LifeStyle of 2026-09-17
Dear GhanaWeb: My boyfriend is threatening to kill me after my married lover arrested him
Dear GhanaWeb,
I am a 24-year-old lady caught between two men, and I honestly don't know how to get myself out of this situation.
I live in a three-bedroom apartment that was rented for me by an older married man I have been dating since early last year.
He is 56 and has children, but because his family is not always around, he spends time with me. He met me at my former workplace and eventually asked me to resign, promising to take care of me. He has been very supportive, so I agreed to date him.
The problem is that I already had a boyfriend, and I never actually left him. I told my boyfriend about the older man, and surprisingly, he asked me to play along because of what the man was offering.
That is how I ended up living in the apartment the man rented for me and relying on him financially. My boyfriend comes around whenever the man is away, and sometimes he even sleeps over. On a few occasions, he has been in another room when the man came to visit without knowing what was happening.
My boyfriend has always struggled with the fact that I am intimate with the older man. However, he knew from the beginning that this was part of the arrangement because the man expected intimacy in return for the support he was giving me.
We somehow managed the situation until about three weeks ago when my boyfriend and I had a serious argument.
He told me he no longer wanted me to be intimate with the older man and said he was becoming unhappy about sharing me with him. I told him I could not simply refuse the man because he is the one paying my rent, supporting me financially and providing things that my boyfriend cannot afford.
The truth is, I have also developed feelings for the older man, and I enjoy being with him.
That confession made my boyfriend extremely angry. He started hitting me during the argument, and I became frightened. I called the older man, and he came with the police and had my boyfriend arrested.
After about a week, I felt guilty and begged the older man to help get him released. He agreed, and my boyfriend was released. But instead of things getting better, my boyfriend has now started threatening me. He has been telling me that he will kill me, and I am genuinely scared for my life.
The difficult part is that I don't want to tell the older man because I know what he will do. He could involve the police again, and I don't want my boyfriend to be arrested for a second time.
Despite everything that has happened between us, I still love him, and I don't want to see him in prison.
What do I do when the man I love is the same person I am now afraid might kill me? How do I go about this?
FG/EB
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