Dear GhanaWeb: 'I lost my ex to an abortion, now my wife keeps losing our babies'

Dear GhanaWeb,

Six years ago, a lady I was dating died while trying to abort a pregnancy for me. She was 24, and I was 27 then. I wasn’t ready financially and emotionally.

I wasn’t ready to be a father, actually; she wasn’t either, but she wanted to keep it. I convinced her to terminate it, and in the course of doing so, she lost her life.

No one knew she was pregnant. She told me she was scared to inform her parents, and she wanted me to decide whether we are keeping the baby or not before she would even tell her big sister.

I didn’t get into any trouble, but it’s something that really bothered me. It was almost like she knew something like that was going to happen.

She kept begging and encouraging me to let her keep it, so we work something out, but I was a young man who felt like allowing her to keep it would interfere with my ambitions.

Her demise hurt me. It was tragic, and I’m sure wherever she is, she probably still has something against me.

It took me almost two years to get over it and even date or love someone again. I got married three years ago, and as we speak, my wife keeps having miscarriages, which doctors have tried to prevent but to no avail.

It comes as a shock to even doctors because they say my wife is fine, and I don’t even let her kill a fly when she’s pregnant, yet she always loses it.

The sad part is that anytime she does, she goes through so much pain. Sometimes, she stays in the hospital for over two weeks.

She doesn’t know my past. I haven’t told her about the lady who lost her life because of me, but I feel it’s connected, and I want to do something about it.

Anytime I see my wife in that condition, something tells me the lady probably laid a curse on me before dying. I fear confessing this to my wife, but she’s suffering.

I don’t actually know what to do to help my wife at this point. My wife might be disappointed or even hate me for what happened to my ex. I don’t want my wife to feel some way.

What should I do to stop the miscarriages? We’ve tried our best to fix this, but still. I sincerely need your advice and suggestions.

FG/AE

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