The quality of family life influences every other part of our life

Dr Gaisie 1.jfif Dr. Annie Gaisie

Tue, 7 Apr 2020 Source: Dr. Annie Gaisie

Research tells us that one of the greatest source of happiness in life is the family.

Research also tells us that the greatest source of frustration and disappointment in people’s lives is dealing with family problems.

What does a healthy family look like? What do healthy families do? From my clinical work and experience, Healthy families don't just happen. They are developed.

Modeling plays a key function

What your children see you do as they grow up is what you’ll likely see them do. What do your children see modeled in your character? Do they see truth, honesty, and integrity in action?

Do you model and encourage a healthy experience and expression of emotions? The greatest gift you can give your child is who you are. The lifestyle our children see us model daily is much more powerful than what we tell them. Both are important. But there must be congruity between the talk and the walk.

Healthy parents/spouses don’t find time, they make time. In the midst of this running around, our children/spouse can easily seem like an interruption.

It is unrealistic for us to always drop everything and cater to the demands of our family. At the same time, we need to remember that children don’t have the same sense of time that we do.

We must learn how to say “I Love You!” Most African families struggle to show their affection.

Two key activities in a loving relationship are learning to cherish and nourish the other person(s). Cherish is the easy part. When you cherish something it means that you value and care about it.

It is important to you. However, you may not express it. That’s where nourish comes in. Nourish is an action term that looks at what you actually do. It involves going beyond the attitude to action. Quality nourishment involves stopping, looking, listening and studying that special person(s).

Finally to have a healthy home, Ensure 2-way communication is an essential everyday tool in their home.

Healthy families make a proactive effort to build their home with all they have.

By: Clinical Psychologist, Dr. Annie Gaisie

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