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How many of you guys haven't ever touched women you didn't know? - Papa Bondze-Mbir

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Thu, 12 Apr 2018 Source: David Papa Bondze-Mbir/Facebook

I just watched the Moesha interview. I am very cool if hardworking Ghanaian women, striving to make a living, 'bash' Moesha for generalizing her views on CNN.

I'd however find it weird for men who wouldn't assist vulnerable women in need of their help - WITHOUT ANY CONDITIONS (sexual) attached, also bashing her for being Moesha.

How many of you guys talk to your male friends or bosses who act as creeps whenever they see a beautiful young lady?

How many of you guys criticizing Moesha, don’t talk over women?

A lot of you guys have been asked to be on a panel/team and did see that it was an all male panel; how many of you did say something, or maybe even refused the spot?

When you once saw another guy talk over a woman, how many of you guys ever said, “Hey, she was saying something?"

How many of you guys haven't ever called women “crazy” in a professional setting?

How many of you haven't also used your “feminism” as a way to get women to trust you, instead of showing them in your day-to-day life, not in your self-congratulatory social media?

How many of you guys haven't ever touched women you didn't know, and honestly, asked yourselves why you felt the need to touch women in general?

Do you also feel that any woman on earth owes you something? Because she doesn’t. Even if you’re like, “Hmmm, but what about basic respect?” ask yourself if you’ve shown her the same.

Guys, haven't most of you sent pictures of your penis to some women you felt like wanting to screw, even though she hadn't asked for them?

And to the lot of you men who some women have ever said, "NO!" to a date, did you respect her enough never to ask her again?

The horny guys a woman would not give an enthusiastic “yes” to sex, do you respect her enough to back the hell off?

Those of you guys who have ever gone out with a woman and she really got drunk or slightly tipsy, did you remember before sleeping with her - that she could not consent to you and also could not consent to your friend who seemed to be trying something? Your friend then, was your responsibility, so did you bother to ever say something or intervened before he took her to his hotel room or house?

Boy, assuming you've ever even done the right thing to/for a woman, do you expect praise or payment or a pat on the back or even a "Thank you" from that woman?

How many of you guys in certain positions at work, involve women in your creative projects, and let them have equal part in them?

How many of you don’t make misogynistic jokes about some of these girls, be it their looks, size, weight, complexion, culture, language, height, relationship/financial/educational statuses, etc.?

Don’t expect Moesha to be “nice” or “cute” or "decent" or "a lady"... and don’t get upset when the likes of her aren’t those things. How many of us haven't had assumptions about a woman’s intelligence, capabilities or desires based on how she dresses?

How many employers pay women as much as you pay men?

Those of us men that a woman has ever told us that we fucked up, and we felt like shit, did you put it on that woman to make you feel better or you ignored her?

How many of us have wholeheartedly, apologized to a woman we know we offended, without qualification and then went our separate aways?

How many of us haven't ever, intentionally, punished women for witnessing our vulnerabilities?

How many of us men haven't been defensive when we got caught or called out by women?

Do women need to literally witness men being horrible in order to believe that most of us are, indeed, horrible?

How many men, today, aren't using their power to get a woman’s attention/company/sex/etc?

How many of us guys are aware of our inherent power in situations and are actually using it to protect women, especially via talking to other men?

If Moesha's past and pain is making you feel pain or embarrassed, as a Ghanaian, don’t prize your pain above hers, or make that pain her problem.

That's her truth! That's what she's seen most ladies go through in Ghana. I'm glad she shared her side of the story, whether or not I agree/believe it, that doesn't change the fact that - that, is her truth!

Thank you!

Source: David Papa Bondze-Mbir/Facebook
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