Re: Sex, sermons and submission: Why I left the Church.

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Kweku 9 years ago

I will tell you something that I have known for a long time; Muslim women have more dignity than our sisters in Christ. We think they are oppressed but it is far from the truth. They cover themselves (just like Roman Sisters. ...
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I will tell you something that I have known for a long time; Muslim women have more dignity than our sisters in Christ. We think they are oppressed but it is far from the truth. They cover themselves (just like Roman Sisters.)because of the desire to protect their dignity.

In Christianity, we proclaim to have liberated women. However, in reality, we abuse them, have sex with them whenever we want and throw them away just to move on for more women. And we call that liberation. I'm not the least surprised that more Christian women are speaking up now.

Just the other day, a widower supposed to be consoled by a visiting pastor had the shock of her life when the 'pastor' started playing with her boobs. Well, probably playing with women boobs is part of evangelical duties nowadays.
critic 9 years ago

its more than a problem of the church and rather a problem of human nature. compare how Jesus Christ treated women? that's an example of how we should treat women and not to condemn them.
touching on the subject of harassme ...
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its more than a problem of the church and rather a problem of human nature. compare how Jesus Christ treated women? that's an example of how we should treat women and not to condemn them.
touching on the subject of harassment, women due to their nature are sensitive. men have a natural weakness that we struggle to contain around a beautiful lady hence the abuse, hence ladies must accept these stereotyping and marginalization with the knowledge that its the men who are more vulnerable and hence protecting their vulnerability.
Kordiaber 9 years ago

Yes, the Church had taken the Social life of theses young women with everyday Choir practice. Thus, they have become slaves to the Church. Woke up ladies! Get your life back. You record a song and the Pastor sells it to you a ...
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Yes, the Church had taken the Social life of theses young women with everyday Choir practice. Thus, they have become slaves to the Church. Woke up ladies! Get your life back. You record a song and the Pastor sells it to you and pockets the money.
Are you not being double-stupid?
master 9 years ago

The church is the one place that you don't sign a contract to be part of. You're free to leave as you wish. Jesus said he will build his church and the gates of hell shall not prevail against it so it is not your presence or ...
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The church is the one place that you don't sign a contract to be part of. You're free to leave as you wish. Jesus said he will build his church and the gates of hell shall not prevail against it so it is not your presence or absence that makes the church.

I am getting sick and tired of this attitude. It is either you believe in the bible or not. And, if you believe in the bible then you have to take it as it is. That, in the bible there was Amnon, so was Jezebel. There was Delilah and there was Potiphar’s wife. The likes of all these are in the church today but no man is writing blogs about them because we prefer to look at the brighter side. We prefer to think that women are generally far better than these characters.

The church is full of imperfect people, including the pastors. Of course, in the bible there are even more imperfect people but that is why it is the bible. It is to show us God knows about our imperfection and still loves us anyway.

Nana Ama may have left the church but she's still in the world which abounds in imperfection. She must better learn longsuffering and patience because without these you're better off dead. You know, two women in same sex relationship also have issues and breaks up. It is not about male chauvinism but it is called human nature. It is often as a result of our own expectations not met in others. It takes certain kind of wisdom that only comes from humility to learn.

Submission of women is in the word of God. Many women don't like the sound of it so they don't go to church. That's a choice they have made. I do not expect such people to be writing about it and condemning it. If however, you believe in the bible then you must also believe in the submission part as well. You cannot have your cake and eat it. If one genuinely believes in the submission and practice it she will also receive the benefit of love that the bible commands men to. God himself would make you to be loved and when you're loved you would not even feel you're submitting to anybody.

