Confusing Engagement and Wedding in Ghana

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USMAN 12 years ago

Ghana is a country where the blind leads the one-eyed person, the ignorant illiterates dictate the pace whilst the educated fools follow suit and mediocrity is always glorified. I always feel irritated to see university ladie ...
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Ghana is a country where the blind leads the one-eyed person, the ignorant illiterates dictate the pace whilst the educated fools follow suit and mediocrity is always glorified. I always feel irritated to see university ladies putting on three different rings on their wed fingers- promise ring, engagement ring and wedding ring at the same time. We live in a country where the English word ‘graduate’ is only applicable to university education. It is amazing that our educational authorities don’t even know the difference between academic and professional degrees not to even talk of the difference between training and education as forms of learning. Whenever one challenges the status quo they will always use tradition or culture to hide their ignorance and if the individual is not lucky, they are branded as TOO KNOWN. This backward culture is what is impoverishing and killing our compatriots. Go to a typical food joint on our various campuses and you will see how our youth are wasting their lives consuming poison and when one query, all they will say is we are eating BETTER. They eat eggs and beans, egg and sardine, meat and fish soup, groundnut soup with heavy meat and fish and virtually drink oil as part of their daily meal yet they don’t seem to know the harm they are causing to themselves. Some also don’t see why they should eat fruits because they claim "goats don’t like cake". So you see, if a university graduate is learning from goats you can see why we are under-developed. This is how far our useless university education has brought us.
BISHOP 12 years ago

Oh my I enjoyed reading your comments esp about graduates learning from Goats. I can now have a good night.

Oh my I enjoyed reading your comments esp about graduates learning from Goats. I can now have a good night.
gee 12 years ago

Good piece of work my brother, if all intellectual should be speaking the truth like what you have done l think our society may change.God bless you.

Good piece of work my brother, if all intellectual should be speaking the truth like what you have done l think our society may change.God bless you.
Mix Breed (NPP-NDC) 12 years ago

Are the pastors not sinning by marrying two people who are already married again? Are the congregation not agreeing with the pastor to say that the traditional way we do our marriage ceremony is a sin, therefore judging us, ...
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Are the pastors not sinning by marrying two people who are already married again? Are the congregation not agreeing with the pastor to say that the traditional way we do our marriage ceremony is a sin, therefore judging us, whiles the bible speaks against that? We are living in a time where nobody actually is thinking but consuming what ever. Look carefully and you will see that, all we do as a people is copy culture and think that is what the bible says but refuse to read the bible to understand and practice it. If some Ghanains can think just for a minute, as Christians and as Pastors who lead Christians, they would know that they are the main reason people are refusing to be born again or better still come to Jesus. I rest my case.
will 12 years ago

wonderful lecturing...so concern abt our ladies wearing 3 rings de same time...they need education again..

wonderful lecturing...so concern abt our ladies wearing 3 rings de same time...they need education again..
NSEM WO WORLD. 12 years ago

IT IS NOT ABSURDITY BUT TRANSLATES INTO THE POVERTY LEVEL.THE AMOUNT OF MONEY THAT WOULD BE SPENT ON THE ONE YEAR DEATH ANNIVERSARY CELEBRATION IS CAPABLE OF PROVIDING COMPUTERS AND INTERNET FACILITY TO SOME SCHOOLS.OUR DESIR ...
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IT IS NOT ABSURDITY BUT TRANSLATES INTO THE POVERTY LEVEL.THE AMOUNT OF MONEY THAT WOULD BE SPENT ON THE ONE YEAR DEATH ANNIVERSARY CELEBRATION IS CAPABLE OF PROVIDING COMPUTERS AND INTERNET FACILITY TO SOME SCHOOLS.OUR DESIRE TO UNDERDEVELOP DETERMINES OUR DECISION.WE HAVE NOTHING OF OUR OWN BECAUSE THE LEARNED WOULD NOT IMPROVE WHAT IS THERE WITH THE NEWLY ACQUIRED KNOWLEDGE BUT RATHER TO DISCARD.
Fiifi Mensah 12 years ago

Funny thing my brother is that the very educated in our community are now wearing at least two rings when the are done with their church wedding. As it stands, the environment tends to consider you not completely married when ...
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Funny thing my brother is that the very educated in our community are now wearing at least two rings when the are done with their church wedding. As it stands, the environment tends to consider you not completely married when you were only one ring. HOW UNINFORMED!!!!! GOOD ONE DOMINIC.
malm 12 years ago

Amazin. Thanks nd i hope everyone reads dis.

