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Every relationship is fun when there’s maximum understanding, trust, love, privacy and much more. It is the kind of relationship envisioned by most guys and ladies.
But there are quite a number of people who overlook some red flags while dating or courting with the hope that things would change later or they would pick up other values and spice needed on the long run.
However, those relationships later collapse or lead to unhappiness, abuse and frustration.
Below are some red flags you should note. Then you can discuss it with your partner or counselor on way forward.
If sex is the only bond
There’s this myth going around that a guy or lady can only know if you love them through sexual intercourse. Although Sex is not everything, it means a lot in a relationship So, they want to satisfy their partner at every point in time because they know if sex is removed from it, the bond between them is lost.
Even when they quarrel, rather than settling their differences, they end up having sex and the matter is left unsolved.
When money replaces affection
If you notice that the only constant thing you enjoy in your relationship is the way your partner spends money on you but doesn’t show affection or concern for how you feel, then you need to talk with him or her else, you might probably be selling your liberty for silence.
Use of curse or abusive words
Many ladies feel they can deal with an abusive relationship. Especially the overly religious ones. They endure all maltreatment from their partner while in a relationship yet nursing the pain in their hearts.
Compromised dreams and goals
If you change your goal or dreams or your personality to a less befitting one just for you to be with your partner and support only his own dreams, then you really should think twice. A Healthy relationship would allow partners to support and care for each other’s dreams. A good wouldn’t cost you your future dreams and aspirations. Don’t berate yourself.
Finding faults in everything you do
Love is sweet. Love is humble, love corrects faults. Don’t join the gang of “love is blind”. The phrase is a cliche. Don’t believe it!. Once your partner starts finding fault on every single thing you do or things that he was always complimenting you before, surely, something is wrong. Sit down with your partner and evaluate the matter. If things don’t change after evaluation and pleas, it’s definitely time to leave before it’s too late.
