Marriages fail or succeed mostly because of the man - Pastor Mensa Otabil

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REBECCA 1 month ago

This criminal will never talk anything sensible. did the Bank also failed because of god.

This criminal will never talk anything sensible. did the Bank also failed because of god.
FRANKIE 1 month ago

Adherence to this archaic thinking of sacrifice by men, according to Otabil will make women ride men like senseless donkeys and mules.
SLAV£RY OF MEN BY WOMEN
Every Man irrespective of who they are must read the book by a ...
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Adherence to this archaic thinking of sacrifice by men, according to Otabil will make women ride men like senseless donkeys and mules.
SLAV£RY OF MEN BY WOMEN
Every Man irrespective of who they are must read the book by a German writer Esther Villar In her book "The Manipulated Man"
This book has caused outrage and hostile criticism from women, it explains how women since the earliest times have manipulated men and turned them into their slaves, they have *pretended* to be the oppressed sex while in the real sense they are the oppressors.
She explains how a woman manipulates a man skillfully by steps like *courtship* and finally *marriage* , hence the saying “ *a man chases a woman until SHE catches him”* .
In her book she explains how the man is *tricked* to care for the woman all his life and her offspring.
He rolls the stone like *Sisyphus* and in turn gets rewarded by a few minutes of s£xual pleasure.
We can, by observing Esther Villars assertions that a man is a slave of his desires and the woman uses and has used it for thousands of years as a stick and carrot to keep the man chasing vanity and commit his life to serving her.
She goes ahead to explain the *rivalry of women* , how each woman feels the powerful urge and need to own a male for herself.
Like a *sl@ve owner* she detests any move the man would make to offer his services to another woman. She uses all means to keep the man to herself and her offspring alone.
Esther Villar's sentiments are captured by Nigerian Poet, critic and writer, Chinweizu Ibekwe in his book, “The Anatomy of Female Power” (AFP) and Will Farrel's, “The Predatory Female”.
They all push the theory that all societies are matriarchal and not patriarchal as we are pushed and forced to believe. *Matriarchy has ruled not through brawn but wits and tricks;* women feigning weakness to be protected etc. Thus the male becomes the most exploited s.£¥ in human history, (in wars the man is always ready to die for the woman; he has been trained to do that).
Chinweizu calls the idea of *dating* and *courtship* , *training*, like that of a horse. It is during this time that a woman having kept the man on a leash by denying him s.£¥ and getting him addicted to her by false charms, trains and breaks him to whatever she wants him to become.
The marriage celebration becomes a celebration for the *woman and her friends,* and they all congratulate her for having succeeded in getting herself a *slave* .
A man on that *wedding* day waves goodbye to his independence and his coalition of males and commits himself to a *Sisyphean* life, rolling the stone, an act he cannot abandon having *society* and the *government* checking on him and always ready to *jail* , *shame* or *exile* him for absconding his duties of slavery.
Thus the government and society helps the woman in keeping her *slave*(man) in check.
Chinweizu gives a narration of how women are trained by older matriarchs to *tame* men. He explains how a man is trained to rely on women by his own mother.
A man is *shamed for cooking* for himself and other domestic chores by his *own mother* who is an agent of the global matriarchal rule.
By getting the man to hate *domestic* works and having it enforced by culture which warns men against going into the kitchen, doing *laundry* etc.
The mother trains his son for the woman who will captivate him and when the time comes she takes hold of the man's stomach and by getting the man addicted to her body she holds him by the two, in *bed* and in the *kitchen* .
With those two weapons she manipulates the man and turns him into her plaything.
In the “Myth of the Male Power”, Esther Villar's “A Man's Right to the Other Woman”; “The Polygamous S£¥”, the authors of those books challenge the narrative that men oppress women, and by detailed research across African, Western and Eastern both in ancient and modern societies, the authors unravel the hidden power of the ruthless matriarchal power that rules the world.
Also Helen E. Fisher did anthropological research of ancient human societies and wrote the book "The S.£¥ Contract, The evolution of human behaviour" 1982. She too came to the conclusion that Man is essentially controlled by woman.
prophet mohammed was a sick dog 1 month ago

Say no to islam and convert to a real religion.
Allah is satanic scum and qur'an is toilet paper. Search online for ways to move away from evil islam.........You can join ex-muslim groups online and be safe........ You ...
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Say no to islam and convert to a real religion.
Allah is satanic scum and qur'an is toilet paper. Search online for ways to move away from evil islam.........You can join ex-muslim groups online and be safe........ You are not alone. ............Burn the qur'an.
Kobina Boafo 1 month ago

Frankie, always on point. You deserve a Nobel prize for this observation.

