Dear GhanaWeb: I found some strange, 'charm-like' items in my wife's wardrobe

Dear GhanaWeb,

I am a 38-year-old man, and I’ve been married for seven years. My wife and I share the same wardrobe, but we’ve divided it and my clothes are in the smaller section, while she occupies the rest.

I have always loved my wife deeply. I’ve done everything I could to make her happy. She’s a very stubborn woman, in the sense that she insists on doing things her own way without interference. Still, I provided everything she needed.

We don’t have children yet. Anytime I bring up the topic, she says she’s not ready for motherhood. It has been seven whole years, but I never complained.

According to her, she didn’t fully enjoy her youth before we got married, so she feels I should allow her to live freely. She goes on trips with her friends, they go shopping, and all the expenses come from my account.

I am financially comfortable, so I never saw a problem with it. She often flaunts her lifestyle on social media, while I’m more of a quiet, private person.

Sometimes my friends and family say I listen to her too much. They even think I love her “to the extreme” because I don’t notice any other woman aside from her. Since we got married, I’ve never been with anyone else.

Yesterday, while checking the wardrobe, I noticed something strange under her clothes. Out of curiosity, I lifted the clothes and what I saw scared me.

There was a small pot with a red cloth tied around its neck. Inside and around it were some dry seeds, a small stone, what looked like oil tied in a plastic, and a tiny egg, possibly from a bird or reptile.

Immediately, fear gripped me. I tried to take pictures, but every photo turned out completely dark. The items simply wouldn’t appear on camera.

I don’t know what the pot means or why it’s in our room. Everything seemed fine until I switched jobs this year.

Since then, we’ve been arguing on and off because she keeps accusing me of cheating and threatens to leave.

Now, after finding this in her wardrobe, and the fact that it doesn’t show in photos, I am even more uneasy.

I haven’t confronted her because I am scared. I don’t know what the item is, and the whole situation feels strange. I don’t want to endanger myself.

For now, I’m keeping everything to myself. I’m even considering moving out before saying anything because I honestly don’t feel safe.

Does this mean I’ve been charmed? I’m truly disturbed and confused. I need answers. What should I do now?

FG/EB

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