Dear GhanaWeb: My lesbian girlfriend is dating my husband

Dear GhanaWeb,

I’m a 32-year-old woman who has been married for three years now. My husband is currently dating a lady who happens to be my girlfriend.

I’m Bisexual, I started in the university over ten years ago. The lady in question has been my partner since university days. She’s into only ladies but I’m attracted to both genders. She was my first same sex partner.

We broke up along the line, but we found a way back into each other’s lives again. I dated someone after her, even while I was dating my husband. We ended things when this lady reached out again that she was still single and ready for me.

I actually loved her, we have a lot in common and she makes me happy. So I didn’t think twice about ending things with the other lady.

I started a family, I have one child now. I don’t intend having any again. I just want to live my life and be happy.

The lady and I agreed that she dates my husband. She’s not into men but she’s doing it for me.

We wanted to find a way to both live in the same home, share the same man and share ourselves. We wouldn’t have to keep it a secret anymore if my husband eventually embraces us both.

For now, my husband thinks I don’t know about the affair. So, the plan was to find out later, and instead of getting mad, I’ll ask him to invite the lady over and we both find a way to convince him to keep us both as his wives while the lady and I also have the freedom to explore our bodies. He certainly won’t say no.

She’s had sex with my husband a few times, according to her. My girlfriend has been passing a comment recently that upsets me. She keeps saying my husband is a sweet man and she wouldn’t mind sleeping with him everyday.

She’s into women only, so I’m surprised she keeps saying my husband is sweet. What could my husband be doing to her that makes her feel that way? My husband’s attention has totally switched and I know it’s because of my girlfriend.

I’m scared that she may later end up enjoying my man more and we would end up quarrelling for her to start revealing things to my husband. I honestly don’t want to lose my husband.

Should I cancel the plan with her? I don’t want to do anything that would make me regret later. What should I do now?

FG/EB

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