Dear GhanaWeb: My girlfriend rejected my marriage proposal

Dear GhanaWeb,

A lady I have been dating for the past three years has hurt me deeply. I feel as though my whole world has crashed, and I cannot get it back together because I truly love her.

It is not just about the time we spent together or the love I have for her. It is about the pain of betrayal and the sacrifices I made for the relationship.

I grew up in a strict Christian home. My father, a former military officer turned pastor, instilled discipline in me. I live by God’s word, practice my faith faithfully, and consider myself an honest man.

I am 32 years old, and this was only my second relationship. My first, which began when I was 26, lasted two years. I genuinely wanted marriage, but she left, saying I was “too careful and too gentle.”

Before she walked away, I had rented an apartment for her and contributed over GH¢90,000 toward a car she used for work. Heartbroken, I took a year to heal before opening my heart again.

I have never cheated. I have never slept with any woman. I am still a virgin because I believe in sex after marriage. Yet, I allowed both partners to continue their sexual lives with other men until marriage, respecting their choices.

Sadly, my second girlfriend followed the same path. She had another man she was intimate with, and although I knew him personally, I accepted it because she claimed she had a high libido. Over time, she grew closer to him, and eventually, I discovered she was also involved with another man. When I confronted her, she said she was “just being curious.” I accepted it for the sake of peace.

I rented the apartment she lives in, sent her not less than GH¢5,000 monthly for upkeep, and gave her my car. She promised marriage, yet in three years, she never agreed to meet my parents. They only saw her pictures.

On Valentine’s Day, I proposed to her. She declined and officially ended the relationship, saying she no longer believes in marriage and does not want to keep me waiting.

I am devastated. If she did not want marriage, she could have told me from the beginning. I begged for another chance, but she is firm; she does not want it anymore.

My heart is heavy. Love keeps disappointing me. Please, how do I move forward from this? How do I heal and start again?

FG/EB

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