Frankie, always on point. You deserve a Nobel prize for this observation.
Kabila 1 month ago

Frankie ! Please do one for your stone! Thumbs up

Frankie ! Please do one for your stone! Thumbs up
Well well well 1 month ago

A man was murdered in Benso for separating a fighting couple. Without knowing the facts I suspect the victim went and played macho and got what he deserved. Sometimes when a husband is fighting with his partner because of p ...
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A man was murdered in Benso for separating a fighting couple. Without knowing the facts I suspect the victim went and played macho and got what he deserved. Sometimes when a husband is fighting with his partner because of promiscuity some stupid thief like Otabil would go and support the woman. He would ask questions like if your wife is coming from a hotel with another man does it mean she was doing anything wrong.
Otabil should be jailed for this even if government refuses to jail him for bank robbery
Nii 1 month ago

I suspect the Japanese, Koreans,Italians and Spanish who enjoy and can maintain marriages for longer years are not part of this planet. Let us address the causes of the high divorce rates and stop apportioning blames. Marriag ...
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I suspect the Japanese, Koreans,Italians and Spanish who enjoy and can maintain marriages for longer years are not part of this planet. Let us address the causes of the high divorce rates and stop apportioning blames. Marriage among my folks at beaches always break down, bcoz of fight over food & sex, can we there4 attribute it to the fault of gender,
Kwaku Tee 1 month ago

@ FRANKIE
Per your points you've raised men are supposed to have better life when they divorce and are on their own (free from bondage).Unfortunately data available shows that life expectancy decreases and mortality rate i ...
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@ FRANKIE
Per your points you've raised men are supposed to have better life when they divorce and are on their own (free from bondage).Unfortunately data available shows that life expectancy decreases and mortality rate increases among men ,when they divorce or do not marry at all.Nature has good reasons why males and females demand for each other at certain ages of their life.The main principle to guide this relationship and maintain it is Fairness & Respect.
FRANKIE 1 month ago

@Kwaku Tee
I won't disagree with you if that is YOUR interpretation of what I wrote. It's less laborious that way.

@Kwaku Tee
I won't disagree with you if that is YOUR interpretation of what I wrote. It's less laborious that way.
Justice 1 month ago

Great! This is an eye opener for some men. Modern men must dance wisely to the tune of "modern music"

Great! This is an eye opener for some men. Modern men must dance wisely to the tune of "modern music"

Yawa 1 month ago

I think there are options available to both men and women. The decision to marry. Based on these assertions, the man can refuse to marry and that ends the 'slavery'

I think there are options available to both men and women. The decision to marry. Based on these assertions, the man can refuse to marry and that ends the 'slavery'
Dude 1 month ago

Your analysis is on point, I have never believed that women are appressed because I have seen how wise women operate, it is impossible for a man to oppress a wise woman, only the foolish ones get oppressed. They are however e ...
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Your analysis is on point, I have never believed that women are appressed because I have seen how wise women operate, it is impossible for a man to oppress a wise woman, only the foolish ones get oppressed. They are however each others enemies
ghana 1 month ago

this criminal should have been in jail for his role in collapse of capital bank . foolish man

this criminal should have been in jail for his role in collapse of capital bank . foolish man
Well well well 1 month ago

The real priest are not popular. Any priest who looks like a peacock us not real. He belongs to jail

The real priest are not popular. Any priest who looks like a peacock us not real. He belongs to jail
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LISTEN TO WORDS OF WISDOM -Kwabs 1 month ago

Don"t be stupid!! Listen to his words or wisdom.. .Many husbands in Africa are dictators and abusers of women.

Don"t be stupid!! Listen to his words or wisdom.. .Many husbands in Africa are dictators and abusers of women.
Joe 1 month ago

Where from your statistics sir? If women are allowed to have children with other men only for the few lucky ones to know when they want to file papers abroad for children to join, I will never open my mother to talk about men ...
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Where from your statistics sir? If women are allowed to have children with other men only for the few lucky ones to know when they want to file papers abroad for children to join, I will never open my mother to talk about men you deem abusive or controlling in marriages without knowing the root course.

I totally disagree with Osofo.
JB 1 month ago

Your belief unfortunately lacks a deeper understanding of the complexity of what it means to be human, be you a men or women. Humans generally have some strenghts but also weaknesses and these are not gendered at all. To ...
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Your belief unfortunately lacks a deeper understanding of the complexity of what it means to be human, be you a men or women. Humans generally have some strenghts but also weaknesses and these are not gendered at all. To generalize so simplistically is to mis what it means to a man or woman. We are both as biological beings ) male or female but we learn how to be man or husband, and woman and wife. How we are socialized into these roles are determined by several factors such as the culture, circumstances, and the socializers in the community and or family.
Yaw Wontumi 1 month ago

Thieves and criminals using the name of God to dupe people. Gbemelawo.

