My boyfriend left me after 6 years because I was too educated – Woman shares first heartbreak

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FRANKIE 1 year ago

Couldn't you have gotten married to the love of your youth and still furthered your education? I also hope you were not rubbing your quest for higher education in his face, as that could have led to feelings of insecurity. Yo ...
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Couldn't you have gotten married to the love of your youth and still furthered your education? I also hope you were not rubbing your quest for higher education in his face, as that could have led to feelings of insecurity. You did not tell us the level of his education but if he is stuck at SHS level and you're moving on to master's and beyond then it's OK you broke up. Conversation would be difficult in future as you'll be talking of AI and the other nanotechnology and gnomes while he'll be talking about rat traps in the forest.
SO CLEAN 1 year ago

So after all the school and losing your boyfriend, you discovered it was just cooking you loved? Then you were schooling for nothing in particular. Reading degrees like thermometer.

So after all the school and losing your boyfriend, you discovered it was just cooking you loved? Then you were schooling for nothing in particular. Reading degrees like thermometer.
KOFI 1 year ago

@FRANKIE and @SO CLEAN have made me laugh loud by the choice of words and expressions.
Yes, educated women will fall off the marriage spectrum as we fight for equality (whatever it means) as a post modern world. It will cont ...
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@FRANKIE and @SO CLEAN have made me laugh loud by the choice of words and expressions.
Yes, educated women will fall off the marriage spectrum as we fight for equality (whatever it means) as a post modern world. It will continue to happen increasingly in Ghana and in Africa as a whole.

This phenomenon is researched in the US already and Black American women are felling the brunt much more than the other communities. The Indian females are doping better followed by the Arab women. Their culture is such that whoever the woman is she should know that she has a head in her husband. For example you will find Indian women who are IT Engineers, Pharmacists or Certified Accountants but their husband is an Uber driver. This will not happen in Black homes. No way. Therefore you will find women from those communities and also the Chinese communities normally married.

In the Black communities, mothers, aunties and so called women's interest groups tell their daughters at a young age that men are useless and indeed disposable. These girls grow with that mentality so they do not prioritise marriage then all of a sudden, they come out of University and come to the realisation that they don't even have a boyfriend and indeed the course they studied - Sociology, Psychology, Communication - is not cutting it in the world. They now try to go back to the young men they did not see through their educational journey but those guys either don't want them or just have sex with them then dump them.

We observe this same pattern on one of my professional endeavours in the UK. At graduation, you will observe girls from different communities having their boyfriends, fiances, husband attending with them. Another trend which is plain for all of us to see is that high value black young men are in relationships with these girls from other backgrounds other than Black girls. You will find that these young men are in IT, Pharmacy, Project Management, Architecture and so on. Either completed or just about to.

The black girls attend their graduation ceremonies with their brother(s) and dads and they are very loud as if to say, hey, i don't care. I am the princess, i don't give a f*ck about who likes me or not. You will find them bundled together taking photographs making so much noise. As faculty, we discuss this phenomenon always and the black females among us are also not married of course and those who have gained my trust tell me in plain language that this is how they behaved at university and they are now left unmarried and lonely.

The Indian girls are now rebelling against their cultural norms and pursuing high valued Black boys and this is another face in the competition black girls in the education system in UK and US have to contend with. These girls are pretty and downright traditional.

The Black communities took this equality too far. Families told their young girls to concentrate on their education as men are only trouble and of no good. Get as highly educated as possible and get a good job and a man will walk into your life and this is after many men have used you through your educational journey as she believed men are disposable. Men however, have an innate need to get a woman who have not been passed around many times. Many of the other communities tell their girls that priorities boyfriends through High School and University as the day you get out of university, your value to men drops in the main. The women in these other communities even tell their daughters to bring home their friend and the mums make sure the boy is received well.

Personally, my nephew studying at a university in the US is being pursued vigorously by a girl of Asian decent. This girl is a year behind him and she is playing her cards so well, even bringing home cooked food to him on campus as she is from that University town. I told my sister that her mum is at the centre of all this. This is what other communities are doing with the so called equality, feminism, womanism, misandry and so on.

Please forgive me because it is something i have look into.
Mr. Good 1 year ago

Wow..
Very good information and thoughts, Kofi.

Wow..
Very good information and thoughts, Kofi.
Dadzie Baah 1 year ago

You just wrote a bunch of not so complete truths. All over the world, people of the same culture marry each other. There are countless black educated women who have equally black educated husbands. Plus its a general rule tha ...
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You just wrote a bunch of not so complete truths. All over the world, people of the same culture marry each other. There are countless black educated women who have equally black educated husbands. Plus its a general rule that educated women marry educated men, that's everywhere.

