Dating more men is a capacity building - Counselor Lutterodt

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ewiase 9 years ago

Pls when you Ghanaweb stop posting foolish post of this idiot... U see no one is commenting? Everyone is tired of this fool

Pls when you Ghanaweb stop posting foolish post of this idiot... U see no one is commenting? Everyone is tired of this fool
Nana Malik 9 years ago

In reality having sex is what happens today as part of dating.That's why Lutterot should becareful as to what he says.Its almost like encouraging multiple sexual partners.

In reality having sex is what happens today as part of dating.That's why Lutterot should becareful as to what he says.Its almost like encouraging multiple sexual partners.
Truth 9 years ago

If you had a daughter and u dear stood how men often use women and move ahead to the next conquest you would embrace what he is advising. Dating does not connote sex which is where you tripped up. When a man really wants a wo ...
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If you had a daughter and u dear stood how men often use women and move ahead to the next conquest you would embrace what he is advising. Dating does not connote sex which is where you tripped up. When a man really wants a woman for good he does not waste a lot of time around her. He moves for the kill and takes her home. The woman, knowing this aught to be open and yet protective of her own emotions and personhood until Mr. Right comes along. This counselor said nothing wrong. He should be applauded for asking our women to wake up.
yo 9 years ago

dating does not involve sex and money you forgot to add that one too. Pay as you go

dating does not involve sex and money you forgot to add that one too. Pay as you go
Ras Kunde 9 years ago

Don't just open your mouth and insult someone,if the say fool,you and counsellor who is a fool?useless goat

Don't just open your mouth and insult someone,if the say fool,you and counsellor who is a fool?useless goat
Akans Prophecies 9 years ago

Confusionist and anarchist. How can a lady date many men ! Are men objects who have no jealousy , pains , envy, irritations ,suspicions and broken hearts ? He should rather advice the animals kingdom !

Confusionist and anarchist. How can a lady date many men ! Are men objects who have no jealousy , pains , envy, irritations ,suspicions and broken hearts ? He should rather advice the animals kingdom !
Lydia 9 years ago

I don't think he's saying women should sleep with all the men they're dating. I think he's tryna say women should take a critical look at men proposing to marry them. So that they won't find any difficulty in marriage since t ...
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I don't think he's saying women should sleep with all the men they're dating. I think he's tryna say women should take a critical look at men proposing to marry them. So that they won't find any difficulty in marriage since they know who the guy is made of
Big Ben 9 years ago

What's good for the geese is equally “kosher” (good) for the gander—so goes the saying. That means, MEN can also date as any women as they please, because based on the Pastor's logic: It's a process of SELECTING the bes ...
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What's good for the geese is equally “kosher” (good) for the gander—so goes the saying. That means, MEN can also date as any women as they please, because based on the Pastor's logic: It's a process of SELECTING the best among the many and not the foolishness of Capacity building (such as how ENDURANCE that a woman or a man could be—while doing the DO!!) is doggone MISLEADING.

So, Pastor/counselor, it's "a selection process and, by golly, NOT a capacity building process" for both Wo/men.

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Emmanuel 9 years ago

Dating many men?
May be some of us need detail explanation of dating
No picking of ur fiance from office
No picking from the house
So what what is dating actually entails
So what will the woman be looking for
How does ...
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Dating many men?
May be some of us need detail explanation of dating
No picking of ur fiance from office
No picking from the house
So what what is dating actually entails
So what will the woman be looking for
How does he relate to the man to know whether he is right for her
Is just going for movies
Sitting under a tree once a month cos if he has to build capacity then the men must be more than one and if he is the busy type then by the time she get time to spend with one man it must be about four cycles
Should women den dates on mobilephones or what
I'm just confuse but please no insult
Cossay 9 years ago

Most Ghanaians can't digest the meaning of his thought hence misconstrue him.he often speaks in indirect ways. I luv him.

