Elizabeth Ohene on 'saying yes, I do, three times'

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• Kweku Donsuro 10 years ago

  Thank you Lizzie for your loud thinking and sharing with us on this forum your take on funkified marriages in Ghana. Times have moved on with hi-tech, and culture undergoes diffusions, intercourse with other cultures in this ...
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  Thank you Lizzie for your loud thinking and sharing with us on this forum your take on funkified marriages in Ghana. Times have moved on with hi-tech, and culture undergoes diffusions, intercourse with other cultures in this era of globalisation. Yes, you have to say '
  I do' thrice if you love the girl and mean business. I was equally miffed sometime ago to witness a glamorous Engagement put up by my nephew. Times have changed and we need to move on with life. Let those who have money display it or else if you cannot afford to marry, stay chaste and become a bachelor or spinster for life. After all, one sage once said, Marriage is such an institution that those who are in wish to get out, while those out wish to get in. ' Thinking aloud, allowed Elizabeth. Nice piece. Keep them coming. I am your fan from Dotse Malor, Hilton Fyle, Robin Cooke, Kwabena Mensah etc days.

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• Kweku Donsuro 10 years ago

  It's Robin White.

  It's Robin White.

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• Nana Akuamoah Bamfo 10 years ago

  Elizabeth, you have said it all. It is a misnomer to call traditional marriage 'engagement'. Don't the so called educated class know the meaning of that word? In the traditional Akan society, there are several steps to the co ...
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  Elizabeth, you have said it all. It is a misnomer to call traditional marriage 'engagement'. Don't the so called educated class know the meaning of that word? In the traditional Akan society, there are several steps to the conclusion of a marriage. These include a period of courtship during which the parents of the couple would agree that the marriage can go on. Terms like knocking fee, 'Kete ase hye' (putting something under the bed), etc, are all part of the ceremony. Finally when everything is concluded, the bride is handed over to the groom's family. Finito! How can we call that engagement? Over the past three years I have taken part in getting wives for my three sons. What we did in the ceremonies was conclusive. I lost my wife with whom I was married for 49 years four years ago. We did it once, not thrice. And 'we lived happily after'. The church and society should recognize this ceremony, instead of letting it look like a back-door marriage which needs a 'stamp' to make it legal. Are Ghanaians and Africans listening?

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• Kofi 10 years ago

  We are just ditching our own culture for some "alien" stuff. Now, we even have to put our dead ones in a morgue foe six bloody months,whether we can afford it or not. A bunch of sad and lost people. We have to put a stop to a ...
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  We are just ditching our own culture for some "alien" stuff. Now, we even have to put our dead ones in a morgue foe six bloody months,whether we can afford it or not. A bunch of sad and lost people. We have to put a stop to all these imported "cultural vanities",

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• Huseini Baba 10 years ago

  Very educative piece.Those days what people cherished much was getting their sons and daughters marrying from responsible homes,but what do we see today?worshipping of wealth

  Very educative piece.Those days what people cherished much was getting their sons and daughters marrying from responsible homes,but what do we see today?worshipping of wealth

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• steph 10 years ago

  Great piece Elizabeth. You couldn't have said it any better.

  Great piece Elizabeth. You couldn't have said it any better.

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• Johnson 10 years ago

  I first read this article in one of the newspapers. Great literal piece.

  I first read this article in one of the newspapers. Great literal piece.

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• Bruno 10 years ago

  Superb writing. Only that even our elders adore these practices as evidenced in the 'drop that yam' promotion. That advert is just a chip of the reality. God bless the writer and those ready uphold our values!!

  Superb writing. Only that even our elders adore these practices as evidenced in the 'drop that yam' promotion. That advert is just a chip of the reality. God bless the writer and those ready uphold our values!!

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• Kiki 10 years ago

  How l wish the 'latter day journalists' will learn from this lady how to write articles that is easy to read, understand and follow.
  
  Thanks Elizabeth.

  How l wish the 'latter day journalists' will learn from this lady how to write articles that is easy to read, understand and follow.
  
  Thanks Elizabeth.

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