People of all races MAKE LOUD NOISES during graduation lmao. Well that's your personal anecdote, mine differs.

Peace
NOT NICE 1 year ago

Glad she got her education, but there are probably more or better reasons the guy ran. What does she think about her weight? Some love them big, but I envision 'mission impossible'!

Glad she got her education, but there are probably more or better reasons the guy ran. What does she think about her weight? Some love them big, but I envision 'mission impossible'!
KOFI 1 year ago

Bro, yes some educated women get married to educated men but the proportions tell the story better.
Generalities are accepted here and its a way of understanding the phenomenon.

Bro, yes some educated women get married to educated men but the proportions tell the story better.
Generalities are accepted here and its a way of understanding the phenomenon.
Gborlahn 1 year ago

@Dadzie. When I advise someone to wear a crash helmet, there's usually that one person who says he knows someone who died in a motorcycle accident even though he had a helmet on, to the amusement of the audience. It's not fun ...
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@Dadzie. When I advise someone to wear a crash helmet, there's usually that one person who says he knows someone who died in a motorcycle accident even though he had a helmet on, to the amusement of the audience. It's not funny.

In such instances I'm unable to proceed in my argument for the wearing of a crash helmet even though I have benefited on two occasions from having one on since first mounting a motorcycle in the nineties.
Zeporopo 1 year ago

@Kofi, you nailed it right. Good writeup.

@Kofi, you nailed it right. Good writeup.
Gborlahn 1 year ago

@Kofi. I don't usually read long articles here but your presentation got me going till the end. Well done. Some movies highlight your write-up so well. I'm unable to readily name some. And before anyone comes here to say movi ...
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@Kofi. I don't usually read long articles here but your presentation got me going till the end. Well done. Some movies highlight your write-up so well. I'm unable to readily name some. And before anyone comes here to say movies shouldn't be taken seriously, let me say that some directors really do their research very well and a lot, of academic value could be learnt from such movies.

Samuel Aidoo 1 year ago

A well-conducted research. Good job!

A well-conducted research. Good job!
Yaovi 1 year ago

False information, how can JHS through SHS, First Degree, do some work a little then discussion of Master's Degree be of a period of 6 years?

False information, how can JHS through SHS, First Degree, do some work a little then discussion of Master's Degree be of a period of 6 years?
SIGMA LONDON 1 year ago

This is no news! Who want to hear Ananse stories?

This is no news! Who want to hear Ananse stories?
YOU ARE FUNNY BUT RIGHT 1 year ago

This is pure concert. Normally a story like this only starts to make sense when both parties are able to tell their side of the story. One person is right until the other person opens their mouth.

This is pure concert. Normally a story like this only starts to make sense when both parties are able to tell their side of the story. One person is right until the other person opens their mouth.
Aba Eninful 1 year ago

Hehehe Frankie, you're too much. I believe his level of education is the same as Bastie's, hence his insecurity.

Hehehe Frankie, you're too much. I believe his level of education is the same as Bastie's, hence his insecurity.
Dr. Richard Gamasu (Atlanta. GA) 1 year ago

Frankie, I really enjoy reading your contributions. Please stop hurting my spleen. My family doctor is very expensive, and I don't want to have these recurrent trips to his office, because you are causing me to laugh hard and ...
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Frankie, I really enjoy reading your contributions. Please stop hurting my spleen. My family doctor is very expensive, and I don't want to have these recurrent trips to his office, because you are causing me to laugh hard and rapture some internal organs. You are so hilarious.
Dadebo 1 year ago

Something somewhere I wish that guy would also come forward to tell his story.

Something somewhere I wish that guy would also come forward to tell his story.
godfather 1 year ago

A lot of ladies who are well educated or have money or have fame really finds it hard getting men to marry. Men don't have the guts to make the first move and such ladies too will not make the move.

A lot of ladies who are well educated or have money or have fame really finds it hard getting men to marry. Men don't have the guts to make the first move and such ladies too will not make the move.
P Djamgbe 1 year ago

I want to POUND TRUMU. Ghanaians say Yes to lgbt

I want to POUND TRUMU. Ghanaians say Yes to lgbt
Yamoo 1 year ago

Yes .Highly educated women are threatening to men and that is so sad. We are in the mordern world so these men should drop this acake mentality and accept the positive aspects of the new era.

