Ghanaians disclose what keeps victims in abusive relationships

Love, financial dependence, children, and the desire to protect one’s reputation are some of the reasons people find it difficult to leave abusive relationships, according to Ghanaians who shared their views in a vox pop on domestic abuse.

One respondent said some victims remain in toxic relationships because they become attached to the intensity associated with unhealthy love, especially when their partners appear attractive or financially stable.

“Some girls are in love with toxic relationship feelings. The guy may be abusive, but he is handsome, has money and other things, but they can’t leave,” one said.

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Another disagreed with the idea that abuse should be linked to love, arguing that genuine affection should not involve causing harm.

“I don’t really see it as love. I see it as stupidity because you will not hurt someone that you love,” another stated.

Some respondents also identified money, children and shared experiences as factors that make it difficult for victims to walk away.

One contributor explained that some people stay because they feel they have sacrificed too much in the relationship, while others fear leaving because of the impact it may have on their children or lifestyle.

The issue of protecting public image also emerged, with one respondent noting that some people, particularly those in the public eye, remain silent about abuse to protect their reputation and brand.

“Some people in the public space, because of protecting their reputation and brand, don’t want to reveal that their partner is abusing them,” another respondent said.

The respondents, however, stressed that no amount of love, money or reputation is worth enduring abuse.

They encouraged victims to seek support from trusted people, counsellors, family members or institutions such as the Domestic Violence and Victim Support Unit (DOVVSU), adding that abuse goes beyond physical violence and includes emotional, verbal and psychological harm.



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