I’ve been cheating on my wife with a church member

Dear GhanaWeb,

I’m a 34-year-old man and I’ve been married for five years now. My wife cleans the church every weekend, mostly Saturday afternoons.

She devoted herself to doing this even before we got married so I haven’t ever tried to interrupt at all.

About two months ago, I offered to go and help her clean the church because I was horny and wanted to spend time with my wife but she claimed she was late and couldn’t compromise.

I offered to go with her so we can finish quickly and get back home for me to enjoy my wife. As I drove us to the church, I kept touching and trying to play with her private part. I really was at that point where I was craving to be intimate badly.

She didn’t give in though. We got to the church and she instructed me to do some things while she did other things. There are other people who come to help too, so she shared everyone’s roles for them.

I ended up working alongside one of the ladies in the church. So, we started talking, and she asked why I had come to help because they’ve never seen me around before.

I told her I wanted my wife by me but she had to come to the church so I came with her. Then the lady jokingly asked me whether I was horny.

I was shocked but I denied it and asked why she thought like that, then she said she saw us alighting from the car and I was touching my wife’s buttocks. I figured she caught me but I still laughed and said I was just playing with her.

This lady and I continued talking, and she wouldn’t let us change the topic until she said she didn’t mind me lying with her. It sounded funny at first but before I realised, we were hiding in one of the offices and we had sex.

She grabbed my manhood, sucked me till I got an orgasm. I hit her from behind and she was moaning on top of her voice and when I asked her to bring her voice down, she said she didn’t care we were at the church.

I loved every bit of it. I took her contact and we’ve been meeting to have sex. Ever since I married my wife, that day was the first time I cheated on her.

Now, I’m addicted to the other lady so though I always feel bad, I keep going back to the lady. My wife doesn’t know yet but this isn’t who I am and I don’t know why I’m struggling to stop.

I don’t want to cheat on my wife anymore and the young lady won’t stop coming at me. I’m out of ideas on how to stop myself from going back to the lady for sex. I need your advice.

FG/AE

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