Amazin. Thanks nd i hope everyone reads dis.
Latiti 12 years ago

My Borther, say again!!

My Borther, say again!!
Kwame Agyei 12 years ago

Dominic:

Good write-up. I have been telling folks for years that 'wedding' is a marriage ceremony, wherever and however it occurs.

Dominic:

Good write-up. I have been telling folks for years that 'wedding' is a marriage ceremony, wherever and however it occurs.

Kantanka 12 years ago

It seems like you've read all my thoughts regarding this issue. I was digusted/disappointed when I visited Ghana this past year and I couldn't believe my eye. You've got people who are barely surviving having "lavish" wedding ...
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It seems like you've read all my thoughts regarding this issue. I was digusted/disappointed when I visited Ghana this past year and I couldn't believe my eye. You've got people who are barely surviving having "lavish" weddings. I met a couple who were renting/living in a very undesireable I room planning a wedding; having the nerves to ask me for a 500 new Gh cedi loan for their wedding. The look of digust in my face answered her question. Just sad sad sad. Lack of knowledge, we perish. But I do see brighter days ahead. Africa will Rise Again.
Osuo_Abrobuor 12 years ago

But I am afraid I do not share your optimism for the future. Why? Because there appears to be a convergence of interests in solidifying the 'new madness' that has taken hold over our community! The churches,family members,esp ...
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But I am afraid I do not share your optimism for the future. Why? Because there appears to be a convergence of interests in solidifying the 'new madness' that has taken hold over our community! The churches,family members,especially those at the receiving end,the community at large, all want the 'show' to go on because of what they stand to gain in the hoopla. In the diaspora communities,people have created a cottage industry where so-called 'Elders' do the rounds on weekends to perform certain functions for a tidy fee.
And since there`s money to be made by certain individuals,I believe it would be very difficult to reverse this trend any time soon!
princewilly@ymail.com 12 years ago

"The thrill is gone from my marriage," Bill told his friend Doug.
"Why not add some intrigue to your life and have an affair?" Doug suggested.
"But what if my wife finds out?"
"Heck, this is a new age we live in, Bill. Go ...
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"The thrill is gone from my marriage," Bill told his friend Doug.
"Why not add some intrigue to your life and have an affair?" Doug suggested.
"But what if my wife finds out?"
"Heck, this is a new age we live in, Bill. Go ahead and tell her about it!"
So Bill went home and said, "Dear, I think an affair will bring us closer together."
"Forget it," said his wife. "I've tried that - it never worked."
princewilly@ymail.com 12 years ago

During the wedding rehearsal in Kwesimintsim, the groom approached the pastor with an unusual offer.
"Look, I'll give you $100 if you'll change the wedding vows. When you get to me and the part where I'm to promise to 'love, ...
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During the wedding rehearsal in Kwesimintsim, the groom approached the pastor with an unusual offer.
"Look, I'll give you $100 if you'll change the wedding vows. When you get to me and the part where I'm to promise to 'love, honor and obey' and 'forsaking all others, be faithful to her forever,' I'd appreciate it if you'd just leave that part out." He passed the minister a $100 bill and walked away satisfied.
It is now the day of the wedding, and the bride and groom have moved to that part of the ceremony where the vows are exchanged. When it comes time for the groom's vows, the pastor looks the young man in the eye and says:
"Will you promise to prostrate yourself before her, obey her every command and wish, serve her breakfast in bed every morning of your life and swear eternally before God and your lovely wife that you will not ever even look at another woman, as long as you both shall live?"
The groom gulped and looked around, and said in a tiny voice, "Yes."
The groom leaned toward the pastor and hissed, "I thought we had a deal."
The pastor put the $100 bill into his hand and whispered back, "She made me a much better offer."
Asiwome 12 years ago

Traditional marriage has two phases, the "knocking" or "asking" phase and the proper marriage, so there is still one festival to be celebrated.

