My girlfriend broke up with me because I pretended to be poor to test her

Dear GhanaWeb,

I work for a financial company with a parent company based in the USA, and my pay is very good.

I get to travel to the USA for work from time to time, and I’ve been comfortable in life. I also have a beautiful, successful girlfriend who is doing well in her career.

For the past four years, I haven’t taken any leave because of a project I was working on, but the project ended last month, so I decided to come to Ghana to take a break.

Lately, however, my girlfriend, whom I’ve been considering proposing to, has been acting strangely. She’s become materialistic and overly focused on money. It feels like she’s only with me for the money and the benefits that come with it. So, before proposing, I decided to test her.

Here’s what I did: I transferred all my money into an offshore account and returned to Ghana wearing casual clothes with just a backpack. When she picked me up from the airport, she seemed disappointed by my simple appearance and lack of shopping bags, something I usually do for her. I told her there was a problem and we should talk at home.

During our conversation, I told her a fabricated story about how a wrong move at work caused the company to lose a lot of money, and I had to pay all my savings to cover the loss. I said I had to sell my house and cars to cover the remaining amount and that I was moving back to my dad’s house to start over.

She listened quietly, but we had a few more conversations later in the week. I even arranged for some friends to pose as car dealers and a real estate agent who bought my cars and house. I moved into my parents’ house, telling them I was spending my leave with them since I hadn’t spent much time there in recent years.

But things quickly changed. My girlfriend started pulling away. The woman who would normally text me constantly now went days without responding. She was becoming distant, and I began to notice her WhatsApp statuses showing her with another guy, going on dates.

When I confronted her, she told me that she could not continue the relationship. She said she couldn’t be with someone who was financially below her and couldn’t wait for me to get back on my feet. She claimed she needed to get married soon, so she’d moved on but had been waiting for the right time to tell me.

I was heartbroken. I didn’t know what to say, so I just said, “Okay, I understand your concern,” and left. Afterward, I retrieved my things and moved back into my house.

It took me over a month to pull off this whole plan, but she moved on in less than a month.

She heard I was planning to propose, but decided to test her before making a commitment. The news of my test spread among my friends, and when she found out, she confronted me angrily, calling me a bad person for what I did.

Now I’m confused. Was I wrong for doing this? Did I go too far?

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