Has Odartey Lamptey scored an own goal?

The news of Odartey Lamptey’s unfortunate marital incident has been discussed over the past few days with different views and opinions.

My concern is the fact that the future of the children have been scandalised and compromised. Children are a blessing no matter the circumstances that led to their conception or their birth. One thing that comes to mind at this stage is how do you determine a good lady to marry? Proverbs 18:22 says that “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and finds favour from the Lord”.


Finding a wife is very crucial to mankind that’s why it comes along with favour from the Lord. Perhaps, I will go ahead to propose 17 attributes of a woman that has the potential and qualities to be a good wife. It is important to provide workable guidelines for men to choose the right lady since in 9 out of 10 cases, men do the choosing. These attributes can be found in Proverbs 31:12-28:


1. Prov 31:12-She will do him good always


A good woman will always be good to her husband or fiance; there’s no evil intention in her mind.


2. Prov 31:13-She seeks wool and flax, and works with her hands. These materials signify that the woman has the ability to be industrious and not a gold digger. She’s an equal partner in the union.


3.Prov 31:14-She is like the merchant’s ships: she brings her food from afar


She’s capable of providing for the family and she’s a homely material; that means she can take care of the home.

4. Prov31:15-She rises while it is yet night she has the capability to be proactive and not slothful or lazy in nature.


5. Prov31:16-She considers a field and buys it she’s an astute businesswoman with good negotiation skills which adds value to the union.


6. Prov 31: 17-She gird’s her loins with strength


She has inner strength to support her man in times of trouble and she’s able to encourage her man not to give up.


7. Prov 31:18-She perceives that her merchandise is good.


She’s aware of her value and thus attracts premium price for her services.


8. Prov 31:19-She lays her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.

She has the skill to manage her operations both at home and at the workplace.


9. Prov 31:20- She stretches out her hand to the poor; yea, she reaches forth her hands to the needy.


She’s not selfish but rather gives to good causes in life and supports the needy.


10. Prov 31:21- She is not afraid of the snow for her household; for all her household are clothed with scarlet.


She has great discerning spirit about the future and makes strategic decisions to protect her household from chaos and uncertainty.


11. Prov 31:22- She makes herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.


She’s modest but has class and has taste for good and beautiful things to decorate her household.

12. Prov 31:23-Her husband is known in the gates, when he sits among the elders of the land.


She contributes to the success of her husband. She adds value to the husband’s credibility that enables him to sit among leaders.


13 Prov 31:24- She makes fine linen and sells it, and delivers girdles unto the merchant.


She’s capable, industrious and enterprising woman who operates an amazing home business to supplement domestic income.


14. Prov 31:25- Strength and honour are her clothing she’s beautiful both inside and outside with inner strength to please the Lord


15. Prov 31:26- She opens her mouth with wisdom and in her tongue is the law of kindness.


She’s full of natural affection towards her husband and her household. She doesn’t gossip or engage in idle talk but thoughtful and sensible in her words.

16. Prov 31:27- She looks well to the ways [doings] of her household


She’s in charge of her household and monitors the operations within the household.


17. Prov 31:28- Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her.


She attracts praises from her husband as well as the children because she’s a unifier and a strategic member of the nucleus family.


I hope these attributes helps some of the men to identify suitable ladies when it comes to finding a good wife because it is better to live on a roof top than to live in a mansion with a nagging wife.


I hope that Odartey Lamptey and the wife find a lasting solution to their unfortunate marital situation. I also hope that Odartey Lamptey rescinds his decision about the children and secures their future because they are a blessing no matter the problem between the parents. God bless!