Dear GhanaWeb: My 'married boyfriend' is driving me crazy

Couple Rebound Love File photo of a worried woman

Tue, 29 Oct 2024 Source: www.ghanaweb.com

Dear GhanaWeb,

Each day I wake up from bed wondering if what I’m doing is right. I'm in a three-year relationship with a married man whom I love deeply.

He truly cares for me, makes me happy, and is always there for me. When we first met, he wasn't married. He had a child with another woman, but their relationship ended, and they stayed in touch for their daughter's sake.

He explained everything to me, and his kindness made it easy for me to say yes when he asked me to be his girlfriend. We spent a lot of time together and became very close.

One day, he mentioned he had an urgent call from his mom and would be going to Nigeria. When he returned, he was acting suspiciously but didn’t share much.

I later found out that his baby mama’s family pressured him to marry her since they have a child together, regardless of their feelings. He couldn’t bring himself to tell me, fearing it would break my heart, but he went ahead and got married. I discovered the news on social media through a post from his wife.

I was heartbroken and devastated. The thought of someone I love being with another woman was unbearable. I moved back to my mother’s house and ended things with him, feeling betrayed and deceived.

After six months of trying to move on, he unexpectedly reached out to me, brought a gift and pleaded for my forgiveness.

He looked distressed and said he wasn’t happy in his marriage and that he loved me. I took him back, and for a while, I felt happy again.

He even rented an apartment for his wife and daughter in Ghana, so they relocated.

But now, I feel threatened by their presence.

I initially accepted this arrangement, feeling grateful to have him in my life. But now, I’m struggling with guilt, questioning whether I’m the reason for his marriage troubles.

He meets my needs, but it's not just about money; I love him and he makes me happy.

Am I the cause of his unhappiness in marriage? Should I break up with him? Should I sacrifice my happiness for another woman to have a chance? I need advice on what to do next.

FG/EB

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Source: www.ghanaweb.com