Yes .Highly educated women are threatening to men and that is so sad. We are in the mordern world so these men should drop this acake mentality and accept the positive aspects of the new era.

Nee 1 year ago

It is not aboutnthem being treat but the fact on the ground remains that some of these women does not even respect their men after EARNING higher than them.

It is not aboutnthem being treat but the fact on the ground remains that some of these women does not even respect their men after EARNING higher than them.
NY 1 year ago

Thank God he was your boyfriend and not your life friend. Let him go. Pray for the right person who will share in your dreams to marry you. All it meant was that, he was the wrong person for you.

Thank God he was your boyfriend and not your life friend. Let him go. Pray for the right person who will share in your dreams to marry you. All it meant was that, he was the wrong person for you.
KWASI IN EUROPE 1 year ago

It is good that she is cooking. In Germany it is common for a graduate to later go to a catering school (Kochschule) to learn how to cook and become a cook. Some end up learning carpentary, auto mechanics etc. In Ghana, gradu ...
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It is good that she is cooking. In Germany it is common for a graduate to later go to a catering school (Kochschule) to learn how to cook and become a cook. Some end up learning carpentary, auto mechanics etc. In Ghana, graduates will form Unemployed Graduates Association when they can easily learn bread baking, fitting etc. That makes the difference between their mentality and our mentality.
Joe 1 year ago

Let him run for his life

Let him run for his life
Nee 1 year ago

I think the guy did what he did out of experience or stories that he have heard. Some women will treat their husband bad after achieving higher education than them. He does not want to wait and help her through school then su ...
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I think the guy did what he did out of experience or stories that he have heard. Some women will treat their husband bad after achieving higher education than them. He does not want to wait and help her through school then suffer later. She may not be like another one but who can predict future.
Fila 1 year ago

He don't want to hear anything like, "I am not your class" after you think you have made it due to higher education.

He don't want to hear anything like, "I am not your class" after you think you have made it due to higher education.
NOT NICE 1 year ago

WELL, MONKEYS PLAY IN SIZES!

WELL, MONKEYS PLAY IN SIZES!
Afram 1 year ago

Newsworthy....?? Seriously....??

Newsworthy....?? Seriously....??
FOOLISH BOY! 1 year ago

He should go and marry an ekurasinii who will be twerking on Tiktok and showing her dross to the whole world!

He should go and marry an ekurasinii who will be twerking on Tiktok and showing her dross to the whole world!
Dan 1 year ago

It's a choice to mary a ekurasini or educated woman. How many of the educated ones are on TikTok twerking too? Discipline and love is equally important.

It's a choice to mary a ekurasini or educated woman. How many of the educated ones are on TikTok twerking too? Discipline and love is equally important.

body and soul 1 year ago

love is not about education, fame or wealth except in Ghana whereby wealth, fame and prestige are next to God hence our current situation.

love is not about education, fame or wealth except in Ghana whereby wealth, fame and prestige are next to God hence our current situation.
Gborlahn 1 year ago

Sex destroys a beautiful relationship on the way to marriage. I heard that years ago and applied it to my relationship. I'm now happily married by His grace.

Almost ten years in marriage and I can say that even in marria ...
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Sex destroys a beautiful relationship on the way to marriage. I heard that years ago and applied it to my relationship. I'm now happily married by His grace.

Almost ten years in marriage and I can say that even in marriage, if there's nothing exciting to look forward to apart from sex, one can easily start cheating, abandon the marriage or seek divorce so it doesn't surprise me one bit when people in relationships break up after having sex.

For some strange reason you have got to be in love with one another to put sex on hold till you get married.

I look back now and realise how difficult or hopeless it is for people in primary school, JHS or even SHS to say they are in a relationship and waiting to get married in future. It's going to be very difficult but not impossible.
Brigadier Sabari v2 1 year ago

Ei Maame L3 are you sure? Don't you think looks and suban played a part?

