Dear GhanaWeb: My wife wets our bed all the time and it’s getting out of hand

Dear GhanaWeb,

Years ago before I got married to my wife, she never agreed to spending the night with me.

She will mostly say she wasn’t comfortable spending the night with someone she wasn’t married to.

She said her mother never tolerated that growing up.

All the men she dated before me, she never spent the night with them also.

I thought she didn’t love me enough because she was old enough to make decisions, so I wondered why sleeping in my house was a problem?

I even had to discuss this with my friend. My friend advised me to be patient with her, and that she would come around.

Not knowing, she was hiding something from me.

I’m a 38-year-old man and my wife turned 31 not long ago. We have been married for 9 years and she has had one problem that keeps going and coming.

As I speak, I am fed up and I wish she is even out of my house this minute.

Her issue is that she keeps wetting the bed. She urinates on our bed anytime she sleeps, whether day or night.

Once she is asleep, she has to urinate on the bed before waking up.

This is what she came to the marriage with, it was after marriage that she explained to me that it’s been her problem since she turned 15, and that was why she never agreed to sleep over at my end.

She hid it from me, she should have at least told me when we were dating, but she said she thought it would end once she married because her mother used to say that.

We’ve been to places to find solution but it’s always temporary.

Sometimes it lasts just a week or two then she returns to it. I’m not seeking anymore solution. I’m so done because I’ve invested a lot into helping her out but this is who she is.

She now sleeps on the floor and lays a rubber under her sheets. The children are growing and I don’t like what they have to see everyday.

I love her but this is becoming too much. We can’t even go anywhere and sleep over. Why? When I mentioned it to my mother, she said it’s laziness since we’ve done everything we were told to do.

I’m really tired, sometimes I wonder if she was cursed. Will it be fair to divorce her because of this? Am I taking things too far? I need your suggestions because I don’t know what to think anymore.

FG/EB

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