that everybody should work out his or her own salvation. Parents should be the best counsel ... read full comment
The Lawyer is right and I agree with him.An Archbishop who counsel couples before marriage divorce his wife and told his congregation that everybody should work out his or her own salvation. Parents should be the best counsellors in marriage if there should be any.
Gbawou Clataylee Kowou IV 6 years ago
To be very honest with you, the church's involvement in marriages has complicated the very purpose of marriage. This is not unique to Ghana. We have a similar crisis here in Liberia. I'm beginning to suspect that most "pastor ... read full comment
To be very honest with you, the church's involvement in marriages has complicated the very purpose of marriage. This is not unique to Ghana. We have a similar crisis here in Liberia. I'm beginning to suspect that most "pastors" and "churches" don't know the difference between a wedding and a marriage. I just don't know what anyone can do now to stop those pastors from behaving like they know everything about life. For me, I don't care how much "fire" is released, once the couple can't agree, it won't work.... simple.
Kofi Sammy 6 years ago
Marriage Counselling has helped many families for many centuries all over the world. I have been married for 33 years, and marriage counseling has played a major role for me and my wife. Marriage counseling is still relevant ... read full comment
Marriage Counselling has helped many families for many centuries all over the world. I have been married for 33 years, and marriage counseling has played a major role for me and my wife. Marriage counseling is still relevant and helpful.
Azarias 6 years ago
Please, let us crosscheck the subject matter or content of those counselling programs. What models do they have. Often, they are European or western models. Ghanaian and for that matter, African marriage models are different.
Please, let us crosscheck the subject matter or content of those counselling programs. What models do they have. Often, they are European or western models. Ghanaian and for that matter, African marriage models are different.
Baby 6 years ago
No bad behaviour by men over the years has contributed to this. Women thank Hod can earn money so don't need to put up with an ugly fat short old philanderer!!!
No bad behaviour by men over the years has contributed to this. Women thank Hod can earn money so don't need to put up with an ugly fat short old philanderer!!!
ANTWI O' BREFO 6 years ago
This Lawyer is RIGHT ; the concept of marriage counselling is a complete FRAUD !!!!!; and an opportunity to take control of peoples lifes ; how can you tell somebody how to live their family lifes ; what puzzles everybody is ... read full comment
This Lawyer is RIGHT ; the concept of marriage counselling is a complete FRAUD !!!!!; and an opportunity to take control of peoples lifes ; how can you tell somebody how to live their family lifes ; what puzzles everybody is that ; why has marriage divorces risen som much when christian pastors and counsellors to have risen in numbers with the aim that it wiould be better but rather there is so much explosion in marriages ; is the stress of todays fast living which demands so much from couples or is it the case that the charlatan pastors like Duncan -Williams paint a glossy picture on marriage which is not the case at all ; to me why should people rus into marriage because they are young ; marriage is a difficult and complex association besides why should couples go before a pastor to be told how to live their lives when the pastor is with sin himself .
KWABENA 6 years ago
Please I hope our SS Journalist are reporting the Lawyer if yes then the analysis of the lawyer is garbage and has no substance.
Please I hope our SS Journalist are reporting the Lawyer if yes then the analysis of the lawyer is garbage and has no substance.
Right 6 years ago
That's correct
That's correct
They cheat a lot too 6 years ago
Ghana women these days wants material things than marriage itself and most people just don't understand the term marriages anymore. People go in with wrong expectations. Do marriage is nothing in Gh these days. The parents o ... read full comment
Ghana women these days wants material things than marriage itself and most people just don't understand the term marriages anymore. People go in with wrong expectations. Do marriage is nothing in Gh these days. The parents of both parties put a lot of pressure on the marriage as most parents from the women side expect their daughters to loot the husband wealth and bring it to them instead of them encouraging the marriage. A lot of the women are witches too you see and they bring their witches activities into the marriage and they become stubborn and controlling as that will put pressure on the marriage. So marriages are breaking down and hence divorce due to these attributes.