Ei Maame L3 are you sure? Don't you think looks and suban played a part?
CHOOSE CAREFULLY.DON'T THROW YOUR PEARLS TO PIGS 1 year ago

It is very wise to choose your prospective or future spouse very carefully .Why throw your pearls to pigs? They will simply trample on them or even worse s*** on you as this poor lady has found out to her cost. What would hav ...
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It is very wise to choose your prospective or future spouse very carefully .Why throw your pearls to pigs? They will simply trample on them or even worse s*** on you as this poor lady has found out to her cost. What would have life been like if she had paid close attention to her values? Her story is repeated countless times all over the world.
The values you have primarily determine your choices. If you, believe in honoring God, believe in integrity, honesty, discipline gentleness, kindness, respect and consideration for others, hard work and healthy ambition, frugality and a long-term vision then you will look for these same priceless traits in a potential lifetime partner in marriage. Sex is an extremely powerful glue which is most safely applied WITHIN marriage between two people with very similar values (as listed above) who have spent a lot of time (out of the bed) getting to know each other well and are agreed about the direction they want to go. Don't allow yourself to get glued to a "pig" and avoid being a "pig" yourself by having good values. PAYING ATTENTION TO THESE PRECIOUS VALUES (PEARLS) GREATLY INCREASES YOUR CHANCES OF SURVIVING AND PROSPERING WITHIN MARRIAGE. Marriage is hard work once the Honeymoon is over and you have to persevere to make it successful .
kwaku-holland 1 year ago

Very insightful and thoughtful write-up! Doff off my hat to you! As an old-young man reading your comment, I must admit, I was glued to every single word. Keep it up!

Very insightful and thoughtful write-up! Doff off my hat to you! As an old-young man reading your comment, I must admit, I was glued to every single word. Keep it up!
Republic Gift 1 year ago

Thank God for saving you from an unambitious primitive man.

Thank God for saving you from an unambitious primitive man.
Madam take it in good fate 1 year ago

I just don't understand why people are so into this thing called marriage....??
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Not every system invented by man in existence in this world is moulded ( made ) for everyone, and marriage is not excluded....
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I just don't understand why people are so into this thing called marriage....??
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Not every system invented by man in existence in this world is moulded ( made ) for everyone, and marriage is not excluded....
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Marriage is a choice, but society makes it look like, it's an obligation....
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In this modern era, one can archive everything including producing children and either living with your partner or without living with your partner and must not necessarily be married....
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It is not a crime to deliberately choose to run a single or solo lifestyle with happiness, stressfree and harmony....
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Young lady, you did no wrong, the guy was not meant for you, so be proud he couldn't succeed in holding you back in pursuing your educational dreams.
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Nowadays ladies don't even need to sleep with men to be able to produce children, thanks to scientific evolution, ladies of this modern days can simply go a SPERMS DONOR FACILITY and buy sperms for reproduction, by themselves, for themselves, without the need to sleep with a man at the first place,....
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This modern times of scientific evolution makes marriages even more NEEDLESS OR UNNECESSARY....
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MARRIAGE IS A CHOICE, and NOT AN OBLIGATION AND ALSO, NOT MEANT FOR EVERYONE....
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Yaovi 1 year ago

Have you checked whether marriage was invented by man?

Have you checked whether marriage was invented by man?
Ghanaians hate truth 1 year ago

Kindly show us where to check that marriage is not man made invention.. i.e... MAN MADE CONCEPT....
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I hope you are aware that MARRIAGE IS STRICTLY EACH AND EVERY INDIVIDUAL'S CHOICE ( not mandatory or a force ...
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Kindly show us where to check that marriage is not man made invention.. i.e... MAN MADE CONCEPT....
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I hope you are aware that MARRIAGE IS STRICTLY EACH AND EVERY INDIVIDUAL'S CHOICE ( not mandatory or a force ) across the entire globe....
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Because marriage is a choice, that's why, THERE IS A CHOICE TO EITHER STAY IN A MARRIAGE OR DIVORCE ( runaway ).....
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The concept of marriage NEVER FELL directly from the sky....
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MARRIAGE IS HUMAN MADE CONCEPT...
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Unless you are one of those religious brainwashed ones, who claim otherwise about marriage
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YB 1 year ago

Too arrogant or too educated?

Too arrogant or too educated?
Jb 1 year ago

Madam, it's not the issue of being over educated but how you and other educated women carry yourselves. Many of the so-called educated women tend to think with the credentials, you outgrow oare beyond the responsibilities tha ...
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Madam, it's not the issue of being over educated but how you and other educated women carry yourselves. Many of the so-called educated women tend to think with the credentials, you outgrow oare beyond the responsibilities that come with marriage. Why is it that educated men are prepared to marry down but not the other way round?
Tweaa 1 year ago

