Self love isn’t easy

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Wed, 20 May 2020 Source: Dr. Annie Gaisie

As they say, you are your own biggest critic.

We live in a society obsessed with marriage. We can try to be in denial, but the sheer amount of pressure both direct and indirectly imposed on us as we turn a particular age pushes us to believe that marriage is what will complete us.

We’re raised to admire marriage, to aspire to get married. This added societal expectations affects how we define beauty.

Who is a beautiful person?

In modern times some people still define beauty by physical appearance.

As a result, we inherently associate our perceptions of attractiveness with outer looks. Some individuals believe they are not meeting anyone or getting married because they do not possess “society’s “ expectation of a marriage “material” or they may have higher expectations from their choice for a spouse.

If we’re to truly love ourselves, we mustn’t allow the way we look to define our personal value. It can’t be our sole reason for love, sex, or relationships. It can’t be what dictates our worthiness of joy or family or a promotion at work.

The people who know and love us the most really couldn’t care less about our weight, skin tone, or hairstyle.

The biggest struggle with self love is always we try not to make mistakes and we even hate ourselves sometimes for making them.

We must accept first that we are human, we are bound to make mistakes. We should focus on not repeating and try to understand why that happened.

Your reality depends on how much you love and take care of yourself.

Your relationship with yourself is the most defining factor in shaping the kind of life you live.

The less you love yourself, listen to yourself, and understand yourself, the more confused, angry, and frustrating your reality will be.

When you begin and continue to love yourself more, the more everything you see, everything you do, and everyone you interact with, starts to become a little bit better in every way.

So whether you remain single or married, live the life you’ve always wanted.

Don't allow society to define your beauty.

Remember that there is more to beauty than one person’s definition.

Beauty and admiration depends on an individual's preference.

By: Dr. Annie Gaisie, Psychologist - Addictive Behaviour.

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