Thieves and criminals using the name of God to dupe people. Gbemelawo.
Bk man 1 month ago

This man should be in jail by now
Criminal!!!

This man should be in jail by now
Criminal!!!

Well well well 1 month ago

The AG for Addo and Mahama all allowed the demonic charm of otabil fool them . He stole state funds yet is walking around talking sht. Maybe he has abala

The AG for Addo and Mahama all allowed the demonic charm of otabil fool them . He stole state funds yet is walking around talking sht. Maybe he has abala
Kobina Boafo 1 month ago

This charlatan must keep quiet and learn from. His elders.

This charlatan must keep quiet and learn from. His elders.
Donatus 1 month ago

Word up! Pastor. I have always had the same opinion.

Word up! Pastor. I have always had the same opinion.
Kwame 1 month ago

That's your opinion, Where is that written in the Bible? That's why the women in ICGC are so disrespectful to their husbands because of this kind of teachings. They see their husbands as their coequal and fail to submit. What ...
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That's your opinion, Where is that written in the Bible? That's why the women in ICGC are so disrespectful to their husbands because of this kind of teachings. They see their husbands as their coequal and fail to submit. What's the divorce rate in ICGC alone?
Nate 1 month ago

When a task comes with status, pay, comfort, or visibility, equality language is used:
“Women can do anything men can do.”
When a task comes with risk, physical strain, blame, or no reward, traditional roles are invoked ...
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When a task comes with status, pay, comfort, or visibility, equality language is used:
“Women can do anything men can do.”
When a task comes with risk, physical strain, blame, or no reward, traditional roles are invoked:
“This is a man’s job.”
That pattern, if repeated and strategic, fits what social scientists would call role switching for advantage. Esther Vilar would absolutely label that manipulation. Many modern critics would call it opportunism, not manipulation in a moral sense. From AI
Osei Bonsu 1 month ago

This pastor always comes out with fake pronouncements. No, women sustain marriages. If a woman stops loving you the marriage is over. A man can stop loving a woman and still be in the marriage out of duty to the wife's family ...
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This pastor always comes out with fake pronouncements. No, women sustain marriages. If a woman stops loving you the marriage is over. A man can stop loving a woman and still be in the marriage out of duty to the wife's family and children.
Osei Bonsu 1 month ago

Pastor Mensa Otabil has stated that leaders are not chosen by God. Thus why does he want husbands to model their life like Jesus Christ? Is it becauae that will produce a couple who will be tied continously to the church?

Pastor Mensa Otabil has stated that leaders are not chosen by God. Thus why does he want husbands to model their life like Jesus Christ? Is it becauae that will produce a couple who will be tied continously to the church?
ghana 1 month ago

another stupid man

another stupid man
J 1 month ago

Why didn’t he sacrifice his selfish and corrupt interests for the customers of his bank. This is the same criminal who said the church was not a bank to give out loans to needy members. The stupid culture of making men the ...
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Why didn’t he sacrifice his selfish and corrupt interests for the customers of his bank. This is the same criminal who said the church was not a bank to give out loans to needy members. The stupid culture of making men the donkeys of society must stop, and this goes to Ghanaweb too. I strongly believe Ghanaweb is the mouthpiece of the devil, spreading divisive propaganda
Pluto 1 month ago

Board Chairman Capital Bank! Have you returned our money. This your article about men wont make sense to anybody apart from your church members .
Are you still watching animals on DSTV or Mahama is back so you are listening ...
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Board Chairman Capital Bank! Have you returned our money. This your article about men wont make sense to anybody apart from your church members .
Are you still watching animals on DSTV or Mahama is back so you are listening to politics again.

Mike 1 month ago

What he is saying should be understood in context that if a man automatically assumes a leadership role as a husband then he is in charge of all affairs in the family

What he is saying should be understood in context that if a man automatically assumes a leadership role as a husband then he is in charge of all affairs in the family
Coach 1 month ago

Pastor Otabil confuses cultural role assignment with causality. Marriages are complex systems; both parties drive outcomes. Over-indexing responsibility on men ignores female agency and mutual accountability.

Pastor Otabil confuses cultural role assignment with causality. Marriages are complex systems; both parties drive outcomes. Over-indexing responsibility on men ignores female agency and mutual accountability.
Mens 1 month ago

This one pastor you’ve got it wrong, you have never been with an ungrateful woman before.Who wants to eat her cake and have it,if by God’s grace and mercy you have got a good one thank him.Are you aware that it takes 2 to ...
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This one pastor you’ve got it wrong, you have never been with an ungrateful woman before.Who wants to eat her cake and have it,if by God’s grace and mercy you have got a good one thank him.Are you aware that it takes 2 to tango.
I bet you this statement you’ve made has hurt a lot of divorcees.Correct it next time please
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Black 1 month ago

Your stupidity is getting to a new level. You think all men have cheap money like you?
Ask how many women will live with a man who has lost his job?
When a man becomes poor, even if he playfully slap the bottom of his wife, ...
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Your stupidity is getting to a new level. You think all men have cheap money like you?
Ask how many women will live with a man who has lost his job?
When a man becomes poor, even if he playfully slap the bottom of his wife, the woman calls it abuse, but it is romantic if he has money.
You need a brain reset.
Kenneth 1 month ago

Nonsense!Absolute nonsense!For marriage to work it depends on both,not one.sexism at it best from you,otabil.

