Counsellor Frank Adofoli
Learning from the recent election which took place in Ghana, you will realize that lots of the people did not turn up to vote or simply refused to vote.
It is just as if they saw no sense in voting, because the party, the government or the individual they believed so much in, ignored them; someone so special to them, took them for granted.
But one may ask, since they didn't vote, are they happy with the outcome? The change that has occurred? I believe they are heartbroken to the core. It hurts to be taken for granted or to be ignored by someone so special to you, but it hurts much more when you care about them but have to pretend that you don't. Many friends have suddenly ignored their friends and relatives who helped them or played a pivotal role in their lives; as soon as things were good for them, they ignored them.
Many people have sacrificed so much for a relationship, but unfortunately when things got better for these partners they helped, they were ignored and taken for granted.
They used to be the best advisers, but now they are seen as empty headed. They used to be the best companion but today, they are like strangers. Today they are not welcome home; their phone calls are not even answered or returned. One thing we all need to know is that tables always turn.
God blesses us to be a blessing to others. If the blessings God gives will cause you to be mean or change towards your loved ones, then you cause God to take back His blessing. The fact that someone loves you and is loyal to you doesn't mean they are stupid.
Don't wait for someone to do what you are taking for granted now, for that is when you know you have lost big time. Anytime you get to the top in life, never forget the people who helped to push you there; when you do that, you have given them the power to bring you down.
There are relationships where one partner may not appreciate what the other does for them, but as soon as someone new comes around and starts appreciating everything they took for granted, that is when they suddenly realizes their loss and are ready to fight back.
This is the reason why many seek second chances. A lot of us don't realize how good our partners are until they are gone with a new person. That is when we want to prove that we love them and are ready to do the right things. But the sad part is, once your partner is happy and content with the new person, there is nothing you can do to get them back. We need to cherish and value the people in our lives, for it is painful to see another person do the very things you failed to do.
It hurts to see someone give all the needed attention to the very person you ignored. The one you ignored is happy but you are not the cause of their happiness. You have handed the power to someone else to wipe away the tears you caused with your actions.
In conclusion "When you’re kind to others, you help yourself; when you’re cruel to others, you hurt yourself" - Proverbs 11:17 (MSG). Please share with your friends, someone out there needs this.
