Dear GhanaWeb: After hustling abroad to support my fiancée, I returned to find out she's pregnant by another man

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JAG 9 months ago

Move on Bro, a lesson well learnt. Start afresh. Most are like this and I understand your pain.

Move on Bro, a lesson well learnt. Start afresh. Most are like this and I understand your pain.
HE HAS JUST LEARNED ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT LESSONS IN LIFE- DON'T IDOLIZE ANYTHING OR ANYBODY IN THIS WORLD EXCEPT GOD 9 months ago

He will become a lot wiser after this painful life experience. For sure the signs of potential trouble were there all along although "love " blinded his eyes. I congratulate him on the fact that she deserted him- He is a very ...
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He will become a lot wiser after this painful life experience. For sure the signs of potential trouble were there all along although "love " blinded his eyes. I congratulate him on the fact that she deserted him- He is a very very lucky man. This gentleman failed to recognise the warning or danger signs: 1. She was high maintenace because her demands were insatiable (meaning that she was greedy ,inconsiderate , callous and self-centred and did not care how he felt)
2.He was always feeling anxious and stressed out trying to please this PARASITE ( and that is what she is).
3. She clearly had little respect for him (which is always a very bad sign for the future prospects of any relationship). When a man or woman does not show much respect for the person they claim to want to marry the other party should run way as fast as their legs can carry them from a disrespectful person. Many of the relationships and marriages I know that failed was often because of lack of respect by one side for the other person.
THE WORST THING YOU CAN DO IS TO KEEP RUNNING AFTER SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T EVEN RESPECT YOU- That is a well noted fact in Psychology.
Many years ago a work colleague brought his fiancee to our end of year banquete.It was a glitzy affair during which most folk brought their spouse or fiancees.I will never forget how this work colleague treated his gorgeous, very accomplished fiancee (she was the CEO of her own company). During the Banquette he mostly ignored her, he was rude to her and put her down at every opportunity (he critisized her dress ,he disparaged her choice of handbag and her perm which everyone else thought was lovely).They went on to marry the following year. I wasn't at all surprised less than a decade later to hear that he had left her for someone else. Her mental health suffered because of his cruelty.Thankfully today she is remarried and with the help of her second husband her business has flourished and she now has branches in about half a dozen European states.
The most striking thing I recall about this lady was the fact that the behaviour of my work colleague had almost destroyed her confidence and self estemm even though she was such a pleasant person ,a commited spouse and a high achiever.
WE ALL SAW THE WARNING SIGNS WHICH SEEMED ALONE SEEMED UNABLE TO SEE DURING THEIR COURTSHIP PERIOD.SHE DID ALL THE LEG WORK AND PUT IN THE WORK TO KEEP THE RELATIONSHIP GOING.
DON'T CONTINUE WITH A RELATIONSHIP TO MARRIAGE IF YOUR PROSPECTIVE FUTURE HUSBAND OR WIFE CONSISTENTLY IGNORES YOU, SHOWS DISREGARD OR PERSISTENTLY DISRESPECTS YOU IN PRIVATE OR PUBLIC DURING THE COURTSHIP PERIOD. IT DOESN'T MATTER WHETHER THEY ARE GOOD -LOOKING, RICH, HAVE CONNECTIONS OR HAVE A FOREIGN PASSPORT.YOU DESERVE FAR BETTER THAN A HORRIBLE AND TRULY MISERABLE FUTURE WITH THEM. FIRST SEEK TO LIVE TO PLEASE GOD AS FOUND IN THE HOLY SCRIPTURES AND THE LORD OF HEAVEN WILL GUIDE AND PROTECT YOU IN ALL YOU DO AS YOU GIVE HIM FIRST PLACE IN YOUR LIFE.
No nonsense 9 months ago

Brotherhood is very very disappointed in you. How can you travel and rely on such relationship with unfaithful partner huh? So were you thinking that for all those years she was being faithful huh how can you do this bro. If ...
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Brotherhood is very very disappointed in you. How can you travel and rely on such relationship with unfaithful partner huh? So were you thinking that for all those years she was being faithful huh how can you do this bro. If you fear God forget it but if you don't kill her that's all. Tired of such gambling.
KK 9 months ago

You acted without conscience! Never trust a demanding girlfriend. They are 100% unstable and not trustworthy! Go back and move on.

