Discover yourself first before marriage – Majid Michel

The urge to not lose yourself in a relationship is something everyone regardless of their age experiences.

We are all in search of that special someone that we can have deep connections with, to come home to, to make us happy and to grow old with.

However, actor Majid Michel advised that in order to enjoy a happy marriage and love life, self-discovery is important before considering marriage.

He wrote: “You should build “YOU” before you ever think about building a marriage.”

Majid Michel debunked the impression that statements like “I will die without you”, “I cannot live without you”, “if you go away, my world would crumble” are romantic.

He explained that such utterances reflect an addictive dependency. Thus instead of being addicted to a substance, one is addicted to a person which should actually not be the case.

The talented actor believes that it is necessary for an unmarried person to get his/her standards and values settled before looking for a partner.

“If you cannot control your emotions, your passions, your feelings, your attitudes, your bad habits or your behavior as you are single now, then you are not prepared for marriage… know yourself and find yourself through Christ,” the actor turned inspirational speaker posted on his Instagram.

Read the full post below.

You should build “YOU” before you ever think about building a marriage. "i will die without you.” “i cannot live without you.” “if you go away, my world will crumble.” who said these are romantic statements? Those statements are not romantic! They reflect an addictive dependency. instead of being addicted to a substance, you are addicted to a person. "i need a man.” “i need a woman.” No!! you need God!! and you need His holiness. God is saying, "please get your act together as an unmarried person. Get your standards and values settled". if you cannot control your emotions, your passions, your feelings, your attitudes, your bad habits or your behavior as you are single now, then you are not prepared for marriage. if you need to get married to be fulfilled or loved, you are not ready for marriage. The very thing that makes you need to get married will become the problem in your marriage. Men, before you go chasing a woman, make sure she is someone you can chase until death do you part. Discover yourself first. Know yourself and find yourself through Christ before you start looking for a partner. All your secrets and depression and frustration and baggage and all your issues. if you look at yourself, you yourself will not want to take yourself home. Yet you want someone to take you home. i'm scared of anyone who is impatient for marriage. Cos u are just a parasite looking for a host. Be an asset to your partner not a deficit. You can meet with us on the 11th of February for more talk about Love and relationships with @mmh57 at the @relevancelife relationship summit. #LEADERSHiP

A photo posted by @majidmichelmm on Feb 1, 2017 at 9:26am PST