Christianity is a spiritual thing. It is beyond our feelings and earthly wisdom. So, when I see these write ups oozing with fleshy interpretation, pride and un-forgiveness, I immediately knows where it is coming from.
sammeno 9 years ago

I am sorry the concluding description you have here fits you better than those you seek to disagree with or fault. Christ came to liberate all 'men' from all forms of discrimination. In Christ, there is neither male nor femal ...
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I am sorry the concluding description you have here fits you better than those you seek to disagree with or fault. Christ came to liberate all 'men' from all forms of discrimination. In Christ, there is neither male nor female just as in heaven there is no marriage. We submit to each other and love each other in equal proportions and that is what Christ's redemption work stands for.
Osei daboase 9 years ago

It is sad how ppl have decided to use all their energy to make Christianity look bad . if you decide to leave the church go but please stop trying to fault the church for ur decision. After all no one forced u to attend. Chr ...
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It is sad how ppl have decided to use all their energy to make Christianity look bad . if you decide to leave the church go but please stop trying to fault the church for ur decision. After all no one forced u to attend. Christianity is not about obinim neither is it about any individual. It is about clear conviction that Jesus is the only person who can get u access to God and subsequently invite him to help u leave u like live
Obuama 9 years ago

Understanding the issues of God and what he desires ofhave us is plain and simple for us all to understand in order to follow the the path. There is nothing spiritually hidden in the word of God. It is pure and simple. That i ...
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Understanding the issues of God and what he desires ofhave us is plain and simple for us all to understand in order to follow the the path. There is nothing spiritually hidden in the word of God. It is pure and simple. That is the way of God's Religion and teaching. I have only one question for the so-called people who claim to be Christians, which has never be answered directly in plain simple language. It is about the personality of Jesus. Now the question again: who was Jesus? Was he God, the Son of God or a Prophet of God. If he was God, please unwind in simple terms how the Almighty God who created everything, will manifest himself in being carried in the womb and delivered by a woman He create, and for him to be killed by humans that he created in order to sacrifice his own blood so that he will save these same people who killed when. That the Almighty God was paraded and humiliated by his creation. That this same Almighty God, before he was arrested, went to pray to himself asking if the cup could pass by. That while on the cross, he shouted to himself why he had been forsaken by he himself who was God. I challenge all those who say Jesus is God to explain this twisted logic without resorting to meaningless spirituality. Secondly if Jesus was the son of God, why the Almighty God who has dominion and power over everything will allow an innocent man, his son, to be killed before this merciful and kind God for Him to forgive and save those who believe in this theory. That God bore a son through Mary, but this son was one of 3 of the Divinity called God, who then created everything, and had to come down to earth and allow himself (the third part which is the son) to be killed by sinful men son he can save them. Please let me get a simple plain language answer. No twisting here
EZEKIEL 9 years ago

Jesus was a CREATION of Emperor Constantin in AD 325 in Nicea along with 318 Bishops!!

Stay blessed....Obuama ! You have found the light !!

Jesus was a CREATION of Emperor Constantin in AD 325 in Nicea along with 318 Bishops!!

Stay blessed....Obuama ! You have found the light !!
ANABA TWO. E-mail:anabatwo@gmail.com 9 years ago

Please Obuama and Ezekiel you have NEVER READ 1 TIMOTHY 3:16, 6:14-16, 1 John 5:19-20, John 1:1-4 read the verse in KING JAMES BIBLE before you contact me. Ohh two lost souls please see for the HYMN:
INSPIRER OF THE ANCIENR ...
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Please Obuama and Ezekiel you have NEVER READ 1 TIMOTHY 3:16, 6:14-16, 1 John 5:19-20, John 1:1-4 read the verse in KING JAMES BIBLE before you contact me. Ohh two lost souls please see for the HYMN:
INSPIRER OF THE ANCIENR SEERS WHO WROTE FROM THEE, THE SACRED PAGE.
THE SAME THROUGH SUCCESS, TO US IN OUR DEGENERATE AGE,
THE SPIRIT OF THY WORD INPACT...
Please you sincerely informed to contact me especially Obuama. You have NEVER READ FROM GENESIS TO REVELATION, number of times before. Please contact me or any one there who can help. Thank you. Anaba Two
EZEKIEL 9 years ago