Peabody 6 years ago
The men misbehaved first and the women are now saying what's good for the gander is good for the goose abi?
The men misbehaved first and the women are now saying what's good for the gander is good for the goose abi?
justice 6 years ago
How many months did God counsel Adam n Eve before pronouncing them Husband and wife? The church has taken over every sphere of our lives n leading us captives. We don't have our freedom again. The lawyer is right. We don't go ... read full comment
How many months did God counsel Adam n Eve before pronouncing them Husband and wife? The church has taken over every sphere of our lives n leading us captives. We don't have our freedom again. The lawyer is right. We don't go thru counseling before making friends. We learn from each other in the friendship n we get along.
KLIMAJA 6 years ago
FOOLISH ARGUMENT: FROM THE SIXTIES, THERE HAVE BEEN AN INCREASE IN THE NUMBER OF TV SETS. ALSO, THERE HAVE BEEN AN INCREASE IN HIGHWAY ROBBERY IN THE SAME PERIOD OF TIME. THEREFORE, TV SETS CAUSE ARMED ROBBERY!!!
FOOLISH ARGUMENT: FROM THE SIXTIES, THERE HAVE BEEN AN INCREASE IN THE NUMBER OF TV SETS. ALSO, THERE HAVE BEEN AN INCREASE IN HIGHWAY ROBBERY IN THE SAME PERIOD OF TIME. THEREFORE, TV SETS CAUSE ARMED ROBBERY!!!
ananse 6 years ago
Aaaaaaa u hv made me day. Stupid counsel frm stupid counsellors
Aaaaaaa u hv made me day. Stupid counsel frm stupid counsellors
Auntie Y 6 years ago
I personally think there sh be after marriage counseling or follow up on young married people for anout a year or two,n shorting the before counseling to a month
I personally think there sh be after marriage counseling or follow up on young married people for anout a year or two,n shorting the before counseling to a month
C. B. 6 years ago
The lawyer must understanding that, the fact that many people are reading law does not mean they are the cause of crime.
He should also not forget that many people are now educated to read and understand than those days.
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The lawyer must understanding that, the fact that many people are reading law does not mean they are the cause of crime.
He should also not forget that many people are now educated to read and understand than those days.
How many medicines were in the system years back? Can we say manufactures of drugs have brought more sickness to the world?
The same thing applies to these counsellors, they are only trying to curve the prevailing problem.
People are now living by their right which used not to be so.
Borrowing of foreign culture is one of the contributing factors.
The lawyer should go and do proper research to the issue which will help him and not blame it on counsellors.
It is just like saying that, because we have many schools around that is why people are dropping from school.
I wonder why grown ups go and sit down waiting for somebody,may be even younger than you to come and tell you how and what to do in life. I can't understand. I will never marry a man who goes to church because to me he is not ...
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We'll said Mavis. If you're not king of your castle to bring in a queen n raise a family but rather choose to depend on these churches n their emotionally under-cooked and intellectually deficient counsellors then am afraid u ...
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I agree with u 1000000000%Africans n Ghanaians have now turn to pastors to tall them when to eat ignorance of
After reading his article, I wonder if this lawyer has diagnosed what makes the legal system in Ghana so corrupt that judges take goats and sheep to free criminals? What makes our lawyers and legal practitioners so morally ba ...
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No. You've missed the point. What you are asking has nothing to do with the facts or issues under discussion. The lawyer's point is right. Church counseling does not and has not guaranteed any marriage.
Please the church ...
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Church Counselling doesn't guarantee any marriages with or without divorce ! But reading the bible to understand the meaning of marrying in the lord ( Genesis 24 ) will guide you into marriage and (1 Corinthians 7 ) is the bi ...
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i enjoy these commments ooo, mr. lawyer take five! u r 100% right! after adam and eve who counseled the rest to able to maintained their marriages and gave birth to us now?? i like you statement marriage is not arithmetic wit ...
