Dangers of lack of transparency in marriage

Trans Parent Lack of transparency is the foundation of suspicion

Mon, 13 Jun 2016 Source: Bisi Adewale

Absence of transparency in Marriage has many dangers and grave implications on family life. In fact, it is one major reason why marriages are crashing worldwide.

Lets check some of the implications of failure to be transparent in marriage.

Suspicion Lack of transparency is the foundation of suspicion, because there is no openness in it. This gives room for wrong imaginations, negative thinking and jumping into conclusions which most of the time may not be the truth. Suspicion is known to lead to wrong accusation that can be annoying leading to anger and negative actions.

Distrust When suspicion grows; it becomes distrust which is the killer of love and destroyer of marriage. Good Marriage is based on trust.So,when trust is broken; marriage is almost over.

Fear Suspicion and distrust do generate fear and anxiety, due to lack of information, misinformation and uncertainty that surround the home and family life in a place where transparency is lacking.

Wrong accusation Distrust, fear and suspicion which are off- shoot of lack of transparency lead to wrong accusation and counter -accusation which is very dangerous to the well-being of the family life.

Conflict and Crisis With suspicion, wrong accusation, fear and distrust in the house, what do you expect than conflict and crisis. Lack of transparency is known to cause a lots of crisis, as the couple begin to fight each other even when there is no cogent reason for it.

Rumor One thing that is common in a home without transparency is the influence of 3rd party in marriage bringing,rumors,misinformation,gossips and lies. Which fuel conflict in marriage.

Lovelessness There is no way love can thrive in a marriage where transparency is lacking. What is common in this kind of homes are malice,anger,resentment,hatred and bitterness.

Sick Marriage The end result of absence of transparency in marriage is a bad and difficult marriage. What do you expect in a home full of distrust,fear,lovelessness if not difficult and terrible marriage.

Pastor Bisi Adewale is a family and relationship expert; author of Secret of Irresistible Wife and more than 70 other books on marriage and family life. You can reach him on familybooster@gmail.com

Columnist: Bisi Adewale