You acted without conscience! Never trust a demanding girlfriend. They are 100% unstable and not trustworthy! Go back and move on.
'Any man who cheats is a dog' - Jarvis 9 months ago

Go back to Canada if you can and start life again, you'll be fine

Go back to Canada if you can and start life again, you'll be fine
Akuffo 9 months ago

Tokebele! You've been played, get over it!

Tokebele! You've been played, get over it!
Issa G 9 months ago

This guy has no plans. Should never have returned from Canada over a woman. She played him like a drum

This guy has no plans. Should never have returned from Canada over a woman. She played him like a drum
Sycamore 9 months ago

Kill yourself

Kill yourself
Wisdom 9 months ago

So sorry brother, but few questions for you
(1) Is your parent alive?
(2) Did you inform them about your relationship with that lady?
(3) Did you introduce her to your parent?
(4) Was she accepted by your parents?
(5) Di ...
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So sorry brother, but few questions for you
(1) Is your parent alive?
(2) Did you inform them about your relationship with that lady?
(3) Did you introduce her to your parent?
(4) Was she accepted by your parents?
(5) Did you pray about this relationship?
Let this be a learning point for you, never invest in a lady you've not married.
SE wo nwui a wonim de3 wobenya
Shege Republic 9 months ago

Not a good way to discover how stupid and naive you are, but I'm glad you've dodged a huge bullet! Praise and worship God every day!

Not a good way to discover how stupid and naive you are, but I'm glad you've dodged a huge bullet! Praise and worship God every day!

kulbogo 9 months ago

pls go back to canada if u can ok, dnt worry abt de disapptment it's all wel, u r protected fr being fool de more, jst imagen if u had married her n entrust most of ur sweat u were gonna make fr canada expecting dat u were c ...
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pls go back to canada if u can ok, dnt worry abt de disapptment it's all wel, u r protected fr being fool de more, jst imagen if u had married her n entrust most of ur sweat u were gonna make fr canada expecting dat u were cuming home to settle down n later on to be fool de more by her,
Hannan 9 months ago

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Neenyi 9 months ago

Massa, don't get yourself hurt. Close that chapter and move on with your life. Forget about the past and discover a new and positive beginning in life.

Massa, don't get yourself hurt. Close that chapter and move on with your life. Forget about the past and discover a new and positive beginning in life.
Life 9 months ago

SOME women are very wicked! They love to mess men up and move to the next man available because God has gave them beauty but one day, these women will lose their beauty and yearn for faithful men but won't find then. Life hap ...
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SOME women are very wicked! They love to mess men up and move to the next man available because God has gave them beauty but one day, these women will lose their beauty and yearn for faithful men but won't find then. Life happens. Bro. thank God for your life now. It would have been worse if you had married her and realised her true character later in life.
The Spear 9 months ago

If you leave even your legitimate spouse in Ghana for just one year to work overseas believing you'd come to meet the same person you left, then you're a dreamer. 100% they'd take a lover and feed them with your money.

If ...
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If you leave even your legitimate spouse in Ghana for just one year to work overseas believing you'd come to meet the same person you left, then you're a dreamer. 100% they'd take a lover and feed them with your money.

If you're not ready to be with them, hold on till you could be together, and refrain from sending your money to them. The money should go to your mother!
Ken 9 months ago

Ofui, someone who isn't your wife and you investing and spending on her,now woaye obi dear. Some of you guys won't learn. If you had used that money to buy goats for your mother to rear,like by now,you 1,000 goats.bodamfuo

Ofui, someone who isn't your wife and you investing and spending on her,now woaye obi dear. Some of you guys won't learn. If you had used that money to buy goats for your mother to rear,like by now,you 1,000 goats.bodamfuo

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