Devaluing the Ghanaian traditional marriage

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GH-Atheist 11 years ago

It is okay if you have a preference for traditional marriage but you shouldn't insult others by saying that their ceremonies "fulfil the so-called 'civilisation mission' of our colonial masters." That's statement is very disr ...
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It is okay if you have a preference for traditional marriage but you shouldn't insult others by saying that their ceremonies "fulfil the so-called 'civilisation mission' of our colonial masters." That's statement is very disrespectful and downright hurtful.

Secondly, you complain about the cost of having three weddings to support your claim that the traditional ceremony is better. This doesn't make any sense, since the traditional ceremony is the most expensive of the three. The court ceremony is the cheapest as it is only made up of the court fee, the western type you rail against is just a longer church service with decorations. But the traditional one with its unlimited food, endless drinks, Schnapps, the many payments to various members both families, etc easily takes up the majority of the overall budget. In my experience (and I have been part of many weddings), it is the traditional one that becomes the talk of the town. If you truly cared about cost, you would be advocating a court wedding.

I want you to understand that I am neither agreeing nor disagreeing with you. I'm just pointing out that you don't make a very good argument.
Asiwome 11 years ago

He is stating that the traditional marriage is what defines our identity. Can you be a Jew without a bar/bat mitzvah? Can you be a Catholic without confirmation? It is true that other cultures have been introduced into our s ...
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He is stating that the traditional marriage is what defines our identity. Can you be a Jew without a bar/bat mitzvah? Can you be a Catholic without confirmation? It is true that other cultures have been introduced into our societies, and adopting these cultures and ignoring ours serves to annihilate our identity and makes us animals as some would like to believe. By the way, sometimes the changes are more subtle, like wearing Nigerian garbs instead of Kente on one's wedding day.
I have other things to you who call yourself an atheist. It looks like you have already been brainwashed.
kwabena 11 years ago

This is a "must read" for every Ghanaian.

This is a "must read" for every Ghanaian.
GH-Atheist 11 years ago

I don't see how your reply relates in anyway to my comment since I made no mention of cultural identity. I didn't disagree with him, I only pointed out the flaws in his argument. Did you even read my comment or did you see my ...
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I don't see how your reply relates in anyway to my comment since I made no mention of cultural identity. I didn't disagree with him, I only pointed out the flaws in his argument. Did you even read my comment or did you see my username and flew into a rage?

Also are you implying that I have been brainwashed because I am an Atheist? So you (I'm guessing you're Christian or Muslem) who believes in fairy tales introduced as a tool by fellow men to keep populations under control are rather calling me brainwashed? Wow!

I would also like to see the other things you have to me who calls myself an Atheist.
ama 11 years ago

Your acticle is very true but you missed the point why people have taken to the christian or church wedding. It has become popular because the marriage certifate is the only document that the courts will recognize if anything ...
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Your acticle is very true but you missed the point why people have taken to the christian or church wedding. It has become popular because the marriage certifate is the only document that the courts will recognize if anything happens to one of the parties to the marriage. We know of many instances where the family have left either party to the marriage in abject poverty by collecting all properties and money on the pretext that it belongs to them. Where there are children from this union, it it even more difficult. Let us make our traditional practices less negative especially towards women and all will embrace willingly.
francis kwarteng 11 years ago

I love this piece!

I love this piece!
francis kwarteng 11 years ago

Dear Ama,

Please my comments were not meant for you. It was meant for the author.

This is certainly an inadvertent error. I am sorry.

Thanks.

Dear Ama,

Please my comments were not meant for you. It was meant for the author.

This is certainly an inadvertent error. I am sorry.

Thanks.
Deborah 10 years ago

I'm sorry but my church "wedding" would still not be legal. You can go to the registrar or the court it will still not cost you even your "white" wedding dress

I'm sorry but my church "wedding" would still not be legal. You can go to the registrar or the court it will still not cost you even your "white" wedding dress
Mensah 11 years ago

The author wrote nothing that is atheistic. He acknowledged that Christians need to bless their marriage at little cost. Is that not what Christianity is about?

