LIFESTYLE: You can marry a friend's ex-lover

Growing up, not everyone was fortunate to have parents who devoted their lives to raise them with love. Lack of good guidelines has led many people into all sorts of mistakes, but as they grew up some realized they were on the wrong path and made efforts to change and become better persons.

One example of such a person is a lady who was naive and exposed to male sex predators or boys who used her to satisfy their sexual quest all in the name of a relationship. There are some who got into one or two relationships and were sexually involved.

Now they are grown and know better, they wish they had the power to turn back the hands of the clock and redo things but it’s too late for that. They don't like their past, some even hate their past. But they have changed and don't live such lives anymore.

Now this lady has met someone who claims to love her and wants to marry her but his concern is her past. Because he knows or is a friend to people who dated her in the past, he is thinking of what they will say. Some friends even question them that out of all the women in the world, why will he go for someone they had sex with? And this man is feeling the woman is a bad choice, thoughts of the other men who slept with her drive him crazy, but at the same time, he loves her.

If you are in such a position, this message is for you. Have you studied this woman for yourself, to know her for who she is now, or are you just judging her based on what she was yesterday or what people say or will say about her?

If you have done a good job of studying her and notice she is changed, that she is a new person now and you truly love her and want to be with her, then you should know her present worth and appreciate how far she has come and celebrate her for that.

People outside don't know her like you do and as the saying goes, 'dogs bark at strangers'. She is not a stranger to you, what did you see in her that made you believe or think you love her? Was it the past or the present?

What is pushing you to build a future with her? In life, there is always someone who can't see your worth because they don't know you or love you. Don't let it be you. Once you start doubting her and questioning her past, what you are telling her is, you don't love her.

Yes, she had a past, but she also learned from her past and changed. She slept with ex-boyfriends. She slept with them when she wasn't with you. When she marries you, her name changes into Mrs. You. When you meet these friends of yours who claim they slept with the woman you are married to, tell them she is not the one. They slept with their ex or former girlfriend. She wasn't your wife. As far as that matter is concerned, they are addressing the wrong person.

A wife is a treasure, not everyone will have the opportunity to have a wife, not to talk about sleeping with a wife. In fact, sleeping with someone's wife is a crime. The fact that someone slept with an ex-girlfriend who is your wife today does not mean they slept with your wife. She is not the same person she was. Let no man judge your choice.

In conclusion, "A man’s greatest treasure is his wife— she is a gift from the Lord" - Proverbs 18:22 (CEV).

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