Most Ghanaians can't digest the meaning of his thought hence misconstrue him.he often speaks in indirect ways. I luv him.

yo 9 years ago

Becareful of INDIRECT motherfuckers. If he's speaking the truth be straight forward. Help us understand your message. Cus men can select too

Becareful of INDIRECT motherfuckers. If he's speaking the truth be straight forward. Help us understand your message. Cus men can select too
kweku sampson 9 years ago

is dis man from ghana? i knw his problem just want to be popular

is dis man from ghana? i knw his problem just want to be popular
Kay 9 years ago

Ghana man with such a name no wonder he is such a wanker

Ghana man with such a name no wonder he is such a wanker
Nettey 9 years ago

Eei den is it time for our young ladies to date more,is nt a good advice.if I may ask y cnt u leave wit 1 nd build dat building.

Eei den is it time for our young ladies to date more,is nt a good advice.if I may ask y cnt u leave wit 1 nd build dat building.
Pope 9 years ago

The fact that you don't agree with someone doesn't give you the right to insult him, are you better than he is?or has he hooked his opinion around your neck?. No wonder the youth of Today are dying like day old chicks and tha ...
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The fact that you don't agree with someone doesn't give you the right to insult him, are you better than he is?or has he hooked his opinion around your neck?. No wonder the youth of Today are dying like day old chicks and that's because they have either no respect for themselves or they are a complete disgrace to their parents.
Kay 9 years ago

Thank you for replying them. Every one is entitled to their own opinion. What he is saying is very heavy and needs deep brains to digest it. Ghanaians r very lazy when it comes to exericising our brains. We need to first unde ...
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Thank you for replying them. Every one is entitled to their own opinion. What he is saying is very heavy and needs deep brains to digest it. Ghanaians r very lazy when it comes to exericising our brains. We need to first understand the rule of the game of dating before we jump into being judgemental n rude to others. Dating, has universal and contextual meanings n least point to sex. I think the usage hear means friends 'under study'!
tweaaa 9 years ago

I think he is d truth! !! dating doesn't mean you should be having sex. it means studying each other. I don't see anything wrong with dating more than 1 person.

I think he is d truth! !! dating doesn't mean you should be having sex. it means studying each other. I don't see anything wrong with dating more than 1 person.
Purity Anderson 9 years ago

It does involve sex yes but it involve love

It does involve sex yes but it involve love
Purity Anderson 9 years ago

asem oo this man always gets me confuse
God help him understand what he sayz

asem oo this man always gets me confuse
God help him understand what he sayz
Safi 9 years ago

Most people think that dating includes having sex which is not so and therefore if you date more people you will be having multiple sex partners. Dating is the process of trying to know each other if you compatible. I don’t ...
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Most people think that dating includes having sex which is not so and therefore if you date more people you will be having multiple sex partners. Dating is the process of trying to know each other if you compatible. I don’t think there is anything wrong with what the counselor is saying. If you have your own opinion that is okay but do not insult him I don’t think that is fair.

degal 9 years ago

did u ppl read de article well ....pls go over n stop insulting him dating is nt all abt sex

did u ppl read de article well ....pls go over n stop insulting him dating is nt all abt sex
Sera 9 years ago

I think we are misunderstanding the man.When dating,you are not suppose to be in a sexual relationship.Therefore you can have more of the opposite sex friends to choose from.Hooking to one person leading to marriage is causin ...
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I think we are misunderstanding the man.When dating,you are not suppose to be in a sexual relationship.Therefore you can have more of the opposite sex friends to choose from.Hooking to one person leading to marriage is causing us a lot of making the wrong choice.
Philantropist 9 years ago

Mr Counselor, i don't side with you in the sense that you're encouraging fornication in the first place and also exposing our ladies who are of age to the contraction of HIV/AIDS. So please just come out something educative w ...
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Mr Counselor, i don't side with you in the sense that you're encouraging fornication in the first place and also exposing our ladies who are of age to the contraction of HIV/AIDS. So please just come out something educative which would serve as a guide when they found themselves dating. Besides, your statement shouldn't be mandatory.
kempes 9 years ago

The opinion of the counselor is a very fair one though I have not sometimes agreed with him on some past opinions of his.But the problem lies in our understanding of dating in this part of the world.Many young men see even th ...
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The opinion of the counselor is a very fair one though I have not sometimes agreed with him on some past opinions of his.But the problem lies in our understanding of dating in this part of the world.Many young men see even the 1st date as one that requires sexual commitment or a commitment to a serious relationship which bars the lady from dating another male friend.Our ladies on the other hand focus much on the fun and gifts aspect without paying attention to the study aspect of the date.
adangabey mavis! 9 years ago

Freedom of speech. Isn't it?