WHY was the NEED for a "King James Version" of the Bible IF the Bible IS the WORD of GOD ???There should NOT be a VERSION of ANYBODY ELSE !!
Anyway, if you have the Answers to Mr. Obuamas questions,give them here.WE CAN ALL ...
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WHY was the NEED for a "King James Version" of the Bible IF the Bible IS the WORD of GOD ???There should NOT be a VERSION of ANYBODY ELSE !!
Anyway, if you have the Answers to Mr. Obuamas questions,give them here.WE CAN ALL LEARN...nothing to hide!!!

yeboah 9 years ago

why so

why so
aston abek fada 9 years ago

Christians be careful of these bloggers so you are not led astray. Read the Bible yourselves and abide. God cannot be mocked by being intelligent.

Christians be careful of these bloggers so you are not led astray. Read the Bible yourselves and abide. God cannot be mocked by being intelligent.
Odza The Fireman 9 years ago

You hit the nail hard and right on the head!! Mere intelligence can be foolish at times, you know?

You hit the nail hard and right on the head!! Mere intelligence can be foolish at times, you know?
akua 9 years ago

and what do you actually mean by this

and what do you actually mean by this
Kwaku 9 years ago

I am a MAN and that is because, among the many traits, I RESPECT WOMEN - the most important trait of a real man. Those who are disrespectful of women are simply MALE: so the real story is that some males disrespect their sist ...
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I am a MAN and that is because, among the many traits, I RESPECT WOMEN - the most important trait of a real man. Those who are disrespectful of women are simply MALE: so the real story is that some males disrespect their sisters, MOTHERS and MOTHERHOOD and that is why they behave the way they do toward all females - it is fear and cowardice; it is not MEN.
Kofi 9 years ago

Leaving de church is your greatest mistake. No true church looks down on women. The fact dat women are asked to submit to men doesn't mean they're slaves.

Leaving de church is your greatest mistake. No true church looks down on women. The fact dat women are asked to submit to men doesn't mean they're slaves.
A. A. Marksman 9 years ago

If you have left the Church, why don't you just go away and live your life as you wish? Why bother people with your reasons? No one gives a damn or cares two hoots.

If you have left the Church, why don't you just go away and live your life as you wish? Why bother people with your reasons? No one gives a damn or cares two hoots.
SerRento 9 years ago

While the modern church ails, this piece is hardly objective in identifying the malady/maladies.

I was cautious to label this piece typical feminist whingeing, and I, for a few seconds , gave you the benefit of the doubt, ...
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While the modern church ails, this piece is hardly objective in identifying the malady/maladies.

I was cautious to label this piece typical feminist whingeing, and I, for a few seconds , gave you the benefit of the doubt, i.e., until you spat out the term patriarchy. Seriously, the patriarchy? Get yourself out of the feminist bubble for one good second.

First of all, you should have noticed that women make up the bulk of the church population, so on the basis of probability alone, would be more prone to failures within the system. This skew in numbers also tells that women like to have their heads buried in fantasy.

Point two elaborates on women's propensity for fantasy and the lengths they go to protect these dreams they have. Because they're attendance of church is based un illogic, they are more easily scammed and duped. We have read reports of "men of God" sleeping with parishioners who are looking for the fruit of the womb. This despite the bible admonishing against adultery and fornication several times.

Point three, however, does it mean men have it all sweet in church? No. These people lose their time and money, just like the sisters, but I guess it doesn't matter since they aren't women.

Fourthly, for all their zeal, women just aren't as good as men in church business, which is perhaps why their counsel isn't as valuable as they'd like.