Traditional marriage has two phases, the "knocking" or "asking" phase and the proper marriage, so there is still one festival to be celebrated.
balertey gormey 12 years ago

the black man has black sense. He thinks like a sheep meeeeeh

the black man has black sense. He thinks like a sheep meeeeeh
Frankobla 12 years ago

Our church leaders must rethink and help their followers to know the importance of our traditional marriage system. Ghanaians should be taught to respect the traditional marriage and stop calling it engagement- it is actually ...
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Our church leaders must rethink and help their followers to know the importance of our traditional marriage system. Ghanaians should be taught to respect the traditional marriage and stop calling it engagement- it is actually the real marriage. Wedding is nothing but waste of time and resources that can be channeled to better the living condition of family.
TETTEH NTOASO 12 years ago

Thanks my brother for this excellent piece of writing.This confusion arose because of the Church role in Ghanaian marriages.Ideally it should have to be Blessing either immediately after the engagement which is the proper mar ...
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Thanks my brother for this excellent piece of writing.This confusion arose because of the Church role in Ghanaian marriages.Ideally it should have to be Blessing either immediately after the engagement which is the proper marriage or at the church without pomp or pageant.This is the confusion of adopting foreign culture without situating it properly in our traditional setting.
balertey gormey 12 years ago

I read the article with excited admiration. A great piece. We are totally confused not only in Ghana but the whole of Africa. We don't know what to do. Sometimes teenage pastors are counseling adopts in the name of Ghana. O! ...
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I read the article with excited admiration. A great piece. We are totally confused not only in Ghana but the whole of Africa. We don't know what to do. Sometimes teenage pastors are counseling adopts in the name of Ghana. O! Let Human beings be human beings again! We are going astray. We say we are poor but we have enough to steal and waste. Most of the weddings you see are financed by the government through the fraud government workers engage in. It is stolen money so they have to waste it to the glory of madness. God knows the way we are so he decided to leave us to our fate. There will be no salvation for the black man. God rewards hard work and honesty. The slave trade was meant to teach us how to be serious but we have not leaned anything from it. God sent the white man to come and teach us commonsense but we have refused to learn. So God is fed up with us. The churches are only doing business with the bible. we and the goats will compete for grass in the near future. We say we have leaders, but what are they doing. They come to misbehave and go away. The black man is indeed a burden on the white man. Sometimes I feel like committing suicide. There is too much nonsense. 200 million can build two universities from scratch but we waste it on stupid things and go to the white man Chinese for second hand loan. Shame on the black man. He has failed his God and himself. Shammmmmmmmmeeeeeeee blackman
Bozi 12 years ago

I agree with you 100 percent we are confuse as people and as nation . Even in the western world it's different altogether . We've lost our values

I agree with you 100 percent we are confuse as people and as nation . Even in the western world it's different altogether . We've lost our values

Dapaah Daniel 12 years ago

Monsieu Dominic, I am very happy to see u express ur opinion on Ghanaweb...I am a religious reader of Ghanaweb articles...Nice write-up. Thanks.

Monsieu Dominic, I am very happy to see u express ur opinion on Ghanaweb...I am a religious reader of Ghanaweb articles...Nice write-up. Thanks.
Dapaah Daniel 12 years ago

Oh, I thought this was first article but I was mistaken...I'm going thru ur other articles as well.

Oh, I thought this was first article but I was mistaken...I'm going thru ur other articles as well.
Barnabas Yaw Klu 11 years ago

This is a very interesting and educating post. Thank you Dominic.

This is a very interesting and educating post. Thank you Dominic.
marsh 11 years ago

this wedding saga is making marriage very difficult for those who cant afford it.oh aba do we have to go for loan all in the name of wedding.

this wedding saga is making marriage very difficult for those who cant afford it.oh aba do we have to go for loan all in the name of wedding.
hamjay 8 years ago

I love this article Bro. u nailed it right on the head. we have swallowed foreign culture hook, line n sinker. Blind africans we are!

I love this article Bro. u nailed it right on the head. we have swallowed foreign culture hook, line n sinker. Blind africans we are!

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