Dear GhanaWeb: I got pregnant for my best friend’s fiancé after we thought she had died

Dear GhanaWeb,

My best friend and I have been inseparable for over 17 years. She loved me just as much as I loved her. We shared everything and did almost everything together.

A few years ago, she met her current fiancé. My best friend is a soldier, and I’m an actress. She fell deeply in love with him and always wanted to be around him.

Eventually, she moved in with her fiancé after he proposed. I was genuinely happy for her, even though I didn’t have a man at the time. Knowing what she had endured in past relationships, I prayed that this one would work. I often visited them, and we were all very comfortable around each other.

One day, she was urgently called to work. She had to rush to the office, where she was informed that she was being deployed for a peacekeeping mission. She came home briefly to pack her things and left. I had a bad feeling, but what could I do? That’s the career path she chose.

After her departure, we didn’t hear from her again. According to her fiancé, she called him midway through the journey, and that was the last time anyone heard from her. After 48 hours of silence, we began to panic. We called, texted, and contacted everyone we could, but nothing came of it.

Two weeks later, one of her superiors informed us that about 11 soldiers had died, and my best friend was among them.

The news shattered me. Her fiancé nearly poisoned himself from grief. Their wedding was only weeks away. He felt like he had lost the only woman he had ever truly loved. I was terrified he might take his own life, so I moved in to take care of him.

We mourned her for almost two years. Over time, I fell in love with him and couldn’t stop myself. I was always there for him until he began to heal. Eventually, he opened up about his feelings for me, and we decided to give ourselves a chance. We started dating, and things went smoothly. We grew fond of each other.

Two months ago, he proposed to me, and we began planning our wedding. I told him I wanted a small, intimate ceremony, perhaps just a court wedding, and he agreed.

A week before the wedding, we received a phone call: someone said my best friend was at the hospital. We rushed there, and indeed, she was alive but unconscious.

I was overwhelmed. On one hand, I was grateful she was alive. On the other, I feared losing my man. I watched how he cared for her at the hospital and stayed by her side until she regained consciousness. After she was discharged, I visited her at home. She recounted everything that had happened to her and said she was just happy to still have us around.

She had no idea I was dating her fiancé, now technically her husband-to-be. I decided to keep it a secret so we could all have peace.

Three days ago, I found out I’m pregnant. She saw the pregnancy test result and was genuinely excited for me. But I couldn’t bring myself to tell her who the father is. I didn’t want to break her heart.

Now I’m in a complete mess. We all believed she was dead, that’s the only reason all of this happened. Will she hate me if she finds out? Abortion isn’t an option for me, but I know I can’t keep this secret forever.

What do you suggest I do?

FG/MA

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