Freedom of speech. Isn't it?
Gabby 9 years ago

Thus my counsellor. I love you the more continue given as sweet words like this. Wisdom is only acceptable to the wise and not the fool. If you don't understand him, that is our own palaver. Please guys, he ALWAYS speaks the ...
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Thus my counsellor. I love you the more continue given as sweet words like this. Wisdom is only acceptable to the wise and not the fool. If you don't understand him, that is our own palaver. Please guys, he ALWAYS speaks the truth. Is just that many don't understand him. He is King Solomon of our time. I encourage ALL the youth to listen to him. Cyril the counsellor my 'god'.
Adwoa 9 years ago

Guys be patience with your thoughts. The counsellor is right. He doesn't mean ladies should sleep or have sex with those they date. The reason why most of the men doesn't like the counsellor is because he speaks the truth. An ...
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Guys be patience with your thoughts. The counsellor is right. He doesn't mean ladies should sleep or have sex with those they date. The reason why most of the men doesn't like the counsellor is because he speaks the truth. And he is also telling us about inside the mind of a man. I really like the counsellor and his teachings are good and practical. It has saved me from a guy I met in ghana whiles on holidays.
Whiles studying him I noticed that he is very cheap although he was working as a pharmacist. His consistent of begging money from me put me off. I was able to spend 15 million on him and he wanted to join me here in abroad. Guess what? Checking his status, where he lives and his lies put me off. Listening to the counsellor played a vital role in my life. Now following his advice I found my soul mate and we are happily married here in abroad and he is looking after me and our child. Even whenever I try to contribute he says no. And tells me, when he needs help he will let me know.
Concern Parent 9 years ago

Simple this guy is a anti christ,all he preaches or says is against the scriptures period,he should be careful some jealous partner dont plant bullet in is corrupt brians

Simple this guy is a anti christ,all he preaches or says is against the scriptures period,he should be careful some jealous partner dont plant bullet in is corrupt brians
akos 9 years ago

U ppl always understand counselor at different angles bt nt wat he really mean so stop insulting him pls is his mind .so question is wat is ur mind also dan we lrn from each other das all

U ppl always understand counselor at different angles bt nt wat he really mean so stop insulting him pls is his mind .so question is wat is ur mind also dan we lrn from each other das all
C4 9 years ago

Advice your sisters and daughters on that note.In some cases your first date will be your soul mate,what about that Mr.Rev.counselor

Advice your sisters and daughters on that note.In some cases your first date will be your soul mate,what about that Mr.Rev.counselor

COUNSELOR LUTTERODT 9 years ago

pls let all remember that dating in not a relationship so any women in a date who allows her self to be use sexually and materially has been called a prostitute by the man you are only studying them don't give yourself out pl ...
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pls let all remember that dating in not a relationship so any women in a date who allows her self to be use sexually and materially has been called a prostitute by the man you are only studying them don't give yourself out please.Amen.
MARK OFORI 9 years ago

WHO IS THIS DEVIL SENT BEING ENTERTAIN IN THIS ALREADY CONFUSED COUNTRY. CHASE HIM OUT NOW.

