Emotional differences between men and women

By Alhaji Alhasan Abdulai

Men and women are created differently by God. Things that matter a lot to women don’t matter as much to men and vice versa, for the most part. Theories about men’s behavior have evolved based on studies conducted on men aged 18 to 22.

Studies show men and women usually have different interests when it comes to conversation topics, women often talk about love, relationships, and other people while men find these topics boring, they appreciate ideas and productive topics. If you want a productive conversation discuss topics that interest both of you. Apart from Europe and America most women in Africa and other parts of the world take little interest in sports such as football and boxing while they take interest in on conversation and clothing and issues of children and body care.

Women often complain that men’s behavior seems odd to them. Here are a few things women should know about men:

•Actions speak louder than words

Men cannot read minds and they are not as expressive as most women are.

Tell your man what you want and he will try to give you that. Stop expecting him to understand and fulfill your expectations on his own. Tell him what you expect and want. For example if you want him to surprise you with a special date tell him you love it when he surprises you with a date ant through that you can get what you want.

• Men want to be respected

Men expect respect in public and in private. They excel when they know you trust and admire them. They want respect more than love. If you respect them, they will respect you, and will try to maintain that respect.

After all, respect is something that can only be earned. Shaunti Feldhahn, nationally syndicated newspaper columnist, author, and speaker, came out with a research that shows men would rather withstand loss of love feelings from their partners than to lose their respect.

• They are insecure

Men are sensitive when it comes to their role in life, whether at work or at home as a father and husband. They are internally secretly vulnerable, which they will rarely admit.

A woman should acknowledge her husband’s role which makes him more confident and secure. If you stop giving him affirmation he will be unhappy but is likely and may reluctantly seek it somewhere else.

• You don’t need to look perfect

It’s not necessary to always look like an actress or model, most men like it simple and natural. If he loves you he is going to love at your worst. You don’t need to change your personality and looks to please him. Be yourself and he will appreciate you and your inner beauty. It is flattering to take time to dress up a little for special dates, so keep doing that, but you don’t need to spend a lot of time to get ready to go to the store.

• Men need space too

Sometimes women become overly solicitous and get too involved so that men feel suffocated. If your guy is asking for some space, don’t take it personally, he actually just needs space, it doesn’t have anything to do with you or your relationship. Taking time for yourself to do your own thing is healthy, you should enjoy some alone time too.

• Se-x is more than se-x.

If you want more frequent se-x from your guy it will boost his confidence and performance in all aspects of life. If you maintain physical and emotional distance he is likely to feel rejected and insecure. Intimacy is an important factor in a relationship. The most important thing about se-x is if are compatible, if not, see a therapist.

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