The author wrote nothing that is atheistic. He acknowledged that Christians need to bless their marriage at little cost. Is that not what Christianity is about?
Deborah 10 years ago

The Ghanaian traditional wedding has to happen it is our culture. You cannot avoid that out its costs. It depends on how big you want it anyway. I'm pretty much sure you can pay for the whole Ghanaian traditional wedding cere ...
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The Ghanaian traditional wedding has to happen it is our culture. You cannot avoid that out its costs. It depends on how big you want it anyway. I'm pretty much sure you can pay for the whole Ghanaian traditional wedding ceremony with the money that you would use for you reception hall alone. I agree when she says civilisation mission because if we had not been colonised (if we had not been forced to be made civil and proper) we would not talk of a western world marriage . It's the same with hair relaxers . If we had not been Introduced to them in pretty much sure a lot of black women would be happy wearing their natural hair.

edem 8 years ago

I do not think you have understood the writer.

I do not think you have understood the writer.
edem 8 years ago

Who said been a christian means the church wedding. That is what people think.
When you are a christian you do what the Bible say not what the church say.
Some honourable lady and gent should please refer to the Bible in ...
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Who said been a christian means the church wedding. That is what people think.
When you are a christian you do what the Bible say not what the church say.
Some honourable lady and gent should please refer to the Bible in one instance where it is written or stated implicitly and or explicitly that the power to unit man and woman in marriage is in the hands of a pastor, evangelist, prophet, bishop, etc.

the problem of man is the redefinition of everything God has put in place.
To the pastors and others in the category who bless people's marriage hmmmmmmmm when has God added this one too to our responsibilities?
RICHIE PEPPER 11 years ago

I REALLY LOVE YOUR ARTICLE, I HOPE CHURCH LEADERS AND THEIR SO CALL PASTORS WILL FIND THIS ARTICLE, MATTER OF FACT I RESIDE IN THE USA :AM HAPPY WITH THE TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE BUT MY WIFE KEEP DISTURBING ME WITH WEDDING

I REALLY LOVE YOUR ARTICLE, I HOPE CHURCH LEADERS AND THEIR SO CALL PASTORS WILL FIND THIS ARTICLE, MATTER OF FACT I RESIDE IN THE USA :AM HAPPY WITH THE TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE BUT MY WIFE KEEP DISTURBING ME WITH WEDDING
edem 8 years ago

My fiancee is the one who sent me link to this article.
She does not her hair. she knows understands where she is coming from.

My fiancee is the one who sent me link to this article.
She does not her hair. she knows understands where she is coming from.
MYSELF 11 years ago

These so called pastors should be blamed. They have spoilt our naming ceremonies saying all sorts of stupid things like pouring of libation is anti Christ. They dont do what they preach most of them drink. They have advantage ...
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These so called pastors should be blamed. They have spoilt our naming ceremonies saying all sorts of stupid things like pouring of libation is anti Christ. They dont do what they preach most of them drink. They have advantage of desperation of most Ghanaians for quick salvation to preach all sorts of nonsense.
Nana Afrika 11 years ago

Thanks for this Master piece. In fact, as a Ghanaian who live in Germany, I've had the opportunity of attending many Weddings and know for a fact that, you can't be wrong on this. Just want to add that even the Europeans are ...
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Thanks for this Master piece. In fact, as a Ghanaian who live in Germany, I've had the opportunity of attending many Weddings and know for a fact that, you can't be wrong on this. Just want to add that even the Europeans are surprised at the deligence of the ghanaian marriage rites. My German Lady still insists if I don't bring her to Ghana to perform these traditional rites, then it means I don't Love her. Thus, here we're again with the problem of not appreciating and advancing our uniqueness as a People. Will not comment much since I've more on that to share. Let's be proud of what we've got by entreching our Rich cultural values for they're what will advance our course for true rennaisance.
Akadu Mensema 11 years ago

Thanks! Most Ghanaian wo/men peoor ad rich all wish to have some wedding officiated by priests!