WHO IS THIS DEVIL SENT BEING ENTERTAIN IN THIS ALREADY CONFUSED COUNTRY. CHASE HIM OUT NOW.
mary 9 years ago

Counselor i love you, u always speak the truth keep it up

Counselor i love you, u always speak the truth keep it up
zookeeper 9 years ago

he is m a disgrace to the scripture

he is m a disgrace to the scripture
Zee 9 years ago

Wack counselor fake man

Wack counselor fake man
mensah 9 years ago

this guy will always be a concert party counselor

this guy will always be a concert party counselor
peeeee 9 years ago

I think he is trying to say that the first wall you crash into shouldn't necessarily be your end point,,there is life out there!!don't be a slave,,or committed to years of sadness

I think he is trying to say that the first wall you crash into shouldn't necessarily be your end point,,there is life out there!!don't be a slave,,or committed to years of sadness
Quays 9 years ago

Where did he studied to be a marriage counselor. And who told him that "" A WOMAN DATING MANY MEN OR VICE VERSA IS A CAPACITY BUILDING. That is presumably ill counseling. And a woman giving a promise RING IS NOT A CURSE.Pleas ...
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Where did he studied to be a marriage counselor. And who told him that "" A WOMAN DATING MANY MEN OR VICE VERSA IS A CAPACITY BUILDING. That is presumably ill counseling. And a woman giving a promise RING IS NOT A CURSE.Please there're matured marriage counselor within the Church and as such it's not because someone has the money to come on air is a qualified person.
Ebenezer 9 years ago

WALKING CONTRADICTION !

WALKING CONTRADICTION !
the lone Prophet of Jehovah 9 years ago

Is he a Rev? Turning the bible upside down,dating and having sex is fornication according to my bible,because I don't know the kind of Bible the Rev has in preaching or studying ( I Corinthians Chapter 6) Galatians 5;19-26 is ...
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Is he a Rev? Turning the bible upside down,dating and having sex is fornication according to my bible,because I don't know the kind of Bible the Rev has in preaching or studying ( I Corinthians Chapter 6) Galatians 5;19-26 is a clear picture and many more chapters so be it Alleluia
BABANGIDA CASAGRANDE 9 years ago

DO WE HAVE TO BELIEVE THIS COMEDIAN WHEN HE SAYS GA/AYIGBEYS CHEAT MORE THAN ANY OTHER ETHNIC GROUPS!?

DO WE HAVE TO BELIEVE THIS COMEDIAN WHEN HE SAYS GA/AYIGBEYS CHEAT MORE THAN ANY OTHER ETHNIC GROUPS!?
joe 9 years ago

you are right Mr counselor,but no sex

you are right Mr counselor,but no sex
respect people opinion 9 years ago

what he is saying is what is happening since sometime and still happening. He is victim because he said it in mass media. friends, famillies and others counsellors say the same thing to either sex for so many tangible reasons ...
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what he is saying is what is happening since sometime and still happening. He is victim because he said it in mass media. friends, famillies and others counsellors say the same thing to either sex for so many tangible reasons such as, unpreparedness or unreadiness by one person, characterwise, religious/tribe issues, economy background, education, faithfullness, unreliability, HYPOCRYSY etc. Please ASK him to explain further anything he said and you did NOT understand. i think he is REALISTIC and say things happening and people pretending about. Please ask yourself how many ladies or guys are you DATING now or you have dated in the past at the same time. or look around society you are if you will not see these close to you. Please DONT equate dating to sex. those people you go out with and tell your boyfriend or girlfriend that they are JUST your friend eventhough some are your secret friends, what does it mean???????
jackson 9 years ago

Man of God.some theories are worth applying in the western world and runs at variance in the african set up.lets beware of how we spew them for public consumption.you know lots of us do not research into issues.we treat them ...
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Man of God.some theories are worth applying in the western world and runs at variance in the african set up.lets beware of how we spew them for public consumption.you know lots of us do not research into issues.we treat them on their face value ,its therefore incumbent upon us to be economical with the hard truth .(if you dare alot of uninformed people would run you down)thanks.
SIMPLY GEORGE 9 years ago

Well said counsellor Lutterordt but give me your wife and girlfriends to set a good example. Since they are licensed to fuck as many men as they want, I will love to volunteer to fuck your wedded wife and your girlfriends.

