Lifestyle: Childlessness is part of marriage

It’s sad to see some spouses choosing their friends, colleagues, employees, parents over their wife or husband; forgetting that you are married, you have agreed to leave everyone and be joined to your spouse.

“That’s why a man will leave his own father and mother. He marries a woman, and the two of them become like one person” – Genesis 2:24 (CEV). This union is for life and God has warned, “Let no man divide what God has put together.” – Mark 10:9 (NLV).

Some couples get divorced because of childlessness while others value their children over their spouse, giving a wrong interpretation to marriage. There will always be a difference between a tree and its fruit. Without the tree, there won’t be fruit. So the question is, is it wise for a farmer to hate the tree but loves the fruit?

Children are a blessing and a product of marriage but they are not the sole purpose of a marriage. Again, children are gifts from God, if God has not blessed you with the expected gift, don’t fight your partner.

No matter how we love some people, they will one day leave us and be concerned with their own lives; the only person God has commanded to stay with till death shall separate you is your spouse. Marriage is for life.

Some people come into your life for a lifetime, others for a season. Know the difference and don’t mix them up. Don’t seek for lifetime expectations from seasonal people. Your child, parents, colleagues, friends, business partners are all seasonal people, they will leave your life along the line but your spouse remains with you.

heir children’s lives, they must not determine the destiny of their children; that is the role of God.

Let them go when it’s time for their marriage. It doesn’t mean you can’t influence, interact with or give them advice but you need to wait for them to ask for that. You can’t just bump into them telling them what to do and how to run their new home. Your children don’t need you to become their God but their parents.

Let them make their own mistakes and they will learn from it. You don’t need to feel like you want to deliver them from mistakes. The question is for how long? In life some of the best lessons are learnt from mistakes and a collection of that amounts to wisdom.

The beauty of marriage is that at the end of the day, all you really need is someone who loves you and always has your back. Someone who will always be there for you when the world leaves.

A secret to having a beautiful and strong relationship is when you are first best friends, before a couple.

Singles please look for a partner who is soul food and not a partner who is eye candy.

In conclusion, “Be happy with the wife you married when you were young. She is beautiful and graceful, just like a deer; you should be attracted to her and stay deeply in love” – Proverbs 5:18-19 (CEV)