Thanks! Most Ghanaian wo/men peoor ad rich all wish to have some wedding officiated by priests!
Toxicals 11 years ago

Pastors should be blamed for this.We need more of your article bro!!

Pastors should be blamed for this.We need more of your article bro!!
NAKED 11 years ago

Bro thanks for your beautiful and insightful article God bless you for that. Now to my Christian brothers and sisters wedding is not biblical so don't let any pastor deceives you, there is nowhere in the bible that tells us t ...
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Bro thanks for your beautiful and insightful article God bless you for that. Now to my Christian brothers and sisters wedding is not biblical so don't let any pastor deceives you, there is nowhere in the bible that tells us to wear rings as a sign of our marriage. Was it in the beginning? God made any ring for Adam and Eve as a sign of their marriage? Did God give any rules for marriage? All these wedding stuff were paganism adopted by Catholics and now it has become a doctrine. Those pastor's should tell us where in the bible did Jesus Christ tell his disciples that they should base their teachings on marriage and how to do big wedding's? Those pastor's are liars upon liars, marriage is all about agreement between family A and family B, base on their culture and their belief so some people culture and their belief shouldn’t be an obstacle for another people. God blessed the marriage from the beginning and the Bible says that what God has bless it ,He has blessed if forever there is no need to go to the church for blessing or the pastor been put the those couples together is not Biblical, immediately both family A and B agrees for Kofi and Ama to marry, and Kofi perform all the necessary requirements according to Ama’s from A family culture and belief then the father of Ama will put them together and bless it, it doesn’t need any pastor to do it. Abraham was God friend, Abraham never invited God to come and bless his son Isaac’s Marriage because he Abraham knew that as far as the parents of the girl has approved it God also has approved it .
To those who makes fun of their language, culture and other things, if it’s hard for God to save those who pours libation in their marriage ceremony then it will be hard for those who do wedding and wear rings to be save also because both culture and belief are not Biblical. At times I blame not our people colonization is part of the game and is the mental destruction, it will take Ghanaians aeons of years for Ghanaians to recover from the colonization, look at our mental state you wonder if truly Ghanaians are human beings. We go to school for our assimilated teachers, tutors and lecturers to assimilate us too, you dare not to challenge the authorities or else they will brand you as ‘’ too known’’. My brothers and sisters we have a knot to crack as a nation. The most sheepish thing is that Ghana as a country does not have code of ethics to live, we live anyhow, do things anyhow, what sorts of people are we? People who always admire foreign things and condemn our own, are were truly created by God? If God truly created us then we are disgrace to him. We are always on destruction side. Keep your culture don’t be afraid of the vultures, keep your culture don’t be afraid of the will-power. Let those charlatans make fun of their culture and give all sorts of names to those are willing to keep their culture. If someone says fuck you, mother fucker, shit etc Ghanaians will tell you that you are civilized but let someone says tweaakai, apuut)), 3ta, 3bini and see how Ghanaians will tell you uncivilized, you are from the bush, illiterate, etc we are really funny creatures. Only a foolish dog barks at the flying bird.
Follow me if you can but put all the burdens behind.
NAKED 11 years ago

are we truly created by God? To those who are willing.

are we truly created by God? To those who are willing.

Master Kwaku 11 years ago

You have written a great piece which MUST be read by EVERY Ghanaian; the old, the young, the clergy, the christian (and even the Moslem). Well done!

You have written a great piece which MUST be read by EVERY Ghanaian; the old, the young, the clergy, the christian (and even the Moslem). Well done!
Mohammed Jubran Suhuyini 11 years ago

Yeah that's awesome bro!!!

Yeah that's awesome bro!!!
Sammy Adjei 10 years ago

Ooh great! I used to say "double marriage", how ignorant i was. Its rather "triple marriage." I hope we go back to our true identity because we are now in identity crisis. God help us.

Ooh great! I used to say "double marriage", how ignorant i was. Its rather "triple marriage." I hope we go back to our true identity because we are now in identity crisis. God help us.

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