Lifestyle: Don’t marry a man who doesn’t listen to you

Ladies, no matter how desperate you are, never marry a man who doesn’t listen to you. Never marry Mr. “Know it all”. A man who is always right in his eyes. Even if he is a pastor in a church or a committed Christian, he is still a wrong man for you.

Such a man is arrogant and filled with pride. Living with such a man is like living in hell. He makes you feel like a child or a fool who doesn’t matter, who doesn’t know their right from left. He sees you as an empty headed person; to him what you bring out is noise.

Such a man will never understand you because he refuses to listen to you. He will impose on you what he thinks is right for you forgetting that what makes one happy differs from person to person; forgetting that men and women are opposites.

One is physically oriented whilst the other is emotional. Each of these people’s channel of receiving love is different. What excites a man is not what excites a woman. Mr. Know it all will force you to like what he likes, and hate what he hates. He will force you to live a life just to please him alone. He will force you to become fake.

Each time you complain, such a man will shout on you and make you feel you just love nagging. He makes you become silent for life until it gets to the point where you can’t take it any longer, until you explode. That’s when you start signing divorce papers.

Any woman who marries such a man becomes useless. As a helper, the best way to know your man’s vision and direction and know what kind of help to offer him is in asking questions. Mr. Know it all will never see any sense in your questions, he won’t answer you, won’t listen or take it serious, not to talk of advising him.

It is strange how such a man understands love; to them, as far as you are pretty, sexy, beautiful and ready to take orders, take care of their home, meet their sexual needs, they are in love. Refusal to follow their orders means you are not submissive.

They refuse to admit, to love is to offer a hand to hold, ears that listen and a heart that understands, but they rather use their hand to abuse women who refuse to take their orders. They ignore the women, won’t give them listening ears and are ignorant of their feelings.

No matter the depth of love you have for such a man today or how well they take care of you now, in the near future, just their words will have the power to shut your heart down and cause you immense pains. Be with somebody who makes you feel like somebody, not with someone who makes you feel like nobody.

In conclusion “Do you see a man who is wise in his own eyes? There is more hope for a fool than for him” – Proverbs 26:12 (NLV).