Finally, both genders get a good dicking in the modern church. To suggest otherwise exposes your message to the risk of dismissal. If you sound like you only suffer from a general problem, you begin to look like a sociopath, no offence.
Nana Antwi 9 years ago

So because the world is chauvinistic now you will leave the world. You are in church seeking salvation and proclaim the world in life and deed. There will be false prophets and rapists in the house of the Lord wrongly practi ...
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So because the world is chauvinistic now you will leave the world. You are in church seeking salvation and proclaim the world in life and deed. There will be false prophets and rapists in the house of the Lord wrongly practicing their faith, so does that negate Christianity. Journalism is full of soli and mercenaries, has she abandoned her profession because of her principles. We are fighting a battle between the righteous and evil. And evil everywhere. You run from evil but you cannot hide
Nana Antwi 9 years ago

I don't understand why people who have made a personal choice not to worship Christ or attend Church feel the urge to justify their decision and get more people leave, are they forming another organisation? We do they want ...
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I don't understand why people who have made a personal choice not to worship Christ or attend Church feel the urge to justify their decision and get more people leave, are they forming another organisation? We do they want to convert others if not for the Devil

Dan Buduh 9 years ago

Dear writer, leaving the church because of someone's behaviour is at one's own peril. This is because the Bible is clear that each one will give his or her own account before God. The Madam who left because of the behaviour o ...
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Dear writer, leaving the church because of someone's behaviour is at one's own peril. This is because the Bible is clear that each one will give his or her own account before God. The Madam who left because of the behaviour of someone else will give her account before God and the person through whose actions she left will also account before God - Romans 14:10-12.
Thank you.
EDEM 9 years ago

THIS IS ABSOLUTELY RUBBISH

THIS IS ABSOLUTELY RUBBISH
EDEM 9 years ago

FOOLISH WRITER, SIT IN THE HOUSE AND SAY RUBBISH

FOOLISH WRITER, SIT IN THE HOUSE AND SAY RUBBISH
God loves you 9 years ago

Let your stay in church just be between God and you.Let him direct you to the church that truly worships him and bear in mind that you will find fellow human beings who aren't saints.If their actions send you away,you might b ...
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Let your stay in church just be between God and you.Let him direct you to the church that truly worships him and bear in mind that you will find fellow human beings who aren't saints.If their actions send you away,you might be moving from one church to another or completely stay away from fellowships that God himself instrust us not to give up.
GhanaMan 9 years ago

man pls use your mind.

man pls use your mind.
CRITICAL 9 years ago

THERE ARE BETTER CHURCHES AROUND TODAY,EVEN THOUGH MANY ARE MORE LIKE FOOTBALL FIELDS AND CINEMA HOUSES WHERE PEOPLE GO TO SHOW FASHION AND OTHER FORM OF SOCIAL VICES, BIBLE SAYS WE SHALL KNOW THEM BY THEIR FRUITS, SISTER REM ...
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THERE ARE BETTER CHURCHES AROUND TODAY,EVEN THOUGH MANY ARE MORE LIKE FOOTBALL FIELDS AND CINEMA HOUSES WHERE PEOPLE GO TO SHOW FASHION AND OTHER FORM OF SOCIAL VICES, BIBLE SAYS WE SHALL KNOW THEM BY THEIR FRUITS, SISTER REMEMBER WHEN U DROP OUT OF CHURCH U DROP OUT OUT FROM THE PRESENCE OF GOD, U THEREFORE HV TO RECONSIDER UR STAND AND IDENTIFY WITH THE TRUE WORSHIPERS OF GOD AND PRAY FOR THOSE THAT ARE LOST IN THE HANDS OF WICKED MEN
GhanaMan 9 years ago

GOD didnt send any jesus , it's all fake stories to enslaves feebles minds. believe in God and do what is good and avoid wrongs.

GOD didnt send any jesus , it's all fake stories to enslaves feebles minds. believe in God and do what is good and avoid wrongs.
Happy 9 years ago

I know the love of God is what keeps us in the church.we have to understand the seasons that we are in.women are respected by God and has commanded us to walk in meekness and love.if you experience anything bad in a congregat ...
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I know the love of God is what keeps us in the church.we have to understand the seasons that we are in.women are respected by God and has commanded us to walk in meekness and love.if you experience anything bad in a congregation.Pray to God and go to a different place.The you can't label the church as bad or abusive.please find a different environment.Don't stop going to church.God loves you.

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