Keep on lady , you are doing the right thing May God bless you

Keep on lady , you are doing the right thing May God bless you
X..X 1 year ago

Nonsense, God doesn't condone promiscuity. Why should a girl at JSS start having sex continuosly from that level upwards when she's not married? You people have reduced God to the level of a senile old man who is so weak and ...
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Nonsense, God doesn't condone promiscuity. Why should a girl at JSS start having sex continuosly from that level upwards when she's not married? You people have reduced God to the level of a senile old man who is so weak and doesn't see or feel bad about the filthy lives we are living
Lack of respect makes men leave 1 year ago

It’s not true, you let your education get to your head and forgot to keep giving Jim’s the respect you once did

It’s not true, you let your education get to your head and forgot to keep giving Jim’s the respect you once did
Joe Joe 1 year ago

Cos you were too bossy on him so he left you

Cos you were too bossy on him so he left you
Kubut3 1 year ago

Some of these Ghanaian women, goes to church, especially the one man churches, study at the universities and think they're something else . I don't like the girls that goes to the one man churches. Their mind is fcked up . ...
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Some of these Ghanaian women, goes to church, especially the one man churches, study at the universities and think they're something else . I don't like the girls that goes to the one man churches. Their mind is fcked up . They're brain washed fanatics. They trust their church leaders more than their partners. Has it occurred to this beautiful and "educated" lady that the guy left her because she is not that good looking or doesn't dress properly ?
Agyaaku 1 year ago

Education can always wait. Marriage cannot. This lady could have married and still continue with her schooling. Now what next? Other ladies should not make that mistake.

Education can always wait. Marriage cannot. This lady could have married and still continue with her schooling. Now what next? Other ladies should not make that mistake.
Hahaha 1 year ago

Smart guy he knows you will disappoint him after ur degree hahaha

Smart guy he knows you will disappoint him after ur degree hahaha
Anonymous 1 year ago

Another liar is here showing her big breast looking like a male as well. Ghanaian ladies are ugly….

Another liar is here showing her big breast looking like a male as well. Ghanaian ladies are ugly….
Neenyi Obo 1 year ago

You tends to forget that it's was your attitude and character that sent your guy away.

You tends to forget that it's was your attitude and character that sent your guy away.
Kofi Ghanaba 1 year ago

Her boyfriend left her because her breast were too big.

Her boyfriend left her because her breast were too big.
Gborlahn 1 year ago

Nowhere in there does it say the boyfriend is blind. I believe this girl has been busty from the very beginning of the relationship. If he didn't fancy big breasts, he should have left her for those who do.

A lot of you g ...
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Nowhere in there does it say the boyfriend is blind. I believe this girl has been busty from the very beginning of the relationship. If he didn't fancy big breasts, he should have left her for those who do.

A lot of you guys like to tamper with things that don't belong to you. That's very wicked.
Ato 1 year ago

The guy did not married her because of her mouth and attitude not your education.

The guy did not married her because of her mouth and attitude not your education.
GpS 1 year ago

Who is educated in Ghana? Nothing is working in the country. Our education is not helping us to build the nation so we are not educated. A Thinker is the most educated person. Able to use the brains to solve problems is educa ...
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Who is educated in Ghana? Nothing is working in the country. Our education is not helping us to build the nation so we are not educated. A Thinker is the most educated person. Able to use the brains to solve problems is educated person. We don't have educated people in the country that is why institutions don't work in Ghana. Galamsey, corruption, lawless everywhere in the country. Who is responsible to fight galamsey, corruption, to keep our streets clean, sanitation, to make institutions work? All these people are monkeys in suites they know nothing. They can't apply their brains. That is why THEY call us third world nations, the ability to think is most important. Wise up Africans
The Don 1 year ago

You mean it took him six years to realise that you are educated?

You mean it took him six years to realise that you are educated?
Dan 1 year ago

He simply got a more beautiful woman than you. You don't look cute. To even tell your boyfriend to wait until you complete your studies is suspicious. What prevents you from marrying while studying?

He simply got a more beautiful woman than you. You don't look cute. To even tell your boyfriend to wait until you complete your studies is suspicious. What prevents you from marrying while studying?
Kanewu 1 year ago

Go and Marry your masters.

Go and Marry your masters.
Allawa 1 year ago

6 years with a boyfriend. That is half a decade in marriage. Most marriages take a nose dive after 5 years and most break ups occur. Those who sail through, make it.
My dear, it was bad advice to be a girl friend for 6 ye ...
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6 years with a boyfriend. That is half a decade in marriage. Most marriages take a nose dive after 5 years and most break ups occur. Those who sail through, make it.
My dear, it was bad advice to be a girl friend for 6 years. Don't do it again. Look for a man ready to marry

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