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Whaoo! Maxis church is not about the pastor telling you what to do, these days we have lots of fake pastors, but a real pastor brings us the mind of God to help us shape our lifes, that is the way you think about church then ...
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Mavis, please, I want to marry you right now.
Please it is called "COLLECTIONS" or offerings NOT "Corrections" just to let you know. Your "R" and "L" is your " plobrem" ahahahha
You have made a great point. I don’t see how another person can tell 2 committed people what to do to get things going. It is bunkers!!!
I am delighted with these comments. This is the first time I have read comments on Ghanaweb that does not include insults against a tribe (ashanti, ewe, northerners) or political party or politicians (NDC, NPP). It shows that ...
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I respect your position, but I am a little bit confused when you stated "..grown ups go and sit down waiting for somebody, may be even younger than you to come and tell you how and what to do in life." Is that what you think ...
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If you have people like lutoroute, or what ever he calls himself has counsellors,what did you expect?
this is all the fault of nana addo. he always causes confusion in family
I think we have thrown away our human values as enshrined in our traditions and cultures. Modern Churches do not know how to marry Christianity to our traditional values. And as a matter of Fact we Africans are as confuse ...
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Yes and it was dominated by misogynists!!! Women always lost out. Olden days were not always better!
What an intelligent lady, just like my wife.
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What has age got to do with wisdom? Being older isn't a guarantee you are wiser! Lots of old fools around! Just look at our country!
Mavis you are a genius. If two people do not know why they are getting married, then they must forget it
I agree with u 100%.the country needs people like you! Gone were the days we didnt have this counselling thing,most marriages were flourishing...what rocks someone's boat will sink another person's boat
Its true counselors expose people to the challenges of marriage. Well said but the areas mentioned communication, finance and sex are known to them already.
Does it really work? Churches now a days overplayed it. Marriage ...
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There are 48 types of marriages in Ghana. I am a Ghanaian Christian and our standard and directions from the Bible got nothing to do with our customs. The main problem is, we marry as Christians and practice customs. It depen ...
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Women want security, n men want respect. Let her feel secure n she'll make u feel like a king. It's that simple. How many of our half baked counsellors tell this to their clients? Instead they'll bombard u with a non-existent ...
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Perhaps the divorcees this lawyer is talking about are those who have been counseled by this weird rascal called Rev. Counselor Lutterod.
I totally disagree with the lawyer. Counseling is different from teaching. Counseling proposes means of relationship that could be considered. We need not make emphatic proposition when we have not fully reaserach a subject. ...
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Let us not forget that the world is becoming more sophisticated than before. Let us not lose the fact that in those days dissolution of most marriages took place in the traditional setting but not in the courts. Furthermore, ...
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These so call man of God don't anything on their mind .they only know how to con you to pay or sow a seed for things to happen these pastors while counseling is inviting the woman for all nite prayers that is really happening ...
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What do you expect when counselors tell men they are the kings and that their wives are there to wait on them hand and foot. No one is innately a slave and will definitely not allow herself to be treated like a slave. It's mu ...
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Thank you. The men want to dominate, oppress and philander left right centre. It ain't happening.
Former President, Olusegun Obasanjo, has said that church leaders are part of the people encouraging corruption in Nigeria.
Obasanjo stated this on Saturday, while speaking at the convention of Victory Life Bible Church Inte ...
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He is so corrupt so please spare us what he said!
I completely disagree with you sir, civilization is the major key to divorce. Today all of us talk about our right. The way your mother submit to your father is far different from our generation. Some of the wives are richer ...
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Men should sort their problems out because they are too many! The women are fed up!
I agreed with the lawyer 100%. I said this over and over. The churches will not agree.
Counseling is one of my great fields of expertise. What we tell Counselors is that it is better you don't do the counseling than doing something that will aggravate the negative response. It is perfectly true. Now one wonders ...
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This idea by the lawyer is childish. If somebody says because we now have more lawyers today than in past for divorces and that is the problem of more divorces,will the lawyer agree. This lawyer should stop exposing and misin ...