Well said counsellor Lutterordt but give me your wife and girlfriends to set a good example. Since they are licensed to fuck as many men as they want, I will love to volunteer to fuck your wedded wife and your girlfriends.
Titus 9 years ago

fucking counselor

fucking counselor
Titus 9 years ago

don't mind dix fucking counselor,he should advice his children on dis.

don't mind dix fucking counselor,he should advice his children on dis.
kooob 9 years ago

So can men also date many ladies to finally settle with a good one? We not talking abut common sense here we are talking abut feelings. How would u feel if u find out the one u dating is also dating another person.

So can men also date many ladies to finally settle with a good one? We not talking abut common sense here we are talking abut feelings. How would u feel if u find out the one u dating is also dating another person.
Aj 9 years ago

Modern society seem to have lost the purpose of dating for sexual relationship. If not until one is married there is no point limiting friendship with the opposit sex to one main person. The cause of rivalry and unecessary he ...
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Modern society seem to have lost the purpose of dating for sexual relationship. If not until one is married there is no point limiting friendship with the opposit sex to one main person. The cause of rivalry and unecessary heartaches .
A concerned citizen............222 9 years ago

Please pastor you have goofed big time. These are demonic teachens

Please pastor you have goofed big time. These are demonic teachens
nee 9 years ago

sometimes it's hurting when speak and people try to read meanings to what are you are saying.What's actually wrong with what the counselor said?. I believe people doesn't understand what dating is. Dating is a form of courtsh ...
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sometimes it's hurting when speak and people try to read meanings to what are you are saying.What's actually wrong with what the counselor said?. I believe people doesn't understand what dating is. Dating is a form of courtship consisting of social activities done by two people with the aim of each assessing the other’s suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship or as a spouse. While the term has several meanings, it usually refers to the act of meeting and engaging in some mutually agreed upon social activity in public, together, as a couple. The man never said having several sex partners.lack of knowledge, people are insulting the man
John 9 years ago

Pls wat s de difference between Dating ,Relationship ,n courtship .

Pls wat s de difference between Dating ,Relationship ,n courtship .
Asea Ho 9 years ago

This man who is held in some media circles as a counselor is full of misleading counsels.

Dating or going steady is the equivalent of the Akan "mpenatwi". It is different from friendship courting. The difference is in one' ...
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This man who is held in some media circles as a counselor is full of misleading counsels.

Dating or going steady is the equivalent of the Akan "mpenatwi". It is different from friendship courting. The difference is in one's belief. For the ungodly/immoral dating activities my include physical sex while the godly/moralist sex is not part of the activities.

In as much as you can keep many friends of the opposite sex, you cannot date or go steady with more than one person. At this point one is thinking of marriage and has zero in to one person.

The counselor need to revise his notes.
Kwesi 9 years ago

some of his views are good, some are off the mark. Some are just outside the parameters of the bible. Like when he said a husband cannot love his wife, because no man can love one woman. But the bible asks husbands and wives ...
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some of his views are good, some are off the mark. Some are just outside the parameters of the bible. Like when he said a husband cannot love his wife, because no man can love one woman. But the bible asks husbands and wives to love each other, so he is wrong.
Bo 9 years ago

It is only in Ghana that charlatans will always use the name of God to do their evil. Where is it written in the Bible that ladies can date more than one man in order to select from them.
This advice is unbiblical and from ...
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It is only in Ghana that charlatans will always use the name of God to do their evil. Where is it written in the Bible that ladies can date more than one man in order to select from them.
This advice is unbiblical and from the pit of hell.
Bo 9 years ago

It is only in Ghana that charlatans will always use the name of God their for their own way. Where in the Bible was stated that ladies can date more than one man in order to select from them. This is from the pit of hell must ...
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It is only in Ghana that charlatans will always use the name of God their for their own way. Where in the Bible was stated that ladies can date more than one man in order to select from them. This is from the pit of hell must be ignored.
Mark 9 years ago

Ignorance is strength. There's a vast difference between dating and courtship. Pls do your research before you keep calling someone 'foolish'

Ignorance is strength. There's a vast difference between dating and courtship. Pls do your research before you keep calling someone 'foolish'
Akabu Cecilia Delali 9 years ago

Do not misconstrued the man. What The man said is true , dating is different from courtship. U can date many men, but that doesn't mean u are going to bed with them.

