The talking stage is that exciting, slightly nervous space between meeting someone and officially becoming a couple. It’s when both people are trying to figure each other out, values, vibes, and compatibility. But here’s the thing: sometimes, small habits or behaviors during this stage can send the wrong message and push a man away before things even get the chance to grow.
As your relationship counselor today, I’ve seen this happen often. Many times, it’s not about a lack of attraction. it’s about the way energy is exchanged in those early conversations. So, let’s talk about five common things that turn men off during the talking stage.
1. Coming Across as Too Clingy
It’s natural to feel excited about someone new, but if you’re texting non-stop, demanding quick replies, or expecting all of his free time too soon, he may feel overwhelmed. Men (just like women) value space and the freedom to miss someone. Balance is key you know, show interest, but also let things unfold naturally.
2. Constant Negativity
No one wants to feel like they’re stepping into a cloud of rain every time they talk to you. If the conversation always leans toward complaints, gossip, or putting others down, it can be draining. The talking stage should feel light, fun, and positive, it’s about building curiosity, not tension.
3. Showing Little Genuine Interest
Relationships are two-sided. If you spend the entire conversation talking about yourself without asking about his day, dreams, or opinions, he may feel you’re not really into him. Genuine interest makes people feel valued. A simple, “How was your day?” goes further than you think.
4. Rushing the Process
Bringing up marriage, babies, or long-term commitments before you’ve even built a solid foundation can scare a man off. It doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have standards or intentions, it just means timing matters. Let the bond strengthen before jumping ahead into the future.
5. Disrespect or Attitude
Everyone wants to feel respected, especially when trust is still being built. Cutting him off constantly, dismissing his opinions, or showing unnecessary attitude creates distance. Mutual respect is the soil that healthy relationships grow from. Without it, the connection will struggle to bloom.
So, In conclusion
The talking stage is like planting a seed, you don’t force it to grow, you nurture it. Give it time, space, and attention, and it will flourish naturally. Remember, it’s not about being perfect; it’s about being mindful of how your actions make the other person feel.