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A very sensible lawyer. It is not about making money from the situation but wanting solutions as causes have been identified.
I agree with him. The church is doing more harm than good in marriages lately.
Going behind p ...
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Perhaps the churches have to consider how they administer counselling to a couple.
Some of these churches exploit the newly wed and almost owning the relationship between the married couple.
There is no formula for marriag ...
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oh lawyer, you know what is in my head. Why customary marriage sustain better than the so called wedding doesn't? The whole point is they discuss unnecessary things during counselling. Marriage is complicated thing in life an ...
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Customary marriage allows men to marry one than one woman. Sorry most women DO NOT want this! So Ghanaians are not Christians????
I think this counselling business is useless and a money making venture. I dislike it. Again the irrelevance of the church is coming out. Just a feel good thing!
You are right lawyer. This so called counselors are the problem. It's foolishness to equate men to women. Advising women to walk away from marriage because the man goes out of his way sometimes is crazy. Men do not have same ...
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God bless you Pastor have taken place of parents what is church business with marriage
Marriage counseling had equally produced innumerable successful marriages that the court knows nothing about. I think it should rather be intensified.
Exactly. There is a lot of wrong teachings but there. Who in this world doesn't want respect?. "Mutual" is the word. Do unto others what you want others to do unto you. Simple.
Its not the counselling that is causing the high divorce rate. It is irresponsibility and knowledge of spousal rights
if you have a problem in marriage then seek professional counselling. I personally don't see the point of counselling before marriage. I love going to church but I don't agree with that part.
Basically these Counsellors set baseless, inane and unrealistic expectations and the gullible swallow...
The Lawyer is right and I agree with him.An Archbishop who counsel couples before marriage divorce his wife and told his congregation that everybody should work out his or her own salvation. Parents should be the best counsel ...
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To be very honest with you, the church's involvement in marriages has complicated the very purpose of marriage. This is not unique to Ghana. We have a similar crisis here in Liberia. I'm beginning to suspect that most "pastor ...
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Marriage Counselling has helped many families for many centuries all over the world. I have been married for 33 years, and marriage counseling has played a major role for me and my wife. Marriage counseling is still relevant ...
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Please, let us crosscheck the subject matter or content of those counselling programs. What models do they have. Often, they are European or western models. Ghanaian and for that matter, African marriage models are different.
No bad behaviour by men over the years has contributed to this. Women thank Hod can earn money so don't need to put up with an ugly fat short old philanderer!!!
This Lawyer is RIGHT ; the concept of marriage counselling is a complete FRAUD !!!!!; and an opportunity to take control of peoples lifes ; how can you tell somebody how to live their family lifes ; what puzzles everybody is ...
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Please I hope our SS Journalist are reporting the Lawyer if yes then the analysis of the lawyer is garbage and has no substance.
That's correct
Ghana women these days wants material things than marriage itself and most people just don't understand the term marriages anymore. People go in with wrong expectations. Do marriage is nothing in Gh these days. The parents o ...
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The men misbehaved first and the women are now saying what's good for the gander is good for the goose abi?
How many months did God counsel Adam n Eve before pronouncing them Husband and wife? The church has taken over every sphere of our lives n leading us captives. We don't have our freedom again. The lawyer is right. We don't go ...
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FOOLISH ARGUMENT: FROM THE SIXTIES, THERE HAVE BEEN AN INCREASE IN THE NUMBER OF TV SETS. ALSO, THERE HAVE BEEN AN INCREASE IN HIGHWAY ROBBERY IN THE SAME PERIOD OF TIME. THEREFORE, TV SETS CAUSE ARMED ROBBERY!!!
Aaaaaaa u hv made me day. Stupid counsel frm stupid counsellors
I personally think there sh be after marriage counseling or follow up on young married people for anout a year or two,n shorting the before counseling to a month
The lawyer must understanding that, the fact that many people are reading law does not mean they are the cause of crime.
He should also not forget that many people are now educated to read and understand than those days.
...
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