LIFESTYLE: Lazy girls tag guys as stingy - Counselor Adofoli

Fri, 22 Feb 2019 Source: Frank Edem Adofoli

Lazy and immature ladies are the ones who tag their boyfriends as stingy. Your boyfriend is not your father; he is not dating you to take care of your needs, that is why you are not supposed to submit to him. He is just studying you to find out if you are mature and ready for marriage. He is not committed to you.

In some relationships your so called lover never cares for you when you are broke or in need, but only cares for you when she is broke or in need. She calls when she needs things from you or has received a notification that you have sent her money or data, etc.

And when you are in need or broke, at the stage you cannot meet her needs, she doesn't feel like talking to you or chatting with you. The maximum call duration is always 0:59. After responding to your call with her cold voice or picking the call without talking to you, The rest is "I am ok". You trying to find out what is wrong with her even annoys her.

She assumes you should know her needs are not met, she is in a way reminding you that the relationship is prepaid, and that your credit is finished, you are only in a grace period or on emergency life support. A call that makes you feel bad for no reason when at the same time you don’t know what is wrong with her.

Fail to meet her needs on time and you are tagged as stingy. Meanwhile when you ask for help from her, even if she is in the position to help, she will not. The question is, between the two of you, who is stingier?

Marriage has always been a serious business between two matured and responsible people. People who are committed to their life and needs and willing to build life together, so they come together in partnership of marriage; the safest and strongest form of commitment in life.

For that matter they assume nothing but rather do more for themselves and their relationship. They depend less on their partner, dream big and always keep the faith alive. They see their relationship as a blessing and not an opportunity to suck each other dry.

So they don't easily give up, they are hopeful and keep smiles on their faces as they work hard to achieve a better future together. These are the people who know your value whilst you are in their lives.

If you are out there dating a lady who is not responsible, not working and depends on you, and each time those needs are not met they behave cold towards you, please be careful. What you are tolerating today is how they are going to relate with you for the rest of your life. You are simply telling her you accept that standard of treatment and anytime you go below that, they call you names, disrespect you, neglect or leave you in the end.

Grow beyond that, set high standards, leave her to get something doing for herself if you cannot help set herself up. No man was created idle. The hands and the head have their use. Let her make the maximum use out of her minimum lifestyle and she will appreciate and respect you. Don't try to become everything for her in life, for you are not God.

Keep in mind that there are people out there who are not looking for love or marriage but entertainment; someone to be temporary attached to for their needs, not someone to live, build and die with.

In conclusion, "No matter how much you want, laziness won’t help a bit, but hard work will reward you with more than enough" - Proverbs 13:4 (CEV).

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Source: Frank Edem Adofoli

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