Do not misconstrued the man. What The man said is true , dating is different from courtship. U can date many men, but that doesn't mean u are going to bed with them.
ODASENI 9 years ago

If you really understand what dating means, then he has said nothing wrong. It is simply a time when one gets to very casually know someone. No touching, just talking, most people have actually dated without knowing. Please d ...
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If you really understand what dating means, then he has said nothing wrong. It is simply a time when one gets to very casually know someone. No touching, just talking, most people have actually dated without knowing. Please dating is not tasting!
Ghanaian 9 years ago

Simple minds tend to wholly accept notions they can identify with and, consequently, the purveyors of those notions. A well-formed mind knows that even the wisest of humans make mistakes. Before you fully embrace what anyone ...
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Simple minds tend to wholly accept notions they can identify with and, consequently, the purveyors of those notions. A well-formed mind knows that even the wisest of humans make mistakes. Before you fully embrace what anyone tells you, ask yourself if you can think of an instance whereby what they are saying doesn't apply. If you can find a single such instance, have the courage to reject whatever it is they are saying, no matter how 'sweet' it sounds to you or how much you want to believe it. This man may make sense in many a case but he has allowed himself to believe that he is some sort of inerrant bastion of truth. There as many people wiser than him as there are people he is wiser than. He should, therefore, stop spouting his opinions as if they are universal truths...that amounts to pride. He will do himself a lot of good if he trades arrogance for empathy, and replaces pretentious display of wisdom with a genuine desire for wisdom. He will help a lot more people (and be taken more seriously by critical minds) if he realises that humans are complex non-linear beings, and so prescribing a one-for-all drug to the human relational condition does not actually cure anyone.
alfa-alfa 9 years ago

Rev. Counsellor Lutterodt, If you have been reported correctly, is this warped and depraved concept to foment sexual promiscuity what you call capacity building? Do you mean every girl or woman should size up how many men sh ...
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Rev. Counsellor Lutterodt, If you have been reported correctly, is this warped and depraved concept to foment sexual promiscuity what you call capacity building? Do you mean every girl or woman should size up how many men she can sleep with at a time before settling down to marry? Is this morally decadent idea reflective of the chastity and holiness of the body as the temple of God that the Christian Church preaches or what you learned in Seminary?

Who knows how many women, girls or even men, of your congregation you have used to build your own immoral capacity.

To say the least, your utterances, especially, regarding the subject to which you have exposed yourself, are a disgrace not only to the Church, but to your illustrious Lutterodt family of Danish Osu from where sprang personalities like Father Lutterodt of the Anglican Church, Awaya Lutterodt, Osa Lutterodt and other high achievers.

Your Church should throw the searchlight on your morality and fitness to continue to wear the clericals.
AkuA 9 years ago

Yes. A woman can date more than 1 man but please dont brand it 'capacity building'. In sch I learned the forms of dating....Group dating..random dating and steady dating...it's actually a process to make my view complete kin ...
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Yes. A woman can date more than 1 man but please dont brand it 'capacity building'. In sch I learned the forms of dating....Group dating..random dating and steady dating...it's actually a process to make my view complete kindly get Management In Living textbook from any shs home economics student and read on dating...I enjoyed that particular lesson....thanks.
Steve 9 years ago

Perhaps those of u insulting counsellor Lutterodt,don't understand what dating is else u wouldn't say ' are men not jealous n all that'. Pls try n understand what he meant b4_commenting n pls let's b civil in our comments n e ...
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Perhaps those of u insulting counsellor Lutterodt,don't understand what dating is else u wouldn't say ' are men not jealous n all that'. Pls try n understand what he meant b4_commenting n pls let's b civil in our comments n eschew insults.

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