Dear GhanaWeb: My married boyfriend abandoned me after I got pregnant

Dear GhanaWeb,

I am a 33-year-old woman and pregnant. The one responsible is a married man and he’s also younger than me. He’s only 30. We dated for about a year before I ended up pregnant for him.

He always said he wouldn’t have any issues having kids with me that he wanted a large family, despite that he always protected himself or pulled out.

One day, I said to myself that I was growing so I should give birth, since he said he doesn’t mind having kids with me. So I lied to him that I was safe just to make him impregnate me. It was a success.

When I told this man I was pregnant, he changed immediately. He became angry instantly and started yelling at me for allowing myself to get pregnant.

He insisted I terminate it, that he wasn’t prepared for it. I reminded him of his promises to me but he insisted I terminate it.

I refused and kept it, but he hasn’t supported or said anything until now. The pregnancy is seven months now but no word from him. The last time I saw him was six months ago, when I told him I was keeping it.

I’ve supported this man a lot. I used my money to do a lot for him. He would ask for huge sums of money and tell me it’s a loan. I usually give him and not even bother taking it back. I gave him my money because he sounded like he wanted me in his life for real.

Despite our age difference, I’ve genuinely loved and cared for him and I thought he did the same until I got pregnant. Now I’m here alone and struggling to cater for my child.

Should I leave him and suffer to care for my child alone or force him to accept responsibility?

He said he doesn’t want his wife to know about us, so if I mention that, I’m sure he’ll accept responsibility and at least respond.

I feel so hurt and disappointed by him. I don’t even want much. Just a father to be there for my child and some emotional support.

This man has made a fool of me and I want to go hard on him because I’m almost due. I want someone to be there for me, I feel so lonely. What should I do now?

FG/EB

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