Nonsense!Absolute nonsense!For marriage to work it depends on both,not one.sexism at it best from you,otabil.
Choboman 1 month ago

Playing smart to attract more women to his church. Pls stop this and concentrate on preaching the bible

Playing smart to attract more women to his church. Pls stop this and concentrate on preaching the bible
ankoma 1 month ago

" By all means marry if you got a good wife you become happy , if you got a bad one you become a philosopher " by Socrates .

" By all means marry if you got a good wife you become happy , if you got a bad one you become a philosopher " by Socrates .
Mensa Otabil again ? 1 month ago

Masa, just back your thoughts with some research eerh , or u just want to want to talk k3k3 ? These days Myles Munroe is dead so u can't copy his messages again and preach to us word for word. Lol ! The Seven keys to succces ...
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Masa, just back your thoughts with some research eerh , or u just want to want to talk k3k3 ? These days Myles Munroe is dead so u can't copy his messages again and preach to us word for word. Lol ! The Seven keys to succcesss ! The 3 keys to this and that , all from Mykes Munroe and Otabil will copy word for word and preach to us say BAM ! Lol
Kwame 1 month ago

Shocking that this shallow view is coming from highly respected Otabil. Completely illogical

Shocking that this shallow view is coming from highly respected Otabil. Completely illogical
Okatakyie 1 month ago

Partly true. A marriage is the only team game with two people requiring a captain. A bossy captain ruins team spirit. In like measure, an insubordinate team player splits the team.

Partly true. A marriage is the only team game with two people requiring a captain. A bossy captain ruins team spirit. In like measure, an insubordinate team player splits the team.
Asumasi 1 month ago

Oversimplified and anti-Christian narrative, which encourages lack of accountability. The analogy of the Christ-Church and Husband - Wife is apt. Even with this relationship, we are accountable for our actions and are respons ...
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Oversimplified and anti-Christian narrative, which encourages lack of accountability. The analogy of the Christ-Church and Husband - Wife is apt. Even with this relationship, we are accountable for our actions and are responsible for how we respond to Christ's grace. Otabil seems to be absolving women of responsibility.

But this is like saying when a person does not go to heaven, its Christ's Church.

Otabil ignores the huge power of Human WILL, and pride, to a lesser extent, which even God cannot work around.
Nana K 1 month ago

Which Bible verse?

Which Bible verse?
Joe 1 month ago

Pastor I disagree with you a 100000x. In this world of materialistic women and mostly controlled by church marriages by people like yourself, encouraging wives to call you Papa, some of who are truly second "Papa" in the m ...
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Pastor I disagree with you a 100000x. In this world of materialistic women and mostly controlled by church marriages by people like yourself, encouraging wives to call you Papa, some of who are truly second "Papa" in the marriage.

Women push for marriage and decide to leave rather than men.
Angel Asiamah 1 month ago

My wife Agradaa and i Paid 100,000 cedis Bribe to the Judge to remove 14 years from my wife sentence. We Paid Bribe to the Judge and promised him a Car.

My wife Agradaa and i Paid 100,000 cedis Bribe to the Judge to remove 14 years from my wife sentence. We Paid Bribe to the Judge and promised him a Car.
Jim 1 month ago

Marriages break down for a variety of reasons and circumstances. I wonder why once in a while, Otabil comes out with such controversial "teachings" as he calls it. In any case, Otabil is wrong.

Marriages break down for a variety of reasons and circumstances. I wonder why once in a while, Otabil comes out with such controversial "teachings" as he calls it. In any case, Otabil is wrong.
OMUDU 1 month ago

There are who don't understand fully marriage is involved and will always be blaming men alone or wmen alone. People are not good in setling desputes in marriage.

There are who don't understand fully marriage is involved and will always be blaming men alone or wmen alone. People are not good in setling desputes in marriage.
Nad 1 month ago

When marital problems arise from spiritualism, it becomes a different story.

When marital problems arise from spiritualism, it becomes a different story.
Agbeli Kumordziì 1 month ago

The government of Ghana should investigate Otabil

The government of Ghana should investigate Otabil
Nana maametwe 1 month ago

A woman makes and unmakes marriages

A woman makes and unmakes marriages
JDM 1 month ago

another one!

another one!

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