Tech entrepreneur Victor Elorm Morgah has revealed that he and his wife lost their first child at 39 weeks during labour, describing the experience as one of the most difficult periods of their lives.
Speaking to MzGee ahead of Convergence of Mothers 2026, the founder of Melvic Technologies said the pregnancy had been without complications until labour.
“We lost our first child at 39 weeks,” he revealed. “It was a very terrible experience.”
He attributed the loss to medical negligence, describing a series of decisions during labour that, in his view, led to devastating consequences.
“They induced her when it wasn’t necessary… the whole thing just didn’t make sense,” he said.
By the time doctors intervened, it was too late. He recalled, “They told us the baby was dead… and they needed to get him out immediately…. It can only be God that my wife came out alive. Any other person would have died.”
The emotional toll was overwhelming — not just from the loss, but from what followed.
Morgah recalled the painful moment his wife, in the midst of grief, apologised to him.
“She looked at me and said, ‘I’m sorry to disappoint you.’ That broke me,” he said. “How do you say that to me? I should be the one saying sorry.”
He described watching his wife go through intense physical and emotional trauma, calling women “the strongest people in the world.”
“I don’t think I could have survived what she went through,” he admitted.
As the couple tried to process their loss, another blow followed.
After multiple medical consultations, doctors told them they might never be able to conceive again. The couple was even referred to psychologists to help them cope with the emotional aftermath.
According to Morgan, “It was not just about having children anymore. It became about surviving as a couple.”
The impact on their marriage was profound.
Morgah revealed he had to step away from work for nearly six months to support his wife through recovery.
“I couldn’t leave her alone. Sometimes I would go to work and come back within an hour just to be with her,” he said.
The grief also affected their emotional and physical connection.
“We became like siblings. We weren’t even intimate anymore. It was that serious… People kept asking, ‘Where is the baby?’ It got to a point we were just tired,” he said.
While he remained strong for his wife, Morgah admitted he struggled in silence.
“I had to be her support system. I couldn’t show too much emotion,” he said.
But behind closed doors, the pain found its way out.
“Sometimes I would step outside… and just cry.”
Today, Morgah reflects on the experience with a sense of perspective shaped by pain.
“When I look back now, we can only be thankful,” he said.
He now has three children — two boys and a girl.
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