Dear GhanaWeb: My new husband wants me to change my son’s surname to his

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David 1 week ago

In as much as I don't support entirely everything the new husband is doing, still keeping and thinking about your late husband is something no man would tolerate for such a long period. Memories are magical, I respect that, b ...
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In as much as I don't support entirely everything the new husband is doing, still keeping and thinking about your late husband is something no man would tolerate for such a long period. Memories are magical, I respect that, but you must learn to balance things and for him insisting you change your son's name, I don't buy to that idea.

These are conversations you both should have had long before settling down under one roof.

I wish both of you light and love. And may the best decision favour you both.
Dr Mumbi Seraki 1 week ago

Hello youth of Ghana. You can take your own life with medicine ........... For instance 15 paracetamol at once. Or combine medicine and akpeteshie or weedicide.

Hello youth of Ghana. You can take your own life with medicine ........... For instance 15 paracetamol at once. Or combine medicine and akpeteshie or weedicide.
May-Mist 1 week ago

You seem not to be ready for this marriage. Some men are extremely jealous. I do not think the surname of your son is really the issue here. The main problem here is that you owe so much allegiance and love to your ex husband ...
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You seem not to be ready for this marriage. Some men are extremely jealous. I do not think the surname of your son is really the issue here. The main problem here is that you owe so much allegiance and love to your ex husband at expense of your current husband and he has observed that. Your ex husband is dead and gone to heaven for God sake! Allow him to enjoy his stay in heaven. He has done what he could do for you on earth before going, leave him alone and concentrate on your current marriage. Give more love and attention to your current husband. You can pack the picture and other things of your ex husband and keep them out his sight and stop visiting cemetery. This does not mean that your ex husband is out of your memory.
In my case, I loved my mother so much before she passed on in 2021 and I still love her, but since she died and was buried, I have never visited her grave to do anything, that does not mean She is out of my memory. Please give respect to your husband and enjoy a peaceful marriage. If I were you, I will apologise to him for all this drama. If possible let a respectable person help you to resolve issues with him to allow your son stay with you and never change his surname. Train your son to take him as his father and respect him as such.
Good luck as you resolve issues to enjoy your peaceful marriage.
Accranie 1 week ago

This Article Has A Place/ In The Uncover Gh Magazine

This Article Has A Place/ In The Uncover Gh Magazine
Odikro 1 week ago

The man probably just want to have a single family. He wants your son to charge his surname so that he (your current husband) can deem both children as his own. I believe he wants to extend the same care and parental responsi ...
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The man probably just want to have a single family. He wants your son to charge his surname so that he (your current husband) can deem both children as his own. I believe he wants to extend the same care and parental responsibilities to both children equally.
Just ask your current husband (perhaps backed by a witness or family member) to promise to treat your son and he would treat his child , in equal measure.

Your dead husband is now living in the Spirit World. You should let go of him, unless perhaps you are prepared to join him.

May God direct your decisions.
Truth Table 1 week ago

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.. .
.. .... John 3:16 . .

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.. .
.. .... John 3:16 . .
eric 1 week ago

IF HE KEEP ON FOOLING DIVORCE HIM, NEVER CHANGE THE NAME OF THE CHILD, NEVER DO THAT FOR HIM, HE IS A FOOL, BUT U TOO ALWAYS GOING TO UR HUSBAND GRAVE IS VERY BAD THINGS, STOP DOING THAT, HE IS GONE AND THERE IS NOTHING THAT ...
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IF HE KEEP ON FOOLING DIVORCE HIM, NEVER CHANGE THE NAME OF THE CHILD, NEVER DO THAT FOR HIM, HE IS A FOOL, BUT U TOO ALWAYS GOING TO UR HUSBAND GRAVE IS VERY BAD THINGS, STOP DOING THAT, HE IS GONE AND THERE IS NOTHING THAT U CAN DO ABOUT IT.
VINCENT 1 week ago

Stand firmed, Don,t change your son,s name to his.
Discuss your reasons thoroughly with him ,if he is unyielding, then report him to his.pastor.Don,t also send your son to your ex.family ,toil to.raise him.

Stand firmed, Don,t change your son,s name to his.
Discuss your reasons thoroughly with him ,if he is unyielding, then report him to his.pastor.Don,t also send your son to your ex.family ,toil to.raise him.
Willichie 1 week ago

Stop going to your former husband s grave, talk to your former husband's family to care for the child because it's their property and when they refused, your new husband can change the name and take care of him or her.
How c ...
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Stop going to your former husband s grave, talk to your former husband's family to care for the child because it's their property and when they refused, your new husband can change the name and take care of him or her.
How can you serve two husband?
Eric Akonor 1 week ago

Please don’t be confused, you are very right, your new is insensitive and insecure.
Before you throw this marriage away, seek counseling from experienced marriage counselor and family members.
Do not change your son’s n ...
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Please don’t be confused, you are very right, your new is insensitive and insecure.
Before you throw this marriage away, seek counseling from experienced marriage counselor and family members.
Do not change your son’s name, if your new husband refuses, let him go.
But do pray and attend church.
God will fight for you.

A bottle of Banku 1 week ago

Baby girl, please you are making your man feel less of a husband. Limit somethings. Why not save those pictures in a private email instead? Please stop over doing things wai.

Baby girl, please you are making your man feel less of a husband. Limit somethings. Why not save those pictures in a private email instead? Please stop over doing things wai.
Abaqua 1 week ago

Write your comment; No man can ask a woman to change name as u said. did u had issue with de 2nd man, nd money makes u give de child to de 1st man.

Write your comment; No man can ask a woman to change name as u said. did u had issue with de 2nd man, nd money makes u give de child to de 1st man.
she is a spy 1 week ago

let him go he has come to destroy you and your child.

let him go he has come to destroy you and your child.
Dan 1 week ago

Do not change ur son's name and never send him away, he is extremely jealous and against a dead person is something tht surprises. Whatever u do against ur late husband , u can do same against him, so think

Do not change ur son's name and never send him away, he is extremely jealous and against a dead person is something tht surprises. Whatever u do against ur late husband , u can do same against him, so think
Ananse 6 days ago

This the same the same foolishness my step father had wanted to do by changing my surname though my dad was alive
Just cos my mum was the one taking care of me
He even refused to let to relocate to my mum in Germany
Such i ...
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This the same the same foolishness my step father had wanted to do by changing my surname though my dad was alive
Just cos my mum was the one taking care of me
He even refused to let to relocate to my mum in Germany
Such is weakness n l really hate
Kouami 4 days ago

The memories of a father is essential to a child's life. Let me state that if the father is patrilineal, the the extended family should be consulted if the name needs to be changed. If it threatens your marriage then add your ...
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The memories of a father is essential to a child's life. Let me state that if the father is patrilineal, the the extended family should be consulted if the name needs to be changed. If it threatens your marriage then add your current husband's name to make you son's name a compound name. E.g Kofi Osei-Boateng. That way you all win. Wait ooooo... so will he allow his child's surname to be changed when he is no more?

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