Don't marry anyone who puts password on their phone - Counselor Adofoli

If you are single and thinking of marriage then please don't marry anyone who puts passwords or locks on their phone as a form of security to prevent you from accessing their conversations.

They can surely do this for other security measures, but you must not be the reason for this action. I am very much aware that passwords or lock are for security purposes but one thing I don't approve of is when a spouse becomes the reason for that security measure.

There is nothing like secrecy or privacy in marriage, let no one deceive you there is, and let no one tell you he or she is doing that to save you from getting hurt. Marriage is a holy institution, there is nothing like hiding. Marriage is made for life and one of the very things that can destroy it is acts of hiding things.

The bible says in Genesis 2:25 (TLB) "Now although the man and his wife were both naked, neither of them was embarrassed or ashamed". What are you embarrassed or ashamed of your spouse seeing? If you can't be truthful, honest and transparent with them, then there is no need getting married to them. It doesn't matter how you feel about them.

Mark 10:8 (NLV) says “The two will become one. So they are no longer two, but one”. I therefore suggest to you, if he or she is hiding things from you, it simply means they don’t want to become one with you. Such a marriage won’t last.

Many people don't know trust is more important than love in any relationship especially marriage. Love without trust is empty. Trust enhances love, it makes it beautiful and fortified. Trust is very essential. Not even thieves can work together if they can't trust each other. An employer and employee cannot have a good relationship if trust doesn't exist. It takes trust for citizens to elect one of their own as their leader or president. It takes trust for God to perform miracles in our lives as humans.

Your relationship is bound to fail if you agree to marry someone you don't trust. The simple question is, if I can trust you with the most important organ in my life which is the heart, that which holds my life in the name of love, then why can't I trust you with a phone conversation or chat? If the chat is more important than me, then you don't need me in your life. I'm supposed to be the most important person in your life and can't stand the competition with passwords.

Once I agree to marry you, it means I trust you, and there is no need to suspect you, or secretly read your chats etc. in your absence. In Ephesians 5:21 (TLB) bible instructs spouses to "Honor Christ by submitting to each other".

In other words, respect each other and for that matter If I need to have access to your phone or social media account, I need to seek your approval or ask for your permission.

Our goal in marriage is to be good couples. A good wife will be the husband's peace and a good husband will be the wife's protection. If you are married but find yourself guilty by this message, please change. You might not understand the damage you are causing your marriage and spouse until the same thing is done to you.

In conclusion "If you do the right thing, honesty will be your guide. But if you are crooked, you will be trapped by your own dishonesty" - Proverbs 11:3 (CEV).

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